15 Signs Your Boyfriend Is Annoying
Posted by: Simcha Whitehill
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1:00PM, Tuesday September 1st 2009
I’ve dated some losers, sure, but haven’t we all? The trickiest dudes to sniff out are the annoying ones. At first they seem well-meaning and nerdy, which is normally endearing. After a while, and some embarrassing moments, you’ll come to see these same annoying tendencies become super sucky to date. So before you spend a lifetime testing your patience, put him to this test. Are you prone to eye-rolling or is he just really annoying?
- Accent-uate The Negative: Unless he’s an “actor” or paid impersonator, faking an accent is lame. He may think he’s playing the “wacky guy” with that Austin Powers-style “Yeah baby, yeah!” but eventually he’ll drive you—and everyone in hearing range—nutty.
- If You Kill It, You Gotta Fill It: If he eats all your emergency PMS goodies, he best be replacing them or heads will roll, once a month, like clockwork.
- Thinks Life Is A Stage: When he tells a story, he needs everyone around to give him their undivided attention.
- Nothing To Say, Lips Still Flappin’: Speaking of mouthing off, there is no such thing as a comfortable silence to this dude. He’d rather say something dumb that he’ll wind up apologizing for than just let it be quiet. If there’s fresh air, he’ll suck it all in.
- Old Fart: Everyone likes fart jokes, but he thinks his actual farts are hilarious, no matter where he unleashes the beast. He wants you to get in on the joke too.
- Dirty Deets: Any adult knows, you gotta clean up after yourself. But whether it’s an awkward social situation or the dishes, he just skeedaddles like a child.
- Let It Go: He doesn’t get that if you’re not laughing, you don’t think his joke is funny. He keeps repeating himself or finds new ways to tell it, thinking you’ll just give in, rather than earning your giggle with a truly funny joke.
- A Real Flub(ber): He doesn’t feel like he needs to keep your secrets or protect your sensitivities, especially when exploiting them will make him seem cool. If you’ve got flabby arms, he’ll insist on poking them and laughing. And really, when has poking someone not been annoying?
- Catchphrase: Like his favorite sitcom characters, he has tag lines he repeats over and over again. Or maybe he just steals famous ones. Either way, they don’t always apply to the situation, but he thinks it’s a cute way to end the scene he’s making. “That’s what she said” stopped being funny three seconds after it was said the first time.
- Eating (Bad) Habits: Sure, you like to get down on some food and enjoy. But the way he eats, you can’t even watch. He makes a mess of himself and talks with his mouth open all the time. Not sexy.
- Disturbing: He has no qualms interrupting you while you’re working, on the phone, and even sleeping. If he wants something, he will bother you.
- Sinking The Friend Ship: At first, your friends might have thought he came on strong, but they’ll give him more chances to hang. However, after a couple of parties together, you’ll notice that they’re trying not to include him, to get you alone, or are avoiding him even when he is around. He’s driving them bonkers.
- Needy Boy: He play the sensitive guy card and gets all emo about things when really, he just wants attention. His mantra is “me, me, me, me, me.”
- Phone It In: He will pick up his phone anywhere, anytime ... even if you’re in the middle of something important, like complaining about his behavior.
- Coming In Last: He has to have the last word. Always. Even when he’s obviously wrong.
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ootie
wrote on September 1 2009 @ 12:07 pm: [report]
I think the first sign that your boyfriend is annoying is that…he annoys you. That’s probably the only sign you’ll have to pay attention to.
bogart4017
wrote on September 1 2009 @ 12:23 pm: [report]
Reading over this list it shouldnt be hard to lose him after one or two dates. Any guy exhibiting any of these behaviors isnt ready for a LTR. In fact he’s probably never lived BY HIMSELF let alone with another woman besides his mother.
brandyalexander
wrote on September 1 2009 @ 12:27 pm: [report]
#11: my ex once called me at work with “an important question,” so i called him back, only to be asked if the dishes in the dishwasher were clean.
writergirl
wrote on September 1 2009 @ 01:18 pm: [report]
Bogart’s right. If your SO is doing any of these things he’s not LTR material.
My guy does none of this. Now don’t get me wrong, he can be annoying in his own way (really? does he need to call EVERY NIGHT on the drive home? WHY? It’s a fifteen minute drive.)but nothing that’s detrimental to the relationship. Those listed above are relationship problems waiting to happen.
Casper
wrote on September 1 2009 @ 01:24 pm: [report]
Every guy is annoying to a certain degree. No biggie unless he bugs/embarrasses you more than anything else.
