20 Things You Should Never Say To A Man

JustTrinity
wrote on September 10 2009 @ 10:03 am: [report]

I’ve met alot of men that want to take ballroom dancing classes. I think its awesome.

emcdancer
wrote on September 10 2009 @ 10:06 am: [report]

Here’s one to add to the list. “You don’t have a large dong” said with a straight face, no blinking. Yup, I said that once, still paying for it. Apparently my boyfriend and I have different standards when it comes to peen sizes. I consider something large to be porn size. He thought it meant anything over 5 inches. Oops!!!!!!!!!

CheeeeEEEEse
wrote on September 10 2009 @ 10:07 am: [report]

I’m decent with wine, I am a grower, I watch a ton of porn, BB&B has lots of cool crap, Vegan food IS crap, are your friends going to have wine at that dinner party….I can go on and on.

Perceptible
wrote on September 10 2009 @ 10:08 am: [report]

I thought the Bullz-Eye.com list was pretty lame. Amelia, your list was better. The “we need to talk” one goes both ways, though. Especially if it means we have to talk LATER and someone has to anticipate what the “talk” might be about and has to stress about it all day at work. That’s never nice. Unless you want to be mean, then go ahead and do this one.

lalaland
wrote on September 10 2009 @ 10:12 am: [report]

Ok, so most of these are quite legit… but why can’t I ask my guy to grab some wine on the way to my place? If I’m making you dinner, you can definitely bring some wine!

CheeeeEEEEse
wrote on September 10 2009 @ 10:14 am: [report]

@lalaland: The idea is that we’re dumb and can’t choose a wine accordingly. We ‘supposedly’ get the same face when you say tampons and we stand in the aisle looking at all the different kinds.

MsMami
wrote on September 10 2009 @ 10:15 am: [report]

Add “lets go to IKEA” my bf hates that store.. but I love it

joyy
wrote on September 10 2009 @ 10:17 am: [report]

My bf always grabs something good (enough!) when I ask him to pick up wine ... or a lot of the time he picks it up without being asked!  And a trip to BB&B means something to help me organize my stuff and be less messy or new tools to make him something to eat, so no fear there.  He’s also great for bouncing weird or horrifying (or hot) dreams off of.

writergirl
wrote on September 10 2009 @ 10:21 am: [report]

You can’t get through a relationship *without* saying at least 11 of those things.

Whether men like us to say it or not, that’s totally irrelevant.  Sometimes, you have to say, “Vegan food tastes great!”

spanishbutterfly
wrote on September 10 2009 @ 10:22 am: [report]

what does # 5 mean ???  all others on the list im sure ive said to my bf before .. but in place of wine ” a bottle of vodka”, in place of ballroom classes .. “salsa classes”... OOOoo ive never said # 11   I LOVE MEAT

PinkRanger
wrote on September 10 2009 @ 10:24 am: [report]

Is it really that big deal to ask a guy if he watches porn? I guess if you ask it with a judgmental tone it’s pretty annoying though. Of course, why do you even have to ask? lol.

LunaLena
wrote on September 10 2009 @ 10:26 am: [report]

Eh, this list isn’t really a fair comparison to the list at Bullz-Eye.  That was a list of things guys shouldn’t say on the first date, lest they make themselves seem desperate, lonely, insecure, or dull.  This is more of a generic “guys don’t want to hear it” list.

majicksand
wrote on September 10 2009 @ 10:32 am: [report]

1. it’s not the jeans…
2. agree with Perceptible
3. rarely
4. never
5. never
6. why not? we have mostly the same friends, but he’d be cool with meeting new ones.
7. why not? he’s married, not blind, and I’m secure.
8. no point. if I’m angry, he knows.
9. some days you just gotta…
10. he likes wine
11. steak all the way. yum!
12. he loves kitchen gadgets
13. he would if we had time
14. why not? I actually want to know.
15. of course he has
16. he tells me I should base books on them
17. duh?
18. duh?
19. stupid
20. no prob. I’d rather see an action flick anyway

Riley
wrote on September 10 2009 @ 10:36 am: [report]

If you ask me to bring wine, tell me if you have a preference.  I will bring a shiraz, cab or tempranillo because I often have them around.  Kind of a let-down when someone waits till you get there to tell you “I like white”. 

I agree with about half of them, the others I don’t mind.

