Bartering For Sex: The Oldest Trade In The History Of The Universe
Posted by: Amelia McDonell-Parry
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12:30PM, Tuesday August 26th 2008
CNN has a story up today about people who trade sex for gifts or favors, from a woman who had sex with a guy for two weeks in exchange for a jungle tour in Brazil, to husbands who vow to be handy around the house in exchange for morning nookie. You know what I say to this story? Duh, obviously, and don’t we all? The essence of dating is exchanging sex for dinners, date activities, and expensive wine. Being in a relationship is all about trading a blow job despite “I’m not in the mood honey” because honey cooked an amazing dinner. The trade may not be spoken or out in the open, but it’s there, in your head. And who cares? Dating and relationships are about compromise and reaching a point that is mutually beneficial. The girl in the story may have slept with a guy she didn’t find that attractive because he was being nice enough to give her a jungle tour and so what? She appreciated the gesture, they had fun and for all the guy knows, she was in the sack with him because she was hot for him.
I had a friend who went out on a date with a guy who took her to Blimpies (a poor man’s Subway) for dinner. There was no way he was getting anything from her afterwards—no kiss and certainly no humpage. Had he taken her to a fancy pants French place with linens and real silverware? He probably would have gotten to first base, at least, for dessert. It’s called wooing and both sides are aware of what’s being traded. Now having sex with someone who you really would rather not be humping and you’re only doing out of desperation—like you HAVE to have that Louis Vuitton bag—well, that’s just gross. Or really insanely shallow.
On the home front, what’s wrong with sex being a bit of a reward? If I came home and the man friend (hint, hint) had cleaned the house from top to bottom, homeboy would be getting some lovin’ whether I had a migraine or not. With that in mind, here are some sex for trade deals I would totally make:
1. Scrubbed and sparkling bathroom
2. Beef carpaccio
3. 30 minute back rub
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Annika Harris
wrote on August 26 2008 @ 12:54 pm: [report]
Where exactly does one find a Blimpies in this day and age?
I agree that relationships are about give and take. And yes sometimes that give is sex as reward.
anon
wrote on August 26 2008 @ 01:56 pm: [report]
Darwin is a smart man. It’s primarily about survival. Genes will make us want it even to destroy political lives, etc.
UPPER DECK
wrote on September 1 2008 @ 03:55 am: [report]
Amelia…YOU ARE LYING. You would’nt do your live-in because he cooked,cleaned & massaged you.You’d sneer in contempt of his pussified ass…and then find more crap for him to do.It is because he was a jerk who WOULD’NT do that stuff when you met him that turned you on.Even if you did bother to do him-now that you’ve trained him to be domestic…it would still be “duty sex” in your mind.It’s one of the reasons I can’t/won’t live with some bitch.I want the kinda’ sex that a woman gives a total jerk.That’s the good stuf anyway.I accept your apology for such a fabricated post.
piper1233
wrote on March 10 2009 @ 04:40 pm: [report]
A wife or girlfriend who believe that sex is some sort of reward for her partner is in my opinion selfish and/or manipulative. A man or woman should give their love, both physical and emotional to a partner because of mutual enjoyment and because they care about their mates’ needs. I can understand defering from sex because of physical or emotional pain, but the I’m not in the mood reason or the you dont deserve it reason is taking the stance of: This is a power that I hold over you. Withholding sex is one of the top reason that relationships fail. The person being denied is more turned off by the rejection and lack of contact than they are by the lack of orgasm. Lets face it, its not hard for anyone to find a sexual partner these days. So the next time you Women or Men decide to use sex as a reward or punishment be aware that your partner might react silently but extremely.