15 Things We’d Miss About Men

Annika Harris
wrote on July 9 2009 @ 07:28 am: [report]

I agree with all of these, but now I’m depressed because I don’t have a man to do these things.

lalaland
wrote on July 9 2009 @ 07:31 am: [report]

Would like to add: how they can make you feel so safe when they wrap their arms around you.

Molly Jean
wrote on July 9 2009 @ 07:35 am: [report]

lalaland: yeah, that’s pretty much my favorite!

writergirl
wrote on July 9 2009 @ 07:39 am: [report]

When they cook dinner and then say, “Go take a hot bath…I’ll clean up.”

MoonBabye
wrote on July 9 2009 @ 07:40 am: [report]

Ditto to all!

My addendum: Lightly smacking our bum with a sly look, complete with a hint of sexytime eyes.

Naneenya
wrote on July 9 2009 @ 07:44 am: [report]

@Annika - I hear ya.  Kind of depressing.

But, last night my roommate’s boyfriend came over to release a mouse that was trapped in our apartment.  So, even man-friends can be amazing!

Wendy Atterberry
wrote on July 9 2009 @ 07:47 am: [report]

You don’t need a boyfriend for most of these things—a guy friend would work. Hell, even a good gay would get the job done (well, not the intercourse part).

jgd1208
wrote on July 9 2009 @ 07:50 am: [report]

When they come up behind you and kiss your neck. Man.. it’s been a long time.

dandrean
wrote on July 9 2009 @ 07:53 am: [report]

being about 5’11” i would have to say that number five is the only one i can disagree with.

bumbler
wrote on July 9 2009 @ 07:54 am: [report]

When they get really excited about something and look so sweet and boyish.

wawmama
wrote on July 9 2009 @ 07:59 am: [report]

Back rubs….

retro chic
wrote on July 9 2009 @ 08:01 am: [report]

Yes, all of life’s “heavy lifting,” but esp #14 – the sound of their voice that reaches inside – anytime.

GreenAura
wrote on July 9 2009 @ 08:06 am: [report]

The way they look at you, like you are the most beautiful woman they have ever seen.

The way they revert to being little boys once in awhile (like on the 4th of July when they shoot bottle rockets at each other, so cute!)

The way they curl up and snuggle with you while watching a movie on the couch.

When they get all hot and sweaty after playing bball or football with the other guys (so hot!)

The way they devour a meal that you just cooked, making “mmmm” sounds the entire time.

When they come into the bedroom after a shower wearing just a towel around the waist, body still glistening from little beads of water left over. OMG!!!

Now I want to go home and see my honey.

Annika Harris
wrote on July 9 2009 @ 08:12 am: [report]

How they can smell great and sweaty at the same time.

Christinaval
wrote on July 9 2009 @ 08:48 am: [report]

This is a weird one…

How they drive. I don’t know why, but there’s something about the way a man drives that, ahem, DRIVES me wild.

EastCoastMale
wrote on July 9 2009 @ 08:54 am: [report]

Glad to know that some of us would be missed lol

likeOMGkbye
wrote on July 9 2009 @ 08:57 am: [report]

How decisive they are, because I’m the most indecisive person ever and I basically need someone to say “we’re doing this” or else we would get no where!

And waking up in the morning and having an arm around me within minutes

MrsPRMom
wrote on July 9 2009 @ 10:04 am: [report]

-When walking thru a room with their hand on the small of your back.
-When they play with the kids in a totally unselfconscious way only men can do.
-When they tell you that your sexy..and mean it…even if it is bs.

I could go on forever, I love men too much to see them go.

lovelie
wrote on July 9 2009 @ 10:24 am: [report]

When you have had a bad day, and there is an automatic hug waiting for you.

kinkeh
wrote on July 9 2009 @ 10:57 am: [report]

mm yeah.  Everything in all the above comments! From the way he drives to how he plays with kids and fireworks and how he always smells amazing.  yeah,  I miss my boyfriend.  :/

ctwilson112
wrote on July 9 2009 @ 11:10 am: [report]

@Christinaval- I thought that was just me and my weird-self, but yes; a man who can drive a stick-and drive it well-is such a turn on! I cannot figure out why…

wonder_bread
wrote on July 9 2009 @ 11:18 am: [report]

i’d miss everything about them.. how they don’t get all emotional when u need them to be strong… how logical they can be. the way i feel wen im attracted to them.. i will never be into females so i’d be pretty bummed not to have some guys arounds me..too many woman and u get a catty, emotional, mess… throw a nice even tempered guy in the mix and their some balance..

i’d hang out with a good guy friend then a good g/f anyday.. but thats just me.