Raugiel
wrote on September 10 2009 @ 10:43 am: [report]

yeah, a lot of these don’t make sense to me (I don’t want to go to bed bath and beyond, why would I ask someone else to share that torture with me?) But comments thus far have dispatched most of those. I will say that #17 is A-OK if you are planning to follow it with either “let’s watch your favorite one together, with this bottle of whiskey/vodka/wine you picked up on the way home” OR “well, I have my favorite right here, let’s watch it together with that bottle of whiskey/vodka/wine you picked up on the way home.”

elizabethmarley
wrote on September 10 2009 @ 10:56 am: [report]

My boyfriend dragged ME to see Bride Wars. True story.

sweetsdjc
wrote on September 10 2009 @ 11:35 am: [report]

Care of my boyfriend:

1: You can say it, but don’t play a game with us
2: NEVER. EVER.
Say what you’re going to say
Don’t make my stomach hit my testicles
3: Meh.. sometimes it’s necessary
4: I don’t think I have that problem
5: Who the #&@$% says that?
Also, that’s not a bad thing
Packs away nicely
6: I’m not sure what’s wrong with that
7: S’fine as long as you expect a real answer
8: Be honest
9: If you’re going to judge us, we’re going to judge you
10: Not sure why this is bad
11: That’s just a #&@$% lie
12: I mean, again, this is something I’d prolly enjoy
13: That.. could be fun!
And this list was clearly written by a girl with an ultra-masculine boyfriend
14: Depends on the context
15: ....? I don’t get it
16: List of things you stop talking about after you’re 12
17: Yes. We all do. You do too
18: Sense of pride
19: You can’t have a nine-month anniversaries
20: I’d prolly be fine with that

bizzle
wrote on September 10 2009 @ 11:39 am: [report]

the only women who are able to follow those rules walk around the javits center after dark

Queen Frostine
wrote on September 10 2009 @ 11:45 am: [report]

I’ve said “my friends are having a dinner party ... “ but it’s usually followed by “can you help me think up a clever excuse / medical emergency / funeral?

Typewriter
wrote on September 10 2009 @ 01:30 pm: [report]

Wow, I’ve said at least 14 of these, and yet my boy doesn’t even roll his eyes at me. For #13, I was actually joking, but he said he was all for it if I was really interested.

And “Do you watch porn?” was quickly followed by “‘cause I’m really in the mood.” (That was a good night.)

Tommy from Boston
wrote on September 10 2009 @ 03:05 pm: [report]

1. Ok, I might lie, but chances are if we’re going out I already think you’re hot, so I might not even notice or care.
2. Yeah, that one sucks, but I do it sometimes too, especially if they are not returning your calls or trying to pull a fade instead of just ending things.
3. This isn’t so bad, sometimes you just need to go somewhere/do something.
4. I ask this more often than my female partners, because sometimes you just can’t tell.
5. If a girl said this, she is probably super lame.
6. As long as I don’t have to cook, it’s fine with me. Plus, its a good way to get brownie points.
7. Probably, but I’m dating you, not her.
8. Yes, you are. Don’t ruin the whole day trying to be proud. (Okay, I do this a lot, too.)
9. This has never happened, because I take pride in not dressing like a slob. I’m not metro or anything, I just don’t like to look out of place.
10. What’s wrong with this? A little wine can go a long way . If I really don’t have the money, I’ll let you know.
11. Once in a while, but not all the time.
12. As long as it’s quick, I don’t mind shopping. Clothing stores are far worse.
13. Hey, you’re already pressed up against one another…
14. True, I hate this one.
15. I don’t see how this is offensive. Even if you don’t like art galleries, I don’t know that it would be a killer.
16. This could be boring, but I don’t see it as negative.
17. I think this is pretty obvious.
18. See number 8
19. Actually, I am more likely to remember this, haha.
20. Well, I just might get a reward.

moonblossom
wrote on September 10 2009 @ 03:23 pm: [report]

We have the boobs - we can say whatever we want!

apple_pie
wrote on September 10 2009 @ 04:23 pm: [report]

@ elizabethmarley
maybe he was expecting a cat fight. guys get to see them when they can.

effing hickster
wrote on September 10 2009 @ 04:35 pm: [report]

I hate wine! Well, maybe not a sweet dessert wine…

The perfect solution to #20 would be to say, “Let’s watch porn together.”

neongh0st
wrote on September 10 2009 @ 05:19 pm: [report]

I said #19 once (well, not that it was an “anniversary”)... in my defense, I was hardly in high school by then.

Humble Bee
wrote on September 10 2009 @ 05:29 pm: [report]

I’m more of a doer than an asker.
I brought wine!
Let’s watch porn!
We’re going to an art gallery tonight!
I hate anniversaries!
and I don’t ever really spend the money on “movies” I just rather wait to get the DVD so at least he won’t get that horrible movie surprise.
I AM guilty of “I’m not angry” I try to hold it in, and walk away, but you just gotta make a face!

effing hickster
wrote on September 10 2009 @ 06:48 pm: [report]

Oops! I meant #17.