Although, how do you get rid of a brother that ticks almost every one of these?
thehighandlow
wrote on September 1 2009 @ 03:28 pm: [report]
These sound like the traits of a narcissist dude.
majicksand
wrote on September 1 2009 @ 03:31 pm: [report]
We all know by now that I am nauseatingly in love with my husband. That said, he does do a few things that bug me.
1. leaves the seat up
2. leaves the water in “shower” mode so it falls on my head when I turn it on
3. leaves the visor in my truck across the door instead of the windshield
4. gives in to the kids after I’ve said no (usually because he doesn’t know I’ve said no and never about anything major)
Nothing really annoying; just minor, stupid crap. Thankfully I knew and accepted his flaws before I married him, so I don’t sweat it—unless I’m already cranky, then all bets are off. I’m annoying that way.
writergirl
wrote on September 1 2009 @ 03:35 pm: [report]
@majicksand—my husband does #4 too. But I swear he hears me say “no” and just ignores me!
majicksand
wrote on September 1 2009 @ 03:52 pm: [report]
@writergirl: *chuckle* My husband HATES to argue, so he’s always “good cop”—at home, at work…
writergirl
wrote on September 1 2009 @ 03:56 pm: [report]
@majicksane—my husband just wants peace. And sometimes when I say ‘no’ the child descends into a tantrum. Which I explain is because husband gives in. It finally sunk in last month….
Taurwen
wrote on September 1 2009 @ 04:47 pm: [report]
I never got the seat thing. Why do guys have to put it back down? I figure if I’m not willing to think about it enough to put it up, he has no responsibility to put it down.
majicksand
wrote on September 1 2009 @ 05:02 pm: [report]
@writergirl: My husband is learning that my tantrums are worse for him than the kids’, so he’s learning the fine art of “what did your mom say?” In all fairness, he’s only been parenting a year and a half.
@taurwen: Here’s my logic on the toilet seat thing.
1. I need it down all the time. He needs it down half the time. Simple math says that means it needs to be down 3/4 of the time anyway.
2. A toilet with the seat up just looks yucky. I actually prefer that the lid be down too.
3. When I gotta go in the middle of the night -right now before I wet myself- and I would be blind if I turned on the light, I don’t always check to see if it’s down and falling in hurts. (this one is especially important if I’m pregnant which I’m working on this month)
I don’t bother getting mad at my husband over the toilet seat thing. It’s one of those “flaws” I choose to accept. I gently mention it on occasion since I am trying to get pregnant, and it could become a killing offense once my hormones go nuts.
workerbee
wrote on September 1 2009 @ 05:23 pm: [report]
My ex still thinks talking about farts and poop is funny. It was cute and goofy at first, but after a while and especially after we had our son, it got super annoying. Guys get some maturity after a while, right?
skywalk
wrote on September 1 2009 @ 06:11 pm: [report]
My husband was raised by his father and always puts the seat down, now that is good parenting.
DancingGeek
wrote on September 1 2009 @ 06:52 pm: [report]
Aw Come on “That’s what she said” NEVER gets old!!!!
mountain_laurel1183
wrote on September 1 2009 @ 07:03 pm: [report]
Could you have written this like, 5 years ago and saved me a TON of pain, heartbreak, and aggravation???? hehe :D
MissChaotic
wrote on September 2 2009 @ 01:00 am: [report]
Yesterday, I decided to *drop* the guy I was talking to because he was so 6,7,8. Really, farting on me in public is childish for someone who is #&@$% older than me.
*Still irritated at his blatant childishness*
Siciliana
wrote on September 2 2009 @ 08:16 am: [report]
It would have been even better if it was written 7 and a half years ago. I am so tempted to forward this to my soon to be ex-husband because he still doesn’t get it. The worst part is he thinks I’m the one with the problem. I don’t know how to laugh or love or have fun. I beg to differ and now I’m prooving myself otherwise. There was no chance of him changing and it’s sad that the only thing that has wised him up was my leaving. How does such a nice and cute guy get that way?
The answer: his father
Siciliana
wrote on September 2 2009 @ 08:38 am: [report]
@ workerbee: The maturity gene must be missing entirely from a select few. Sorry. I had a vision of what mine would be like at age 67 and there was no hope. He was guilty of literally every single thing on that list, on a weekly basis. No exaggerating. #1 was Russian or Chinese. I can’t say enough abou #4, and #5 wasn’t off limits during meals either - parents and sister would join in @ family dinner. #14 didn’t matter if I was driving on a 6-lane freeway with a car full of people and talking on the cell phone was illegal. Enough already!