_jsw_
wrote on July 9 2009 @ 11:38 am: [report]

I assume that our presence also often tends to automatically make you feel more mature and sophisticated by comparison.

brandyalexander
wrote on July 9 2009 @ 12:00 pm: [report]

Jawlines + stubble.
How proud they are to make you an omelet in the morning.
Protectiveness.
Vulnerability.
How excited they get when you take the time to look hot, and everyone notices .

99girl
wrote on July 9 2009 @ 12:09 pm: [report]

A lot of the things mentioned in the article are things I can do just fine by myself. But that comment aside, I know I get along better with men. They aren’t catty! So I’d miss the ease of friendship.

Chebs
wrote on July 9 2009 @ 01:01 pm: [report]

Heh, my bf and I are the reverse of 5 - I have to get things off the top shelf for him.  I definitely agree with a lot of what’s been said in the comments too.  And a lot of my favorite actors are men, how would we have any more Batman or Ironman movies?

resullins
wrote on July 9 2009 @ 01:53 pm: [report]

I like the “how they small sweaty and good” one! My guy’s a mechanic, and ALWAYS comes homes smelling like oil, grease, sweat, and his manly deoderant… it’s my favorite smell in the world. As long as he doesn’t climb in bed before he showers.

I also broke down the other night about some stuff… absolute sobbing! He just wrapped his arms around me and made me fell better the only way he knew how. It was great.

I’d definitely miss the little things!

katieisasciencegeek
wrote on July 9 2009 @ 03:09 pm: [report]

yeah… because i couldn’t do those things myself….

GreenAura
wrote on July 9 2009 @ 03:14 pm: [report]

@ katieisasciencegeek: I would hope you couldn’t grow your own 5 o’clock shadow…

likeOMGkbye
wrote on July 9 2009 @ 03:19 pm: [report]

well I sure cant snuggle effectively or be happily in love by myself, now could I?

develange
wrote on July 9 2009 @ 03:24 pm: [report]

what about. . .their sexy male bodies?

crazyincarolina
wrote on July 9 2009 @ 06:25 pm: [report]

hmmm, I miss it all…especially their sexy male bodies and the way they smell when they are all sweaty…just friends man friends are great, but I wish I had a more than friends man friend to get nekkid with.

lolkaykay
wrote on July 9 2009 @ 08:35 pm: [report]

how good it feels to lie on their chests

resullins
wrote on July 10 2009 @ 07:40 am: [report]

Hmmm… so is today April Fool’s and I just don’t know. Are anyone else’s comments flipped? Like going is descending order as opposed to ascending? Or did I just forget to take my meds this morning?

Riley
wrote on July 10 2009 @ 07:46 am: [report]

@Resullins - You aren’t crazy, well not for that reason anyway.  It is weird to me as well.  Kind of a pain when you are used to the opposite.

resullins
wrote on July 10 2009 @ 07:47 am: [report]

@Riley, I agree… I can no longer read the last post while I’m replying… what the hell?

@The Frisky… are you trying to mess with me when I’m hungover? That’s mean!

mlyway
wrote on July 10 2009 @ 07:50 pm: [report]

@Christinaval- I think the same thing about the way a guy drives-and I like when they drive stick..

landesign
wrote on July 10 2009 @ 08:18 pm: [report]

Geesh, all these comments just made my year.

Ryan S
wrote on July 11 2009 @ 02:24 pm: [report]

I don’t suppose it matters. I see books like “Are Men Necessary” “Men are going extinct” “The Y chromosome is dying” Time Magazine: “Are Husbands Necessary” shirts like “boys are disposable” Sony Cybershot commercial showing a husband and father as and actual horses ass the whole commercial, others showing men as jack asses and just about everywhere you look the message is that men are not needed as husbands and fathers and are incompetent, immature baboons.

