30-Day Breakup Guide: Day 1
Posted by: Jessica Bartlett
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relationships
9:00AM, Wednesday July 1st 2009
Change Your Cell Phone’s Wallpaper
If you were “that girl” who had her boyfriend’s pic as her phone’s wallpaper, that ends. Now. Even if you didn’t and your phone’s screen has always proudly displayed the default “dewy leaf” background, it’s time to start over. Today you’re going to find your Inspirational Photograph that will accompany you on your 30-day journey. Much like power animals, everyone’s photo is going to be different. Don’t put too much thought into it. If a yellow-lined blacktop street calls to you today (a theme of moving on, maybe?), snap it with your cell’s camera. If you’re angry about the relationship, take a picture of yourself flipping off the camera. If all you want to do is breathe, maybe a nice ficus tree will do. Upload it as your wallpaper, and you’re done. Whenever you open your phone, your Inspirational Photograph will stare you in the face. “You are going to get through this,” it will say. You (and your ficus) are going to be okay.
Did you just go through a horrible breakup? Is your heart in a million little pieces? Whether you got dumped or did the dumping, splitting up with someone sucks. But have no fear, The Frisky’s 30-Day Breakup Guide is here! Once you’ve a good cry over the loss of your relationship, spend the next month working on yourself. We’ll be posting detailed instructions for the next 30 days to help you get over he-who-shall-not-be-named. There’s even a handy-dandy calendar to help you keep track of your progress. Now get to work!
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mlyway
wrote on July 1 2009 @ 09:13 am: [report]
This is really helpful. My boyfriend and I just broke up a few days ago, and even though it was mutual, he was in my life for over 3 years.
pondertheworld
wrote on July 1 2009 @ 03:41 pm: [report]
Yes yes, this was quite helpful. My previous relationship ended several days ago as well… And so far these steps are quite helpful in helping me along. ‘Kay, thanks.
KevinFromTheHamptons
wrote on July 1 2009 @ 08:38 pm: [report]
Important question: what do you do if your cell phone picture is of a child you and your ex had who is now the governor of South Carolina?
Need answer soonish.
happygolucky
wrote on July 2 2009 @ 02:47 am: [report]
Agreed, awesome thing!!! Im printing the calendar up and saving it for each break up
crazyincarolina
wrote on July 2 2009 @ 05:02 am: [report]
@Kevin…ahhaahahahahahahaha…nice
Love this…nursing a best friend through a very recent breakup and still trying to get over my own…we are jumping in with both feet…good times.
bethylane
wrote on July 2 2009 @ 09:17 am: [report]
I JUST dumped my bf of 4 months this morning!! We evaluated our ‘relationship’ and he said “I don’t like to put labels on things” and said he doesn’t mention me as a girlfriend but he says he’s “seeing someone”. Um, OK. Whatever buddy, you know you only want someone to sleep with.
I will check this out. I love TheFrisky! Perfect timing, especially because I haven’t ever had the balls to dump someone—I usually hang in there till I’m driven completely up the wall. I’ll have to be careful not to think that I ended it too soon.
retro chic
wrote on July 2 2009 @ 10:10 am: [report]
Great idea—organized tips in forward motion, if only tongue-in-cheek. Do you have a PDA version? I need alerts, colorcoding, and techy things to lead me thru each day pavlovian-style, I might forget…
The best:
#10: Ban reality TV. Watching other peoples lives in slow/fast-mo will suck your energy and time away, more than it feels already.
#17: DIY home improvement. It’s very healing to create a finished product with your hands that has a beginning, a middle and an end. I rearrange the furniture and throw a coat of paint on the wall for a quick change.
#22: I usually cut and/or dye my hair—for the same quick-change reasons as painting a wall or rearranging the furniture, but on your head.
Self-soothing Chocolate, baths and “touching” are a must for every day—at least alternating—breakup or not.
egrant2
wrote on July 10 2009 @ 12:53 pm: [report]
I love this guide! I really helped my bestie in a tough time!
buitifil
wrote on July 21 2009 @ 05:53 pm: [report]
Very helpful. I deleted all pictures on my phone and took the special ring off. That should do it for now. Oh, I changed the wallpaper too, just to look different so I remember not to give in. I might download one of those voice ringtones that says: “don’t answer the phone” as a special ring to him