10 Things Men Forget To Do During Sex

xifeng882
wrote on August 18 2009 @ 11:04 am: [report]

Oh the socks… I hate that. It looks so impossibly awkward. I dated a guy who insisted on always wearing his socks. I couldn’t help at stare at them the entire time. Not sexy

CatGoesNomNom
wrote on August 18 2009 @ 11:09 am: [report]

Oh man, the accuracy of this list just made me head explode. Especially number one. Why do guys think playing with the folds down there feel good? No guys. just the clit, okay? Just the clit.

Oh man and the lubrication. Not being lubed enough can literally make good sex into AWFUL PAINFUL SEX. Guys please please please, a few extra minutes on foreplay can get you soooooo faaaaaar.

Queen Frostine
wrote on August 18 2009 @ 11:25 am: [report]

I like it when a guy plays with the “folds”. If a guy strokes the petals before diving in for the center it’s all the more erotic. I like the build up.

#2, As a married woman with a husband who works three jobs, I’ll take it anyway I can get it. Socks on or off. Hell, he can be in a chicken suit so long as we get it on.

#3, I’ve never needed lube. Just a little dirty talk and foreplay.

*sam*
wrote on August 18 2009 @ 11:26 am: [report]

I agree with suckling our fingers, but do NOT show the same (or ANY) attention to my feet!!! I’m horribly ticklish and unless you want a quick drop kick to the jaw from sheer reflex, I advise you stay away. nothing kills a moment quite like a tooth hitting the wall. :(

Humble Bee
wrote on August 18 2009 @ 11:32 am: [report]

This list was hilarious. Really accurate. I need to print this out and give it to some guys I’ve dated. Such simple things, yet they seem to always “forget” for the sake of their pleasure before ours.

writergirl
wrote on August 18 2009 @ 11:40 am: [report]

@Sam—//nothing kills a moment quite like a tooth hitting the wall. :(// LMAO.

But I agree.  Stay away from my feet. 

Regarding #1—do men really not know where it is?  I’ve NEVER come across that.

Rose
wrote on August 18 2009 @ 11:47 am: [report]

I’m the worst for keeping my socks on, although I sure don’t like it when a man does.  I don’t mean to be unsexy, I just have very cold feet…

DancerNinja
wrote on August 18 2009 @ 11:58 am: [report]

Number 1 made me laugh. In my experience, they start off really good and then are so easy distracted they might as well be fondling my belly button.

Vitally_Florin
wrote on August 18 2009 @ 12:15 pm: [report]

Girls, take your man’s socks off yourself. Undress each other. C’mon. Although… I’ve heard keeping your feet warm increases a woman’s odds at orgasm, just sayin’.

dearface
wrote on August 18 2009 @ 12:34 pm: [report]

#3.
Lube. Lube. Lube. 
Don’t assume you can just “stick it in” or that if we’re not well lubricated that you’re doing something wrong (though you might be) or that there’s something wrong with us.

EarthGoddess
wrote on August 18 2009 @ 12:36 pm: [report]

I don’t mind socks at all, and I usually have mine on the whole time. I wouldn’t be able to concentrate if my toes were cold. LOL

I’m also not a huge fan of lube ... I can get there just fine myself, thank you. Nothing artificial required.

william.paul
wrote on August 18 2009 @ 12:50 pm: [report]

my fingers are big and it is small.

It’s not that I get distracted, its just a pain in the ass to re-aquire a target several times.

QTGirl
wrote on August 18 2009 @ 01:20 pm: [report]

I don’t like to use a lot lube because it makes my man feel I’m more into it than I may be.  When it starts getting a little drier he knows it’s time to switch things up to get it going again.  To me, it’s like faking an orgasm - using lots of lube doesn’t teach him to use a multidimensional approach to lovemaking.

Loves2Spooge
wrote on August 18 2009 @ 01:21 pm: [report]

Personally, I leave the socks on because I know how much it bothers many of you.  Why?  Because I’m a giver and I care.