Erin G
wrote on September 2 2009 @ 09:08 am: [report]
I broke up with my ex because of #4 and #14. I’m sorry, but there is no reason why he should dominate the conversation 85% of the time. Anytime I want to talk about something relating to me, he finds a way to turn it around to be about himself.
bumble_bee
wrote on September 2 2009 @ 10:37 am: [report]
yayyy my current boyfriend of seven months isnt any of these things. what he is, is amazing.
resullins
wrote on September 2 2009 @ 03:58 pm: [report]
@majick: THANK YOU! I just had to defend the toilet seat thing to someone on the “22 things we’ll teach our sons about women” post. Some lady called it selfish and needy and said that if you’re a bog girl, you can just put it down yourself. Putting the seat down will NEVER actually hurt him, I promise. But not putting it down could possibly hurt me. Nuff said!
My SO does think farting is funny… but only when there’s no one around. I don’t really care, except when he does it in his sleep and I get a HUGE whiff every time I roll over. I’ve had to get up and move to the couch before!
jfst
wrote on September 3 2009 @ 12:32 am: [report]
“Taurwen
wrote on September 01 2009 @ 05:47 pm: [report]
I never got the seat thing. Why do guys have to put it back down? I figure if I’m not willing to think about it enough to put it up, he has no responsibility to put it down.”
At least one woman gets it. Bless your heart….
kjb666
wrote on September 3 2009 @ 07:43 am: [report]
Re #4 above:
Let me guess…it’s ok for women to constantly flap their jaws since we all know everything they say is important? Face it, most of what women tell us is usually some form of gossip or command/demand they need to be performed immediately because it’s for their benefit only, and we are just there to fulfill it. Yes, some guys are blowhards as described in the list, but women also fit this desciption.
resullins
wrote on September 3 2009 @ 08:06 am: [report]
@kjb: Wow… bitter much? I don’t flap my jaws, I don’t require a stage, I don’t gossip… so yes, I do expect my SO to not do those things. This is an article about how to differentiate between the good ones and the bad ones, not “all men are freaking obnoxious.” So don’t generalize women!
resullins
wrote on September 3 2009 @ 10:32 am: [report]
You know, I used to be a waitress and a bartender, my brother’s a chef, and my mother waited tables until I was 10. If there is ONE thing everyone should know, it’s NEVER be mean to the people that handle your food. If this guy was insulting people that could very easily spit in his margerita, I would be more worried about him being stupid than rude!
hipstergatsby
wrote on September 3 2009 @ 12:33 pm: [report]
Really this is a list on 15 signs that a PERSON is annoying. Right? Most (or all) of these are traits women will express also. And to resullins: if you read an article about “15 signs a woman is annoying,” ask yourself if you would consider such an article generalizing about women.
Jewels86
wrote on September 3 2009 @ 12:39 pm: [report]
I’m thankful that my boyfriend doesn’t do any of the above to the extreme. not to say he never interrupts, farts, leaves the toilet seat up etc.. but he’s also not perfect. but I love him just the same..
its when it consistent behaviour that it becomes an issue (as with my ex boyfriend who used to always interrupt, fart during dinner, tell stories over other peoples stories etc)
skywalk
wrote on September 3 2009 @ 12:42 pm: [report]
I think we all have annoying behaviors or bad habits or personality faults whatever you want to call them and the trick is to find someone who is either not bothered by most or can put up with most of yours and you theirs. But it is easier said than done. I’m far from perfect and either is my husband but we make it work, because none of behaviors are deal breakers for either one of us.
SDH
wrote on September 3 2009 @ 01:58 pm: [report]
Re: toilet seats
I’m willing to bet that the women who complain about men not putting the seat down are the VERY SAME women who, when peeing in a public toilet, piss on the seat instead of lifting it. Come on ladies… have some respect for the elderly/infirm/children who aren’t strong/tall enough to squat. LIFT THE SEAT if you’re not going to sit on it anyway!!!
majicksand
wrote on September 3 2009 @ 02:26 pm: [report]
Me and my stellar immune system just go on ahead and sit. I’m not ashamed of it either. Germs are everywhere. You can’t get away no matter how hard you try, and the more you do, the sicker you’re gonna get when they finally catch up to you.
That being said, I think I’ll go make sure my husband put the seat down last time he was in the bathroom.
resullins
wrote on September 3 2009 @ 02:35 pm: [report]
@SDH: How much did we bet? Cause you lost! I sit… I just make sure to wash my ass in the shower!
