Are You A “Stiletto Stoner”?
Posted by: Ami Angelowicz
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8:00AM, Monday October 5th 2009
Why does it seem like the older I get the more hectic and crazy my life becomes? Back in college, things were so simple. Wake up early-ish, go to class, come back to the dorm, and have a few bongs and burritos with friends to unwind. On the days I went to work, I never felt spent because I didn’t really have that much responsibility. And when I returned back to my dorm ... yep ... more bongs and burritos. Oh, how things have changed. I don’t know about you, but by the end of a long work day, I am so drained and stressed, I’m looking for just about any excuse I can think of to kick off my high heels. (OK, I don’t usually wear high heels but go with me here.) That usually includes some version of going out with my friends, gorging on some good food, and, most importantly, throwing back copious glasses of red wine. I must admit my routine of nightly hedonism is starting to take its toll, both on my beauty sleep and my wallet. Let’s face it; I just don’t bounce back from a night of drinking the way I did when I was 21. Maybe it’s time to go green in the stress relief department. Maybe it’s time for me to become a “Stiletto Stoner,” only without the stilettos.
According to the new issue of Marie Claire, a “Stiletto Stoner” is a smart, successful, educated woman who relaxes and unwinds with her good friend Mary Jane after a grueling day of work. And it may just be a growing trend among young women, according to a new study by The Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration. Statistics say that at least eight million American women have smoked marijuana in the past year. Irie mon! Still “Stiletto Stoners” don’t consider themselves pot heads, rather they think of their wacky-tabaccy joint as the equivalent of a glass of wine, only without all the extra calories or the hangover. Debbie Schwartz, a 28-year-old girl interviewed in the article says, “I love to have a glass of wine now and again, but going out and downing sugary cocktails isn’t fun for me. And drinking is so much more expensive….I’ll go to the gym for an hour, then come back home and smoke a joint while I listen to jazz and read a book—I just finished The Fountainhead. It’s my moment for myself before I have to get up and do it all over again tomorrow. It’s my bubble bath.” OK, this is starting to sound like my kind of an evening. [Huffington Post]
So what do you think? Are you a “Stiletto Stoner”? If so, tell us why it works for you in the comments.
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I Go To 11
wrote on October 5 2009 @ 07:11 am: [report]
Nope, not for me. I’ve never smoked pot; it’s never interested me. I’ll take a glass of pinot noir instead, thanks.
Typewriter
wrote on October 5 2009 @ 07:12 am: [report]
This has my name written all over it. I’ve never been a big drinker, but I really like mellowing out with a little joint on the weekends, especially when I’m with my boyfriend. Sometimes we’ll cook or read or watch a movie, but mostly we just sit and talk… And make out… because that’s awesome when you’re high. Just sayin’.
intuition
wrote on October 5 2009 @ 07:19 am: [report]
Reading this article made me reminisce about my laid back college days. Unfortunately, in my field of work, having any traces of drug use can cause a problem. Everyone has their vices and methods of relaxation. Pick and choose wisely.
A “stiletto stoner”, the cheap and calorie-free way to unwind. I like it.
tigerstripe
wrote on October 5 2009 @ 07:19 am: [report]
I’ve never tried pot, even though I’d like to. My bf is afraid that I’ll turn into a stereotypical stoner who never goes anywhere or does anything interesting, so I’ve promised him that I wouldn’t do it.
Riley
wrote on October 5 2009 @ 07:30 am: [report]
It is less damaging to your body and you are limited to what you can do after having a few beers/cocktails as opposed to a bowl.
Although, in Elementary school D.A.R.E. taught me that marijuana is a gateway drug and I’d be doing crack cocaine in no time. So there’s that.
raqueleza
wrote on October 5 2009 @ 07:35 am: [report]
Yeah, calorie-free until you realize you’ve downed a pack of oreos and half a jar of peanut butter during a sick munchies attack.
Smoking a little weed is definitely a way to unwind in my demographic, at least around here, and so are prescription drugs. But “Stiletto Stoner?” Stupidest euphemism/label/whatevs ever.
megly
wrote on October 5 2009 @ 07:55 am: [report]
Yep, this sounds a lot like what I do everyday after work:) Also, if you have self control, the munchies are not a problem.
PinkRanger
wrote on October 5 2009 @ 08:39 am: [report]
Is this news? Honestly, I thought it was common knowledge that a handful from every demographic smoked weed nowadays. I have a “friend” who is exceedingly condescending when it comes to smoking pot, but she pops pills all day.