Queen Frostine
wrote on August 18 2009 @ 01:23 pm: [report]

Vitally_Florin, YES! There is (for me) a direct connection to warm feet and orgasms.

CatGoesNomNom
wrote on August 18 2009 @ 01:28 pm: [report]

@QTGirl, I agree completely, and I wish more guys were like yours, in that they restart the foreplay once it starts drying up. A lot of guys don’t. I’ve never used lube (for the same reason as you) but I do know that some women need it for different reasons, like menopause, or hormonal issues that can cause vaginal dryness.

And there’s nothing wrong with playing with the folds, but my problem is when they lick and rub them like it feels as good as the clit, when it doesn’t. Sure it’s great when he pays attention to the whole area, but the clit is like the main stage, ya know? Maybe guys think the whole area is as sensitive as the clit. Who knows. Maybe some of the Frisky men can weigh in here?

I do have to say the big one for me is not using too much force on the clit period! Either with fingers or tongue. It is sooooo sensitive that it doesn’t need to be mashed right off the bat like an xbox controller. For me, all thats needed is a light flick of the tongue, or a finger just gliding over the clit. None of this mashing and pushing and twisting. OUCH.

loveitlala
wrote on August 18 2009 @ 01:31 pm: [report]

QTgirl… I totally get you.  I do use lube after the o, though, since nothing can keep me wet at that point.

binaryoctopus
wrote on August 18 2009 @ 01:36 pm: [report]

You can talk about bare feet as much as you want, but nothing is quite as sexy as a man who is down to his business socks.

IrishErin
wrote on August 18 2009 @ 01:50 pm: [report]

Re: #1 It is a bundle of nerves…not a panic button. Light touch boys…light touch.

konstantine
wrote on August 18 2009 @ 02:02 pm: [report]

One major rule here that is being forgotten: when a woman is saying “oh yeah, right there, just like that…” she means STAY THERE AND KEEP DOING WHAT YOU ARE DOING. I’m not sure why guys think those moans are just code for “go ahead and get even more into it, therefore losing the momentum you had just amazingly built up…”

Rhythm matters, men. When you’ve found one she likes, ignore your own excitement and stick with it or be prepared for a long night.

Queen Frostine
wrote on August 18 2009 @ 02:02 pm: [report]

@IrishErin,

LOLOLOLOLOL!!!! Seriously, I think it’s a result of all the video gaming.

catscratchfever
wrote on August 18 2009 @ 03:05 pm: [report]

@binaryoctopus - hilarious, but business socks can be dangerous. 

In one of my earliest sexual experiences, my boyfriend at the time decided to create a romantic atmosphere by lighting candles all over his room.  He started going down on me and things got heated when one of his socks caught on fire while it was still on his foot.  I don’t think I ended up getting lucky, because he didn’t think that was nearly as funny as I did.

stormygirl
wrote on August 18 2009 @ 07:07 pm: [report]

@IrishErin LOLOLOLOLLOL!!!!!! too funny and so true! Really guys, it’s a very sensitive bundle of nerves. maybe it’s from messing around with video game joysticks and tv remotes. and guys please don’t wear socks. very disturbing. not sexy.

DancingGeek
wrote on August 18 2009 @ 07:24 pm: [report]

I love a man with a foot fetish

becknee
wrote on August 18 2009 @ 07:40 pm: [report]

@konstantine AGREED! “Yes, yes, yes” means “keep doing what you’re doing,” not “shift to warp speed”! When you say that, and they do *that*, it’s like, well, we may as well just stop right here; nobody’s getting off today.

Sara.B
wrote on August 18 2009 @ 08:00 pm: [report]

I absolutely agree konstantine and becknee! Stay in the rhythm guys! It’s not a race or a contest. There’s a reason Barry White tunes work so well.

Also, please keep in mind the last time you shaved. I like a little scruff but there are parts of me that do not need dermabrasion.