No wonder marriage is on a 45% angle decline, 40% of women give birth as single mothers and disbanded and fatherless families are epidemic. Chivalry is dead, women will not reciprocate but declare themselves princesses. Independent but use men to work or stay home, divorce and support her and the children that are taken from him and his property. Yea maybe you don’t need men but for our child support and alimony but guess what, men don’t really want anything to do with you. So lets “hook up” then go our separate ways.

cjmar
wrote on July 11 2009 @ 02:27 pm: [report]

Meh.  I can do all this except grow a 5 o’clock shadow (and who actually likes that?).  I guess I wouldn’t miss men after all.

likeOMGkbye
wrote on July 11 2009 @ 02:36 pm: [report]

Wow Ryan, why so bitter?

GAgirlinNYC
wrote on July 11 2009 @ 05:19 pm: [report]

That is one crazy morbid picture you guys put up! It just cracked me up

Ryan S
wrote on July 11 2009 @ 05:43 pm: [report]

You say “Wow Ryan, why so bitter?” 

I am upset at the way men are treated as less than equal to women in our society. I am upset that I can walk into a bar and see buttons on “Women’s Day” like “Vagina,Intimidated?” and “What does it take to do the job of 3 men, 1 woman?”  and this is supposed to be serious. The double standard in sexism is sickening. I can’t stand how women now get 60% of all college degrees and they are still shutting down men’s sports teams under Title IX gender equality. I am tired of women only scholarships, loans and grants to help them get ahead though it is men and boys who are suffering. All this and Obama opens up the Council of Women and Girls for the “special needs” of women and girls. I am upset because the feminists have diverted the Reinvestment and Recovery act of 09 to create jobs for women when 80% of jobs lost are from men. Diverting the majority of funds to women’s industries that actually created 544,000 jobs on their own. I am upset because women see themselves as a separate class away from men and seek their own interests alone.

It is everywhere in the media. How about I wear a pin that International Men’s Day that says “Penis, Intimidated?” and “What does it take to do the job of 3 women, 1 man” and see what people think. I am tired of men loosing our children in divorce and the marginalization of fatherhood. I am tired of all the headlines showing men as useless accessories to the independent woman lifestyle. A woman who is only independent when it suits her and leans on men to use and exploit men when convenient.

Iammina
wrote on July 11 2009 @ 06:23 pm: [report]

No, I can’t do without men, never ever and canned sperm sounds just nasty. I have a great guy and I am spoiled. I love his body and the way he makes me feel. I can not imagine life with out him because we have been together a long time.

I can understand why some independent women might feel that way.
Ryan please stay out of bars you sound bitter. There are a lot of old fashioned girls out there.

likeOMGkbye
wrote on July 11 2009 @ 06:25 pm: [report]

I just don’t understand how an article about women missing men and all the things we love about men has turned into a tirade about how women are just so uppity about their independence and therefore we all hate men.

You keep citing the media, which is exactly that- the MEDIA. Most level-headed people understand that the media is skewed and not reality because there are 2 sides to a story, and dont take everything the media spits out at them as solid fact and the only right way. You’re never going to find a majority, much less overwhelming majority, of women who really think “Who needs men anyway?” because as the purpose of this article is trying to point out, we do want/need/love men despite everything.

likeOMGkbye
wrote on July 11 2009 @ 06:39 pm: [report]

“I don’t get it — would synthetic sperm only create girl babies? And why would any of us want a world with no men anyway?”

That “man bashing” was in another article, which actually didnt contain ANY man bashing. THIS one is about why we love men. Therefore, you are standing up to nothing. So relax.

eskim00ninja
wrote on July 12 2009 @ 02:37 am: [report]

@Ryan

What would you accept after years and years of being treated on a subhuman level?  To the point where it was socially acceptable for you to be beaten (The Dick van Dyke Show)?  It wasn’t even THAT long ago that women were able to vote (when comparing it to how long America has been around). 

