Break Up, Already!
Posted by: First30Days.com
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relationships
11:30AM, Wednesday December 3rd 2008
We’re just going to come right out and say it: staying in a bad relationship just because you a) don’t want to be alone for the holidays or b) don’t want to be the bad guy/gal who dumped someone during the most wonderful time of the year is a waste. Why wait until after the new year (or worse yet, after Valentine’s Day) to make a change and move forward? It’s not going to be easy, but isn’t it better to be free than to be dreading an impending breakup for the next couple of weeks or months?
Here are our top 5 highly unscientific reasons you should break up before January 1st:
1. No gifts to buy.
Did you think that maybe the reason you’re having such a hard time shopping is that your heart just isn’t in it? Rather than give a token gift (or worse, a last minute drugstore buy with no thought in it at all), cut ties and save that cash for someone you really love, like a family member, roommate or yourself.
2. You can skip the trip to his parent’s place.
Let’s face it, there’s always some kind of family drama involved in the holiday, and it’s usually because you’re struggling to maintain your cool in the face of endless questions from your partner’s loved ones about your career, living situation or having kids. Free yourself from the burden of traveling to where you don’t want to be anyway.
3. You’ll lose the nagging guilt.
It can’t be fun, fa-la-la-ing all over town on the outside and coming home in turmoil over the fact that you’re no longer in love with this person. You’re not doing yourself or your partner any favors by staying together. Give yourselves the chance to salvage the holidays separately, rather than stay together and be miserable.
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Humble Bee
wrote on December 3 2008 @ 03:33 pm: [report]
Im in that situation right now. Its so hard, they guy is so nice and I just don’t want to be them mean evil person who breaks it off. I tried to do it before my b-day in november, but why don’t they just get it???!? I told him I wasn’t happy and just needed time for me, but he just kept insisting and showing up everywhere. I really want to be single, not so I can be with anyone else, just so I can be there for me, I’m just tired of relationships.
Rachel Kramer Bussel
wrote on December 3 2008 @ 03:40 pm: [report]
The holidays are a tough time, certainly, but I don’t know about so cavalierly recommending people split up. If the time is right for the relationship to be over and you’re sure, yes, but you don’t want to be hasty. And by “you,” I mean, um, me.
MaggieT
wrote on December 4 2008 @ 08:02 am: [report]
I agree, people stay together for various reasons - often the wrong ones - but how about it if one of the partners are sort of mentally coerced? This was the case with Storm, who was guilted into believing that she had hurt Trevor so much already, that to break up with him would be downright wrong. He even had her believe his bad behavior was her fault. Not a nice relationship to be in!
dirtyboots
wrote on December 4 2008 @ 08:36 am: [report]
My boyfriend and I broke up right before Christmas last year, we had been dating for three years. For me in a way it helped to have all the distraction of the holidays going on, and my parents and sister were really supportive and it helped me get over the roughest part of the breakup.