HippieFashionista
wrote on October 5 2009 @ 08:47 am: [report]
“Stiletto Stoner” is THEE most brilliant term I’ve ever heard. I’ve always wanted to find a term less harsh and loser-y than “pothead”. I’ve smoked the green everyday for 3 years, all the while, managing to kick ass in college with a full scholarship (I just graduated by the way), have an amazing relationship with my family, friends & amazing boyfriend. I’m one of the smartest cookies I know and I WILL, along with my so-smart-it’s-disgusting “stoner” law school student older brother, change these ridiculous marijuana laws. Legalize! Now who wants to burn one with me then go shopping? ha!
brandyalexander
wrote on October 5 2009 @ 08:56 am: [report]
Oh, tigerstripe. You’re boyfriend sounds like a downer.
lexi
wrote on October 5 2009 @ 10:53 am: [report]
This is me on probably 3 of my 5 work days. I come home and just want to relax a little. I’m allergic to alcohol so I can’t drink to unwind so this is the alternative.
GreenAura
wrote on October 5 2009 @ 11:06 am: [report]
Perfect way to unwind. But I usually like to get everything done that I need to beforehand, because once I spark it, I either get too lazy to do anything or I simply forget (ha!).
bumbler
wrote on October 5 2009 @ 11:12 am: [report]
I like a glass of wine to unwind after a long day or sometimes a Yuengling. Pot makes me the opposite of mellow, jerky and nervous.
I’m surprised that anyone is shocked by this news. I know several young professional women who enjoy unwinding with a joint after work or on the weekends.
ibrndubs
wrote on October 5 2009 @ 11:51 am: [report]
No doubt I am a stiletto stoner. After a hard day at the office and a long commute home there is no better way for me to unwind! Surprisingly I am a full blown functional stoner too! I actually cook, clean, blog, and take care of things when I’m baked up! And I might add I’m in a much better mood for it all.
brandyalexander
wrote on October 5 2009 @ 12:03 pm: [report]
what about my highly functional preppy male potheads? oxford stoners?
gah, these names make me laugh. i guess i’m a lipstick tomboy stiletto stoner puma. or something.
Riley
wrote on October 5 2009 @ 12:05 pm: [report]
@BrandyAlexander - Tie Tokers.
brandyalexander
wrote on October 5 2009 @ 12:16 pm: [report]
Perfect, Riley
CheeeeEEEEse
wrote on October 5 2009 @ 12:27 pm: [report]
Suited smoker/toker/stoner.
tigerstripe
wrote on October 5 2009 @ 12:36 pm: [report]
@brandy, god forbid that he and I should ever break up, pot is one thing on my list of stuff to do.
Jessalyn
wrote on October 5 2009 @ 12:44 pm: [report]
@I Go To 11: Ditto.
D.A.R.E. actually worked on me, the perpetual goody two-shoes. As did growing up inundated with images and info from all of California’s anti-smoking campaigns, which had such a strong influence on me that just the thought of bringing anything involving smoke anywhere near my lips makes me want to hold my breath and/or gag.
brandyalexander
wrote on October 5 2009 @ 12:46 pm: [report]
@tigerstripe: sorry, didn’t mean to put down your man. my ex was exactly the same… i just think there are a lot of people who don’t really understand that you can smoke a j now and then and still be successful and fun.
LaRosa
wrote on October 5 2009 @ 01:13 pm: [report]
Can’t stand smoke… but brownies? Perhaps…
brandyalexander
wrote on October 5 2009 @ 01:15 pm: [report]
Aw, you guys are cute. LaRosa, brownies are delicious! And don’t discount the magic of vaporizers.
CheeeeEEEEse
wrote on October 5 2009 @ 02:34 pm: [report]
I’m gonna question Ami’s lingo here. You can take a bong ‘rip’ and you can pass a bong, but you can’t bong something.
Anniushka
wrote on October 5 2009 @ 04:45 pm: [report]
My only experience with pot has been gagging on the roadkill-skunk smell of my dormmates smoking it down the hall. Not pleasant. I’ll pass.
Luckily, I’m in a place where a walk in natural surroundings is a feasible—and effective, for me—way of winding down after a stressful day. If not that, there’s always movies… books… friends… My instinct is not to turn to foreign substances to relax. That said, I’m a total Type B as it is…
joyy
wrote on October 5 2009 @ 06:23 pm: [report]
mmm yeah, that’s me. I don’t do it every single night, and in fact am becoming more of a weekend warrior, but the overall gist of it is dead on. I’ve dialed it back over the past few months because even though there’s no hangover, I’m definitely a little groggier in the morning when it’s a nightly thing. It’s no big deal though - going days, weeks, or even months without has no effect on me.