I’m not calling you a woman-hater, it’s just this article isn’t talking about getting rid of men.  It isn’t bashing men but rather praising them for things ONLY they can do.

resullins
wrote on July 12 2009 @ 08:14 am: [report]

@Ryan and the guy with the Quagmire picture (that’s REALLY trying to have a conversation about gender roles)... while I agree that feminism itself is not a good idea (everyone here that’s ever read any of my posts knows that I’m a proponent of just BEING equal, and not screaming that you are from the rooftops) I completely disagree with what you’re taking this article as. Do you get so up in arms about reparations being made to minorities 150 years after slavery was outlawed?

As other posters here have already stated, this article very clearly asks “why would we want a world without men anyway.” None of us here would ever want men to be obsolete, We love men (well, I’m sure a few of us love women) and are praising them for the things that they are that we aren’t. I love my fiance and would never want to have to raise children alone… die alone… etc.

That being said, I do appreciate the fact that I AM an independant women and don’t REQUIRE a man in my life to complete me. There are millions of confirmed bachelors out there that use women for nothing more than their own sexual gratification, that is objectification, just so you guys know. And how dare you generalize all women by saying that if they’re rich and good-looking it’s flirting and we’re fine with it. You just objectified us by assuming that none of us have our own thoughts or opinions. And yes, it’s still objectification even if you’re rich and handsome. So don’t pretend to know us.

I work in a completely and totally male-dominated field… in fact, I’m the only woman. And I don’t feel the need to shout anything from the rooftops or wear a button that says “vaj power,” I just do my job as well as anyone else. And then I come home to Q, we cook dinner, and I still make him carry the TV when we move. I don’t think anyone should be put in a box and told “this is your place,” but that includes men AND women… the problem however, is that women HAVE been put in a box. Like it or not, we’ve been told since the dawn of time (even by God himself) that we have a place, and we are not to stray.

And if some women feel they need to break out of that box with a little dynamite, I’m ok with that… all will settle down eventually…

<Off soapbox>

GirlyLocks
wrote on July 12 2009 @ 11:49 am: [report]

@resullins—Very well put.  Thanks.  =)

kybo61
wrote on July 12 2009 @ 11:57 pm: [report]

Mamby-pamby.  Makes women sound helpless.  No, the things I miss about men (my husband being deceased) I can tell you. 
(1) I miss being told, “I love you,” when I have just gotten up and look like sh*t.
(2) I miss being called pet names like babycakes and sweetie pie.
(3) I miss being on the toilet and my man coming in and going “Oops, sorry” and then peeing in the bathtub.
(4) I miss him saying “Where’s the clippers?” and then offering to shave my legs for me.
(5) I miss coming home from work and my sweetie getting the cucumber lotion and sitting down on the couch and picking up my feet without being asked, and putting lotion all over them and massaging them for 30 minutes.
(6) I miss my man encouraging me to have friends on the internet, male and female, and getting excited when those friends were in faraway countries like Kazakhstan, Peru, Serbia and Australia.
(7) I miss when my husband was away at friends’ houses partying and he called me up to say he’d be home after a while.
(8) I miss my husband going fishing with his friends, they would go out and smoke weed and have a good time, and he would bring back fish for our family to eat.
(9) I miss my husband coming to my workplace at lunch time and bringing me and him lunch and us sitting and eating it together at my desk.
(10) I miss staying up all night with the music channel on the TV set and talking with my sweetie about Life, the Universe and Everything.
(11) I miss getting up in the morning & after the stepson went to school we would sit out on the deck drinking hot chocolate and enjoying the spectacular view (in Vermont).
(12) I miss driving around in the car with the stereo turned up loud acting like teenagers singing to Metallica and AC/DC.
There are many more things I miss about my husband, who died in 2001 at the age of 36 from liver disease.  But these are some.  I’ve dated some after his death, but nothing satisfying.  I haven’t closed the door, but I have other stuff to focus on right now. 

Kiki T
wrote on July 13 2009 @ 10:11 am: [report]

their asses

Dave The Rave
wrote on July 13 2009 @ 04:20 pm: [report]

Being a man, it’s nice to know us men would be missed.  Plus, back in the 70’s, there was a movie that had a baby being “grown” in a vat and the “mother” had to wear forms to make it look like she was pregnant.  At the end, the ending lines stated that this was a work of fiction but that in time it may become a possibility. 

