Are You Hot For Mr. Moms?
Posted by: Wendy Atterberry
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guys
11:30AM, Tuesday August 4th 2009
What attracts you to a man the most — a sense of humor, a great smile, a hot bod, keen intelligence? Apparently, a lot of women get weak in the knees for men who do housework. A recent study from Oxford University examined “marriage and cohabitation rates” across 13 countries and “compared them to attitudes towards the roles of men and women at home.” After questioning “13,500 men and women aged between 20 and 45 from each country about gender, housework and childcare responsibilities,” researchers discovered that women are hottest for men “they believe they will help out with household chores and make an equal contribution towards childcare.” In countries where men are less likely to pull their weight at home, women are between 20-50% less likely to shack up with them. Dr Almudena Seville-Sanz, of the university’s Centre for Time Use Research, said: This study shows that in egalitarian countries there is less social stigma attached to men doing what was traditionally women’s work.’” After the jump see how the 13 countries included in the study rank on the “egalitarian index.”
The full list of countries’ rankings on the egalitarian index is as follows:
- Sweden
- Norway
- Great Britain
- United States
- Northern Ireland
- Netherlands
- Republic of Ireland
- Spain
- New Zealand
- Japan
- Germany
- Austria
- Australia*
*The study suggests that Australian men are more interested in “beer, sports, and the great outdoors” than helping out around the house. But seriously, who can resist that sexy accent?? [Telegraph]
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lilrockgoddess4u
wrote on August 4 2009 @ 11:11 am: [report]
Watching my BF do the dishes makes me HOT.
Shasta
wrote on August 4 2009 @ 12:08 pm: [report]
OK. I’m prepared to be flamed for the below comment but it is how I feel.
How about he makes enough cash so we can hire someone to scrub the toilets so neither of us has to do it.
GreenAura
wrote on August 4 2009 @ 12:15 pm: [report]
@ Shasta: If you feel that you should hire someone to do household chores, thats fine! But maybe you should help your man make enough cash so that the responsibility isn’t completely on him. Seems fair, right?
powplz
wrote on August 4 2009 @ 12:26 pm: [report]
@Shasta - I’m with GreenAura - hiring a maid can be a very nice feeling, especially if you don’t like to clean (a whole house cleaning by a maid service was my present to my bf for his most recent bday).
But saying that a man needs to make money for you to spend, regardless of what you’re buying? Well the notion that *he* has to make money to afford a lifestyle *you* prefer has been beaten to death more than a few times on this site. Not sure if that’s what you were going for or not though *shrug*
sparklestar
wrote on August 4 2009 @ 01:27 pm: [report]
Me and my boyfriend share the chores! I absolutely love watching him do the vacuuming though.
Coral
wrote on August 4 2009 @ 01:29 pm: [report]
My family has always had a maid service that comes in once a week for an hour or two for some light cleaning. However, the rest of the time, everyone else in my family helps out, including my dad and my brother. And my brother’s girlfriend loves it that he’s so willing to clean because he was raised to always help out. I don’t think anyone should hire maids to do everything. People need to be neat and clean and they should know how to clean their own house themselves.
writergirl
wrote on August 4 2009 @ 02:45 pm: [report]
I should send this article to my husband. He’d get more if he’d learn where the dishwasher and hamper were. He doesn’t even have to haul out the Dyson….
retro chic
wrote on August 4 2009 @ 03:53 pm: [report]
My recent ex is Mr Mom. I love his attention to laundry, a total turn-on. His whites must be white – his colors bright. Neat, sniffy folded stacks in the drawers. He hand-washes the dishes instead of using the DW, chef extraordinaire – raw and unaproned. Fresh sheets at least every other day. Respectful of his and my parental duties. *I* would have “gotten more” if I let him do all the running of the household. Too bad he changed too many sheets. He still tries to change mine from time to time.
erikasf
wrote on August 4 2009 @ 08:01 pm: [report]
Of course men who do chores are hot. When he helps, chores are done quicker and there is more time for sex. Duh.
EarthGoddess
wrote on August 4 2009 @ 09:08 pm: [report]
They don’t call it “choreplay” for nothing! I’m convinced the sexiest thing a man can do for a woman is the dishes.
Trixie Firecracker
wrote on August 4 2009 @ 09:11 pm: [report]
Does the United States seriously rank that high? I thought Finland and Denmark (after Sweden and Norway) would rank higher! Oh Finns and Danes…where are you?
Shasta
wrote on August 4 2009 @ 09:25 pm: [report]
I wasn’t very articulate in my post. I’m neither married nor do I live with a guy so my opinion may not be very informed. I do want a nice clean house. Both mine and his.
Having said that,I don’t find “choreplay” sexy and it seems so boring and suburban when this is the thing women find sexy.
I suppose it goes to my preface, which is that I am neither married nor live with a man.
I can load the dishwasher. It isn’t that difficult.
majicksand
wrote on August 5 2009 @ 08:26 am: [report]
@Shasta: I think what you’re missing is the reality that in many homes where both partners work full-time, the woman comes home to cooking, cleaning, laundry, bathing children, etc. while the man comes home to a hot meal, a tidy house, fresh sheets, clean children and tv. It’s not that vaccuuming is sexy per se. The sexy part is having a partner who respects you enough to share the mundane chores that have to get done instead of leaving you to do them by yourself.
Not that my husband will ever read this, but for the record, I am spoiled. I know it; I like it; I appreciate it.
BlueVibe
wrote on August 5 2009 @ 09:27 am: [report]
Okay, I wouldn’t call chores sexy, necessarily, but how can you not like a guy that helps out with the most boring parts of domestic life?
