Can First Impressions Be Deceiving?
Posted by: DivineCaroline.com
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2:00PM, Saturday October 17th 2009
According to one of my former boyfriends, he absolutely hated me when first we met. I have to say the feeling was mutual. I had just gotten off a red-eye from New York to London and was tired, cranky, and hadn’t showered. No wonder he didn’t love me right off the bat.
After we got to know each other, however, we embarked on a yearlong, extremely satisfying relationship of mutual respect and appreciation, proving that first impressions don’t always last. Read more ...
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bogart4017
wrote on October 19 2009 @ 08:43 am: [report]
Missy and i disliked each other also when we first met. I told her 9 months after that she wouldnt be able to resist my charms after one hour with me. Can you believe she called me an arrogant bastard? After 22 years of marriage she still hates to spend a night without me unless shes guaranteed a winning streak at Trump Plaza.
BlueVibe
wrote on October 19 2009 @ 08:47 am: [report]
Duh, of course they can. Snap judgments are frequently wrong.
SCRMOM
wrote on October 19 2009 @ 09:15 am: [report]
I thought my husband was pretty lame when I first met him because he was so shy and quiet.
risatrix
wrote on October 20 2009 @ 07:35 am: [report]
I think it goes both ways. As Malcolm Gladwell suggests in “Blink”, first impressions are often subconsciously biased but powerful enough to influence major decisions, so we should be very cautious about trusting them. But in “The Gift of Fear” Gavin de Becker suggest that what we call “intuition” (also subconscious reaction to our surroundings) is something we should trust, because it’s there for the benefit of our survival.
I think it’s generally good to keep an open mind. But I do trust my intuition, especially if I’m getting a really bad vibe—not just that I don’t like someone, but that they’re untrustworthy, for instance.
ootie grl
wrote on October 22 2009 @ 07:04 am: [report]
The first impression doesnt always reveal what some ones really like.