See? Mention porn and I forget how to count.

Red_Lady
wrote on September 10 2009 @ 08:25 pm: [report]

What’s wrong with “Last night I dreamt…”?  I thought it was kind of entertaining to share wacky dreams.

develange
wrote on September 10 2009 @ 09:28 pm: [report]

Anyone who asks the fat question…come on. It will drive anyone crazy. Same with “what are you thinking?”

A woman who makes negative comments about your penis is a douche.

“Is it in?” isn’t always a bad thing.

More men than woman I know are into vegan food.

Just sayin.

Anniushka
wrote on September 10 2009 @ 10:06 pm: [report]

When I took a dance class—it was social dance, not ballroom, but still, partner dancing—there were significantly more guys than girls enrolled. I think dancing is loads of fun and I love that so many of my guy friends have taken classes, so I can dance with them. I would think that guys of the general public would have learned by now the advantages of knowing how to dance…

@Red_Lady: I agree, although some people are really bad at telling their dreams. I try and keep my “dream I had last night” stories pretty succinct, but it can be difficult.

_jsw_
wrote on September 10 2009 @ 10:40 pm: [report]

I haven’t heard #4 or #5, but I’ve heard the rest, or variants of them.

None of them were an issue. Except, as mentioned by others, ““we need to talk.”

Nothing good ever comes from that statement.

PotteryGirl
wrote on September 11 2009 @ 05:14 am: [report]

“We need to talk” is the worst thing for any relationship:  romantic, platonic, parental…it’s the worst!

The majority of the rest on this list and the initial “10 things a guy shouldn’t say to a woman” are a little silly.  A woman shouldn’t ask a guy to pick up a bottle of wine on the way over?  Nonsense!

anin
wrote on September 11 2009 @ 06:25 am: [report]

But I’m still allowed to throw a strope if we don’t do something for our 1 year anniversary right?

Iammina
wrote on September 11 2009 @ 04:57 pm: [report]

I have my own list;

1) I think I am pregnant.
2) When are we getting married?
3) I hate sports.
4) Why do football players wear such tight pants?
5) Did he win points for that play?
6) Is the game over yet?
7)I think football is so boring.
8)I am pregnant.

ohfxck
wrote on September 11 2009 @ 05:29 pm: [report]

Man, I hate being guilty:P

OceanBeach
wrote on September 11 2009 @ 06:33 pm: [report]

OK, here’s the deal with some of those.

1. “Do these jeans make me look fat?”
2. “We need to talk.”
7. “Do you think she’s hot?”
8. “I’m not angry.”
14. “What are you thinking?”
17. “Do you watch porn?”

When we are asked those questions the first time, we know that you are leading us into a mine field. We might, just maybe, allow it. But if you ever screw us on this, we will shut down that part of ourselves to you forever. If you do that you will have damaged the relationship forever and you will never again have that closeness with us. It will have been your own fault, so don’t ask why we won’t answer, don’t wonder why we close our hearts to you, and especially, don’t whine about it.

Tommy from Boston
wrote on September 11 2009 @ 07:03 pm: [report]

@Iammina. So true about the sports. One time my brother and I were playing a college football video game at like ten in the morning and my Mom walked in and asked if it was the Super Bowl.

@OceanBench. You are right. I have had this happen to me. One girlfriend asked me why we never fought and I told her after we broke up that it was because she didn’t want real answers to any of her man-test questions.

bumbler
wrote on September 11 2009 @ 07:13 pm: [report]

Hah the last thing I’m going to do is pretend to like sports.  It’s not as if my husband pretends to enjoy Jane Austen for me.  Instead we compromise wonderfully, I’ll watch Pardon the Interruption because I think Tony is adorable.  I’ll also go to games with him but I read my book and comment on how basketball would be so much more interesting if it were played on rollerskates.  We spend time together and he gets a break from his hard core sports obsessed friends when we do fun things like vote on the All-Stars based on who has the funniest or dirtiest names (it’s Swisher and #&@$% btw).

bumbler
wrote on September 11 2009 @ 07:15 pm: [report]

omg its edited F/ u/ k/ u/ d/ o/ m/ e/  It’s his real name!

majicksand
wrote on September 12 2009 @ 08:42 am: [report]

@OceanBeach: Right on.  I never really thought about it, but you’re absolutely right.  I’m a true believer in “don’t ask if you don’t want to know”, so I don’t really have to worry about it, but I’m aware that most people really don’t want the truth.