So, that being said, what would the world be like without WOMEN?  I’m sure I could make a list of my own on that one.

But, the women who would miss us guys are the same ones who yell at us and tell us to get lost one minute, then turn around and want us back he next.  Always something!

Dave The Rave
wrote on July 13 2009 @ 04:21 pm: [report]

This also makes one phrase very fitting - “Can’t live with ‘em, can’t live without ‘em.”

kmatter
wrote on July 13 2009 @ 06:38 pm: [report]

so i liked ryan’s pov, cuz he was making a point and using facts. very good, and i could agree to a point. and go figure, I’M a woman haha.

but phil in reno… you just sound like a prick. you don’t use anything to try and bring others to your point, and totally loose your persuasiveness in the way you try to use emotion more. that’s ridiculous. you’re behaving like a woman :-p

bbpickles
wrote on July 13 2009 @ 07:05 pm: [report]

This was a great article, and I had a silly grin on my face until I got to RYAN’s post.  If you are so bitter and think that way about women why are you on a website for women?

I also am a woman who doesn’t NEED a man to “complete” me, but there is something about how a man can wrap his arms around me and make me feel safe and loved!  I love love love it!

hereshestands
wrote on July 14 2009 @ 03:10 am: [report]

Aw I love all these comments and this is a great post. I love how my bf stops whatever he’s doing and cuddles me when I’m upset and tells me he loves me. I couldn’t live without my man.

nowhere88
wrote on July 14 2009 @ 06:06 am: [report]

All of these I would definitely have to agree with, but it still makes me feel depressed because my boyfriend broke up with me a couple days ago. I mean I guess he’s still a very good friend and I’m sure he would help me out with some of them.

yum-yum
wrote on July 14 2009 @ 12:34 pm: [report]

They’re not even gone, and I miss them already….

Keesh Mia
wrote on July 15 2009 @ 11:41 am: [report]

I love men! They can be such a pain but they can be so cute.  I am raising a little boy alone.  It would be so sad to think that when he grows up, he would be somewhat useless in the process of procreation… not by choice but by science.

The skin to skin feel is really nice.  I would really miss that.

wonderfultonight
wrote on July 15 2009 @ 09:25 pm: [report]

A world without men would be sad. I can do a lot of the things mentioned, but I would not want to be without my guy. I love the way he smells, the feel of his skin, the way he kisses, so many wonderful things he says and does. He’s just so terrific.

I grew up with three brothers who are all wonderful guys, too. I now have four nephews and can’t imagine a world without any of them. How depressing!

DancingGeek
wrote on July 23 2009 @ 06:06 pm: [report]

@kybo61 such a lovely tribute!

_jsw_
wrote on July 23 2009 @ 06:12 pm: [report]

@DancingGeek: Thanks for visiting this article and posting, because it got me to read kybo61‘s amazing comment. I would hope someone would feel that about me when I go.

Lavanderism
wrote on August 4 2009 @ 10:44 pm: [report]

When you catch them staring at you as thought truly captivated by what they see. The best, I say.

kvertical
wrote on August 19 2009 @ 03:58 am: [report]

First of all, I’d need A LOT more than 15 datapoints to outline what I love about women…!

@Ryan; Dude, you need to man-up and stop whinning about efforts to provide equality in society. 

And all that stuff wouldn’t even be needed if the powers-that-be down through the ages weren’t so neanderthal-like in their thinking that, just because we had external reproductive organs, gave us carte blanche to treat the other gender like indentured slaves standing at that ready to provide domestic services after we cracked them over he head with a club…!

And and talk about being independent and then discarding us; how many times have we USED them and then did the discarding, eh?

There is nothing, and I mean nothing, sexier than a strong, independent, and confident woman!  And then she STILL needs me to save the universe by killing the bug on the window-sill?  Woof…doesn’t get ANY better than that!

Viva la’ differance…

resullins
wrote on August 19 2009 @ 08:46 am: [report]

@kvertical… yeah, I haven’t seen Phil or Ryan in quite a while. I’m pretty sure Phil got kicked off, but as for Ryan, hmmm…

And thank you… it’s nice to see men on this site that don’t think girls still have cooties. Besides of course CheeeeEEEEse and jsw!