Dating Drama: What’s The Best Time For Sexytime?
Posted by: Rachel Kramer Bussel
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12:30PM, Tuesday January 20th 2009
Wake me up at the crack of dawn looking for sex, and I’m likely to ignore you, or yell at you—and not in a dominatrix type of way. To put it mildly, I’m not a morning person—or, rather, I’m up for “morning sex,” if 11:59 a.m. counts as “morning.” But others have different ideas on the matter, so I asked my friends what time of the day equals sexytime for them.
Photographer The Lovely Brenda says she’ll do it anytime, but the morning is her favorite: “I love to wake up next to Aaron and his raging c***, as the warm sunlight pours through the wooden blinds. To climb on top, feel him between my legs, and stick my nose between his beard, ear, and pillow, so that I can smell and hear him in my left ear drives me wild. It leaves me with thoughts that I can jerk off to for the rest of the day when I’m alone at home, working at my computer while he’s away.”
Searah Deysach, owner of Chicago sex toy store Early to Bed, prefers the middle of the day. “Sex in the late afternoon is always my first choice. In the morning I just need to get out of the house as soon as possible and at night I’m often too tired. In the afternoon you don’t have to worry about waking the neighbors, and you don’t have to turn on any lights but can still see all you need and want to. Plus, I always get a burst of energy after, so it’s good to have time to make use of that.”
Graphic designer Sinclair likes to get it on at night. “Getting off is such a nightcap for me, for some reason. Something about the ritual of getting undressed and getting in bed anyway makes it a perfect excuse. And I sleep better after an orgasm or two.”
In Alison Tyler’s erotica anthology Afternoon Delight, each story focuses on a specific time of day when characters get busy, making for round the clock screwing. Taylor says that “every hour is worth trying,” but afternoons are her favorite time for f***ing. “They revamp my whole attitude for the day. I’m also partial to #&@$% right before we go out so that we have a little bit of a secret nobody else knows. That is, until we tell them what put the flush on my cheeks and the spark in Sam’s eyes.”
I don’t have a preference for morning, afternoon, or night sex. In recent years, it’s been about taking what I can get, rather than being picky about when it happens. Sex before work can feel rushed. Afternoons are out for me—unless you count text flirting and dropping naughty hints via email. But on weekends I like lounging in bed for as long as possible. Some weekday nights I’ll get a second wind—if there’s a good enough reason.
More often than not, the best sex isn’t planned—it’s spontaneous. When do you think is the best time for sexytime?
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CheeeeEEEEse
wrote on January 20 2009 @ 02:18 pm: [report]
Wow, what an opinion piece. What she says is the best time for HER to have sex is in the afternoon. What she means is make up your own mind about it.
Go-To Girl
wrote on January 21 2009 @ 08:14 am: [report]
afternoon is definitely my favorite time. i love the way the light looks as the sun goes down, i haven’t eaten dinner yet, and i won’t get tired. better than a cup of coffee at the end of the workday.
Chelle
wrote on January 21 2009 @ 06:42 pm: [report]
I like late morning to early afternoon. That’s when we usually first wake up (we work night shifts). He gets the whole “morning wood” thing and it’s always spontaneous. We don’t usually plan sex at all. At night we’re too tired and in the morning we’re asleep.
Fyndy
wrote on January 22 2009 @ 12:29 pm: [report]
Haha, I’m so not a morning person either!
I prefer it before bed and after our shower….we’re both clean and wonderful smelling. We don’t plan it that way…just being in the shower together is a turn on so that we’re raring to go afterwards. Sexy times!
d8ergirl
wrote on January 22 2009 @ 03:25 pm: [report]
I love middle of the night. Being woken up for some sexy time and then being able to fall back asleep in each others arms is the best. There’s no rush to get up for work, and you aren’t tired from a stressful day. It’s perfect!
benglish320
wrote on January 22 2009 @ 06:13 pm: [report]
I’ve had girlfriends at all points in the spectrum. My current girlfriend is really into getting down in the morning. She says it’s better than coffee for getting up, and that I’m her “manspresso”. It never fails to make me laugh when I hear her say that. Me personally, I’ve gotta go with the current girlfriend, I like it in the morning.
MzHartz
wrote on January 23 2009 @ 08:48 pm: [report]
My favorite time is late Sunday mornings. We’ve slept in, we’re both awake but don’t feel like getting out of bed yet, and the room is lit by the sunlight that can get past the curtains. Even better when the window is open and there’s a nice warm breeze to dry off our skin afterwards.
I definitely agree that right before going out for a night on the town is a good time too. We’ll be glowing all night!
CuteCora
wrote on February 12 2009 @ 07:44 am: [report]
I love the afternoon nookie! Morning time I must wake & Get ready for work, evening time I must come home make & eat dinner, get things ready for the next day, have so much to do , so in the middle of the afternoon that 3 o’clock hump ( haha) what better time to have sexy time~ You get and fell energized and than all the things that are left over that you must do dont seem as bad, and then you have the wrest of the evening to just RELAX… with a big smile on your face..LOL
Fast Eddie
wrote on February 12 2009 @ 08:20 am: [report]
When I was younger right after getting home from work was the best time. Still energized from the challenges of the day and time spent in traffic to think about what might happen when arriving at home.
Now that I’ve matured, in fact retired, we get in the hot tub about 8:00, she likes to sleep in, the water loosens up tight muscles and relaxes the soul. A cup of coffee and a roll to raise our blood sugar. Then we’re both fully awake and aroused. Our bodies are feeling up to physical antics and our minds aren’t cluttered. Just two people in love…deeply in love and lust;-}