Besides, the faster the dull stuff gets done, the more time you have for, um, the fun stuff.
powplz
wrote on August 5 2009 @ 09:28 am: [report]
@Shasta - yeah, it’s not that the mundane becomes sexy because you’ve domesticated yourself that much, but that you can attribute one less thing to your own to-do list at home because of your guy (for me at least), and it can feel a little like being pampered. I came home the other day tired and completely unmotivated to get off the couch, let alone cook (something I actually really enjoy most days).
I sat there looking towards the kitchen all “woe is me, where’s the number for the pizza place” when I noticed the crockpot was plugged in. I walked over to find that he had dinner ready to go in it, and the very first thing to cross my mind was “I love this man,” even though I was actually a kind of mad at him for most of the day. It just made my life THAT much better, even if just for part of that day. He also cleans way more than I do, and, say, crawling into a freshly made bed with clean sheets when I’m not expecting it (I don’t make the bed, hah!) ... it’s just a nice feeling.
bogart4017
wrote on August 5 2009 @ 11:56 am: [report]
I don’t get it—-i’ve done all these things from the beginning of the relationship (laundry,dishes,vacuum,dust,mop,sweep,cook) but i never noticed an uptick in my sex life.
writergirl
wrote on August 5 2009 @ 12:00 pm: [report]
@bogart—that’s because you’ve ALWAYS done it. Slack off for a few weeks and watch what happens.
catscratchfever
wrote on August 6 2009 @ 01:47 pm: [report]
I loooove when I come home from work and my boyfriend has cleaned, cooked, made the bed, etc. I am less stressed, and therefore I have the appetite and energy to jump him. Wh wouldn’t appreciate that?
reniena
wrote on August 6 2009 @ 09:52 pm: [report]
I work full-time and my husband is a stay-at-home dad. He is the sexiest man alive! He does 90% of the housework (including the cooking). We have 3 toddlers and one school age child and he is the most amazing man. He is unable to work for now and the near future but I am happy with the way things are now. I came home today and he was shirtless, excuse me as I drool
, with supper ready, a clean house, and a smile. Whoever says that’s not sexy is seriously missing out! (Have I mentioned how incredibly good looking he is?) I’m the luckiest woman in the world.
lawyrgrl
wrote on August 8 2009 @ 12:39 am: [report]
I’d be happy if he just didn’t ADD to the mess. I have informed him several times that the little box-like thing in the corner is called a “trash can” and that is where popsicle sticks/receipts/andy wrappers go! Somehow he just “forgets” and a pile of litter begins to build throughout the house. We both work and we have a cleaning service come in every 2 weeks but in the meantime it can get pretty gnarly. I’ll be damned if I am going to run around after him but I don’t want to nag either. Grrrr…....
majicksand
wrote on August 8 2009 @ 02:53 pm: [report]
@lawyrgrl: Collect the random crap he leaves laying around and put them in his favorite chair. Don’t say anything at all. If he’s smart, he’ll get the point. If he wants to make an issue of it, politely explain to him that you were just trying to be helpful. Since he did not put/throw those things away, he obviously was not finished with them. While you were organizing your own belongings you decided to be nice and make sure his were conveniently located.
writergirl
wrote on August 8 2009 @ 02:59 pm: [report]
@majicksand—that’s a good one. I’m going to try it.
lawyrgrl
wrote on August 8 2009 @ 03:28 pm: [report]
@majiksand: Freakin’ brilliant - I love it!!!
_jsw_
wrote on August 8 2009 @ 04:35 pm: [report]
As a guy, I’d say that all that putting everything on his favorite chair will do is let him realize that, instead of picking up his stuff everywhere, the magic cleaning fairy will put it all in one place, where it’s much easier to gather it up and toss it or put it away. Basically, you’re doing 90% of the work for him.
If you’re going to follow that approach, I’d at least put it on his side of the bed, possibly under the covers. That way, it’s less convenient and makes more of a point.
Still, the best approach might be what works for my kids: no treats (where “treats” for him would likely be defined differently) as long as there’s mess around. I’m pretty lenient about what “mess” is, but I do have my limits.
writergirl
wrote on August 8 2009 @ 05:40 pm: [report]
@jsw—You KNOW about the magic cleaning fairy???
Wow….ten points for you.
majicksand
wrote on August 10 2009 @ 05:00 pm: [report]
@jsw: I don’t know. Embarrassment usually seems to work pretty well. He knows HE didn’t put all that crap in his favorite place to sit. It doesn’t have to be a favorite chair, necessarily, just somewhere that is regarded as “his” domain. Specifically somewhere that only inconveniences him—that leaves my bed out. The last thing I want is a bunch of popsicle sticks or whatever in my bed. Ewww!
Besides, cutting him off ruins my day too. lol
rockpyle
wrote on August 17 2009 @ 05:06 am: [report]
Wow, women are hottest for men who share in household chores and child bearing responsibilities. That’s news to me! Where can I find such women?!?!? I cook, I clean, I’m an involved father, I’m good looking, I’m athletic, I’m smart, I’m responsible, I have a good job, I’m good in the bedroom, and my wife still wants to divorce me because I’m not romantic enough!
These kind of articles make me laugh and get me frustrated all at the same time. Studies show that women are hot for Mr. Mom until they land one and then they REALLY prefer the “bad boy”. They cheat on Mr. Mom because they have found out that married life can be too consistent and want someone that provides more excitement. Then, they leave their husbands or significant others for the “bad boy” and finds out he’s not all that he’s cracked up to be and wants some other type of man, like the “artist” or some nonsense like that.
majicksand
wrote on August 17 2009 @ 07:34 am: [report]
@rockpyle: Not all of us are still looking for the “bad boy”. I promise there are lots of women out there who can appreciate the qualities you describe. I’m sorry you’re going through a tough time, but rest assured, there is still hope for better.