30-Day Breakup Guide: Day 23

Stare Your Future Down
Today, you’re going to have a seat on a park bench, or look around at lunchtime, or keep your eyes open while you’re out shopping. Notice other women—young and old, black and white, and all of those other polarities. Check out how each woman dresses, and how she carries herself. Notice details, like the way she smiles or walks or talks to a cashier. Pick out an older woman, one who looks like you in maybe 10 or 20 years. Think about what her apartment might look like, who her friends are, where she likes to go on vacation, whether she has any pets, and what books are on her shelf. Imagine her life. It seems pretty full all of a sudden, right? Whatever you choose to do as a single person in these next few days or weeks or months will make up the person you are later in life. Take a second to appreciate your freedom from that guy and how fun it’s going to be to fill up your life, like she has hers.

Did you just go through a horrible breakup? Is your heart in a million little pieces? Whether you got dumped or did the dumping, splitting up with someone sucks. But have no fear, The Frisky‘s 30-Day Breakup Guide is here! Once you’ve had a good cry over the loss of your relationship, spend the next month working on yourself. We’ll be posting detailed instructions for the next 30 days to help you get over he-who-shall-not-be-named. There’s even a handy-dandy calendar to help you keep track of your progress. Now get to work!