AChanceAtHeaven
wrote on September 12 2009 @ 03:08 pm: [report]

With a simple fix, all of these questions can be transformed into perfectly acceptable queries:

1. “These jeans are so tight - why don’t you help me get ‘em off, big boy?”
2. “We need to f**k. Like, now.”
3. “Hold my bra.”
4. “It’s so BIG!”
5. “Now, that’s something to be proud of!”
6. “My friends are having an orgy - want to come?”
7. “Isn’t she hot? I’d go lesbo for that chick.”
8. “Of course I’m angry. Let’s release that pent-up energy by making love.”
9. “You’re so sexy in that suit.”
10. “Pick up a six pack.”
11. “This grilled steak tastes delicious.”
12. “Let’s stop by Best Buy. We need a bigger TV!”
13. “Let’s grind the hell out of each other to club music!”
14. “I’m behind you 100%.”
15. “Have you ever been to an erotic art gallery?”
16. “Last night I dreamt of your d**k.“
17. “Do you watch porn? Me too!”
18. “I’m always happy when you’re around.”
19. “Don’t worry about our anniversary, sweety - I forgot, too!”
20. “I bought us two tickets to see WWE Smackdown.”

majicksand
wrote on September 12 2009 @ 03:13 pm: [report]

@heaven: So, umm, I should lie?  Damn, I’m screwed.  I suck at lying.

_jsw_
wrote on September 12 2009 @ 03:16 pm: [report]

You know, AChanceAtHeaven, sometimes we men get tired of being stereotyped like that. Sex sex sex… it’s all you think we ever want. I mean, when we’re not eating or sleeping or getting drunk or watching football. But you’re wrong. We’re not like that 24/7. For example, I spend a minute or two each day contemplating world events. So it’s more like 23.987/7.

Please, stop perpetuating false myths.

AChanceAtHeaven
wrote on September 12 2009 @ 03:54 pm: [report]

@_jsw_: I understand completely, forgive my excessive jesting. It is, after all, the 0.013 second that counts.

effing hickster
wrote on September 12 2009 @ 11:59 pm: [report]

You should never say to a man, “I accidentally dinged your ‘69 GTO.”

babylaceface
wrote on September 14 2009 @ 01:47 am: [report]

1. i know im not fat so i dont ask that2. “We need to talk.”
3. he would probably say here let me hold that for you
4. haha we do not have that problem
5. ?
6. he would want to go
7. id more likely be saying damn she’s hot! im bi
8. if im really not then why not?
9. my boyfriend has great taste
10. he would just do this
11. got to have my meat
12. he likes that store haha
13. i wouldnt want to
14. he always asks me this so why cant i ask him?
15. ?
16. we always talk about our dreams
17. he sent me porn on my phone saying “lets do this” i was all in
18. hahaha
19. every month we say happy ___ months to each other
20. haha how funny since he’s the one that wants to go see those with me

Bitsy Ravenclaw
wrote on September 14 2009 @ 10:05 am: [report]

@Bumbler: Hahahahaha! I can’t believe it edited Kosuse F-u-k-u-d-o-m-e’s name out! There’s also the fact that they call Ryan Braun of the Milwaukee Brewers ‘The Hebrew Hammer.’ How’s that for dirty?

MelyssaMayhem
wrote on September 14 2009 @ 07:36 pm: [report]

Hey! I’m slightly offended by some of you bashing vegan food! I’m vegan and (though a lot of commercial stuff is crap) the food tastes fine. I don’t make my fiance be veg, though. He eats lots of meat and even he says a lot of the food I make for myself tastes great.

And really, I would never go into BB&B unless the Beyond section really is “Beyond.” Otherwise, it’s just false advertising.

jackofhearts
wrote on September 15 2009 @ 10:52 am: [report]

Guilty of 2,6,7,8,14,15,16,17,18

... and I don’t even have a defense!!

bumbler
wrote on September 15 2009 @ 10:54 am: [report]

@Bitsy I’m filing that away for next year’s voting!

taalibba
wrote on September 22 2009 @ 12:04 pm: [report]

15. ? All men hate art?! Wtf?

Jitterbugs232
wrote on September 23 2009 @ 08:40 pm: [report]

Why is wishing your boyfriend happy _ months bad? I do it to my boyfriend each month of a reminder of wow we made it this long kinda thing

babylaceface
wrote on September 26 2009 @ 12:35 pm: [report]

@Jitterbugs232 yeah i dont understand it either. me and my boyfriend say it to each other each month. in fact i told him happy 16 months today because we started dating 16 months ago. its just something we do and i dont see it as bad and he likes it. so this isnt gonna prevent me from saying it