I used to be a full-on ‘pothead’ all through college and have just weaned myself back. While graduating magna cum laude with an english degree is something I totally pulled off while blazing up several times a day, I can’t come to work stoned, and I wouldn’t want to.
secretstevie
wrote on October 5 2009 @ 08:39 pm: [report]
yep, loud and proud, stilettos and all.
granted in my state it is technically illegal and i don’t want to condone breaking the law but at the same time there is no way anyone can convince me that a few bong rips is worse than drinking a bottle of wine. i’m not saying its better but its certainly not worse. plus, no hangover!
not to mention, i live in az so we have lots of beautiful mountains around and there’s nothing better than going on a long hike and sharing a joint with a friend. try doing that with wine.
Laurel
wrote on October 5 2009 @ 10:22 pm: [report]
Yep. Not everyday, but more days than not. All the while keeping my 3.85 GPA in college. The stereotype that all people who smoke pot go around in a permahaze is so out of touch. All kinds of people smoke weed.
kmatter
wrote on October 5 2009 @ 11:16 pm: [report]
that would be me also… and i don’t mind the smell, as someone mentioned above. i’d rather smell that than smell cigarettes
and my boyfriend is actually the one who introduced me to pot… god bless his soul 
kellieann
wrote on October 5 2009 @ 11:55 pm: [report]
Aaahh stiletto stoner! What a perfect term! I’ve always hated the word “stoner” It just makes me think of an uneducated, lazy slob. But I am proud to say i am a stiletto stoner. For sure! I love that maryjane. Makes everything more fun. Believe me!
LibertynJusticeforall
wrote on October 6 2009 @ 09:57 am: [report]
For any woman that thinks cannabinoids should be illegal, I say to you. Cut off your breast to prove your conviction, because if you breast feed, the first thing you are doing is giving your baby a big dose of cannabinoids in the breast milk. Thus your minds conviction was betrayed by your own body. To prevent this betrayal from happening you should either cut off your breast so they can’t betray your mind or change your mind so it is no longer betraying your body!
http://www.ebmonline.org/cgi/reprint/230/4/225.pdf
1000% increase of Cannabinoids in breast milk of all mammals after giving birth.
EscapeHatch
wrote on October 6 2009 @ 11:00 am: [report]
I guess I’ve never felt compelled (Goody two shoes unite). On top of that I’ve always had a job working for municipalities in which a DUI = no job and they actively penalized any drug use (including prescription, if not reported to your supervisor) to the absolute fullest extent.
Merlot it is. *Sigh*
GreenAura
wrote on October 6 2009 @ 11:04 am: [report]
@ secretstevie: “not to mention, i live in az so we have lots of beautiful mountains around and there’s nothing better than going on a long hike and sharing a joint with a friend. try doing that with wine.”... I live in AZ too, we should be hiking friends
joyy
wrote on October 6 2009 @ 11:06 am: [report]
@GreenAura - count me in. I wanted to hit up the inner basin this weekend but we’ve already go snow on the mountain. Do you ski? (we’ve already got snow on the mountain!)
CheeeeEEEEse
wrote on October 6 2009 @ 11:10 am: [report]
@joyy: I wannnt snow! *jumps up and down like a whiny bitch*
I wanna ski!!!!!1!
GreenAura
wrote on October 6 2009 @ 11:12 am: [report]
@joyy: Never tried. I’m not that coordinated, but it seems fun at least. This will be our 3rd winter here and we have just never made it up there during the snow months. I can see the snow from here
When is ski season up there?
joyy
wrote on October 6 2009 @ 11:14 am: [report]
Not sure when they’ll have enough base to open - that’s awesome you can see it from your place though.
@cheese - move west, son.
CheeeeEEEEse
wrote on October 6 2009 @ 11:21 am: [report]
@joyy: I’d like to move to Colorado. I really don’t have the guts to move though, too much to think about….getting a job…finding a place to live….etc.
Psych-chick
wrote on October 10 2009 @ 03:57 pm: [report]
I wish I could smoke weed again to unwind! Nowadays it just puts me straight to sleep, and I don’t get anything done! So instead, I spend time with my good good friend Merlot. But seriously, how many people do you hear about getting pulled over for Driving While Baked? How many people go into crazy pot rages and kill someone or beat up their spouse or rob a liquor store? I don’t know how marijuana was ever criminalized and alcohol is available at the grocery store (not that I’m complaining!).
amylou
wrote on October 12 2009 @ 12:44 pm: [report]
guilty. i hadn’t smoked for 2 years or so after college, but now i’m back to it as a way to unwind. i’m a pretty anxious person, so when i’m through with chores, i’ll smoke a bowl. i just end up watching stuff and laughing and snacking with my boyfriend. shows are funnier and we have a good, good time. and also, typewriter, i’m with you, making out high IS more fun. good stuff.
StilettoStoner
wrote on October 21 2009 @ 07:48 am: [report]
Not only am I a stiletto stoner, I am a contributor for a blog dedicated to them. Check it out… http://www.stilettostoner.com