I pick up his wet towel off the floor/bed/couch/wherever he leaves it… I tend to do the cooking… most of the cleaning… and the laundry. All I’m asking is that he put the seat down when he pees. I still don’t feel like I’m asking too much.
tk_2009
wrote on September 3 2009 @ 04:00 pm: [report]
I always put the seat down because we have thirsty, thirsty dogs. Also, I don’t want things (like my toothbrush!!) falling in an open toilet. It’s not like it’s hard to lift the seat anyway.
Isista
wrote on September 5 2009 @ 11:49 pm: [report]
Hm…well I don’t really have an opinion on the seat thing lol, but I did have to disagree with the one that basically says listen to your friends. I call BS.
My SO is a geeky guy, which I love, because I myself am a geeky girl. Some of my friends don’t understand that, and thus find him weird or annoying when he tangents into a SyFy show he loves or a movie or tech gadgets. I’m sorry, their opinion on the subject doesn’t matter to me. As long as I love him, don’t find it more than the acceptable amount of annoying, and he’s generally polite around them, that’s all I need. My friends do not dictate who I’m with.
Sorry for the rant, it’s just a bit of a pet peeve of mine.
vaiaster
wrote on September 6 2009 @ 09:26 pm: [report]
i once dated someone who carried a few of these traits. especially no. 3, 4, 13, and 15. needless to say, we aren’t together anymore and i married someone else.
hope his soon-to-be fiance’, or possible fiance’ now, can put up with him array of shyte. i hated it.
#16 should be a man still thinks even after a breakup, you are sincerely interested in the events/things happening in his life. hint: i wasn’t nor am i now, thank you.
Knitter79
wrote on September 9 2009 @ 05:41 pm: [report]
Wow. My last boyfriend had all 15 of these annoying traits, along with many others that I was waiting for him to grow out of.
bizzle
wrote on September 10 2009 @ 10:53 am: [report]
i kind of eat like a pig but im working on it…
everybody does some annoying #&@$%. dont forget that you ladies love fixing #&@$% about dudes…
jadoremode
wrote on October 21 2009 @ 04:28 am: [report]
I had an FWB like that except he wanted me to meet his parents. So annoying, so childish. I was so enamored by the fact that he was amazing in bed, I forgot that I hated to be around him unless my tongue was down his throat. Oh and I had an ex boyfriend who annoyed me like that too.
ootie grl
wrote on November 6 2009 @ 08:01 am: [report]
I had an ex who was always fishing for compliments. From every one . It was so irritating. He also talked nonstop about himself. It made me feel like i was part of some eird group therapy session
Frederica Bimble
wrote on November 6 2009 @ 09:54 am: [report]
majicksand: Oh wow! I came to that exact same mathematical conclusion about the seat thing. I, mercifully, live alone now and I wouldn’t get started with any man who made an issue out of a blooming toilet seat.
I don’t want to have to “think” about where I’m sitting in the middle of the night if I wake up half-asleep and some fool has left the toilet open and the seat up so I sit on some piss encrusted ring covered in pubes.
Also, I see it as just a common courtesy if you know it’s going to distress your partner, then part of loving someone is making sacrifices. In this case, closing that damned toilet is the mark of a gentlemen.
Then again, I’m used to men like my brother and my father and my ex-husband - they always closed the toilet, seat and lid. In fact, I wasn’t even aware people were leaving a skanky old toilet open in their homes until I ended up dating a few guys. It’s also vulgar and is the mark of someone who doesn’t care about their surroundings or how the come across when people visit.
My house may be “untidy” but it isn’t filthy and there certainly isn’t a bowl where people crap left wide open.
@hipstergatsby: This is a site for WOMEN - so the article would be about a woman’s MALE partner. It isn’t necessarily geared towards gay women and since that demographic would most likely be small on this site anyway, there aren’t any articles about female “girlfriends.” This isn’t a place for men to come over and whine. If you want to put women down, then there are about 1,000 sites to every 1 site for women - and you can do all the moaning, whining and griping you want with people JUST LIKE YOU. If you want to read about WOMEN’S issues and what women think, then read and give a VALID opinion or just learn, for crying out loud. Funny how men seem to think it’s perfectly ok to come over to a women’s site, moan and complain and try to get attention yet we very rarely see women going to men’s sites and doing the same thing.
resullins
wrote on November 6 2009 @ 10:13 am: [report]
@Frederica: Your point towards Gatsby up there is extraordinarily valid, and one I’ve tried to make to many people many times. So in the interest of not wasting your time, I’ll go ahead and tell you it doesn’t work. I REALLY wish it did…