DesertMagnolia
wrote on August 18 2009 @ 08:53 pm: [report]

My man made me believe in socks being sexy during sex.  My guy won me over the first time we had sex when he rocked that sexy, toned body of his, long, surfer boy beach-blond mane, and short athletic socks (left on during sex).  His moves in bed and out of it were superb then and still are.  Once in a while he takes he socks OFF when we make love, and I am actually disappointed!  Also, I love having my vaginal lips stroked lightly as well as licked.  The clit is not the only thing sensitive on this woman! And no one on here mentioned the g-spot!  The clit is not the only thing that helps bring on orgasms!  In my case many things do - just skin on skin contact, kissing, him breathing on me or holding me, everything!  And lube is always good to have on hand just in case - but I rarely need it because I stay excited with my man. This is a good article, though, and my past lovers could have benefited from it quite a bit!

spark
wrote on August 18 2009 @ 08:56 pm: [report]

i don’t think all women NEED commercial lube.

for most of us, jessica, our own fluids ARE indeed sufficient.

HayleyIB
wrote on August 19 2009 @ 01:33 am: [report]

@agrees with cat.

stiffinp
wrote on August 19 2009 @ 07:05 am: [report]

Hey, this is a great article. Just remember: as a guy, we are not “Psychics”! Please feel free to speak up, do some extra moaning to make sure we understand where the pleasure zones are. Please do not our the ears to guide our heads. That would be a turn off (at least for me).

pornqueen
wrote on August 19 2009 @ 08:07 am: [report]

For those of us who have pushed children out, lube is a MUST, I mean sometimes I can do it on my own but if if feels dry, use something, spit even but somethin’!
#9: so very true sometimes…he looks so damn focused on it that it feels like he’s doing a chore, lol.
I would just add that they need to take cues from our moaning, heavy breathing, dirty talk, body movement or lack there of, to know what to do OR not do. Makes sense? At least that’s how I operate…

ahw
wrote on August 19 2009 @ 12:06 pm: [report]

So true…this list is so true.  Except for the socks.  They’ve never bothered me much.

feinicstine
wrote on August 19 2009 @ 01:37 pm: [report]

I’ve gotta back up the discussion on #1.  Focus, but not too intensely.  It is capable of pain as well.

bogart4017
wrote on August 19 2009 @ 01:50 pm: [report]

@writergirl-if he doesnt know where it is you’re dealing with the wrong one. Location is lesson number one.
@pornqueen-so right! The breathing is key to knowing that we’re in the right spot. Mine is a VERY HEAVY breather. Also pay attention to angle changes.
Remember guys there are also all kinds of explicitly non-sexual parts to a woman’s body. They differ on each woman (back of neck, back of knee, lower left arm, calf)but once you find them and know how to work them its payday for both of you! Good luck!

sparklestar
wrote on August 19 2009 @ 02:05 pm: [report]

I didn’t realise I actually needed lube until recently. I was seein the doctor for pain during sex and it was lube all along.

As a bi woman who has had trouble staying on the clot I sympathise so I have no comment there!

Shasta
wrote on August 19 2009 @ 03:20 pm: [report]

I’m feeling bad for the guys at this point.

Women are such a mystery and its clear just from these posts that every one needs something a little different.

@Jesica- How did YOUR boyfriend feel about this article?

Jessica Wakeman
wrote on August 19 2009 @ 03:25 pm: [report]

@Jessica Oh, he’s perfect. This particular guys are all exes.

Pinky
wrote on August 19 2009 @ 03:31 pm: [report]

And lets have some moans and groans ! Especially when you cum. I’ve been with couple guys that were so quiet I wondered if they even came, but they did. LOL. I do not appreciate men who are quiet during sex, its hard to tell if they are even enjoying it and that in return turns me off. If he is vocal and telling me how good I feel it makes me hotter then hell and I want to please him all the more.  Are some men quiet because they think its a sign of weakness to show emotion during sex ? Does expressing how good it feels vocally make them feel somehow vulnerable ? This has always been a pet peeve with me. Fortunatley the partner I have spent many years with has always been vocal and it was wonderful. But I have been with silent Sam’s as well. Turn off.

Pinky
wrote on August 19 2009 @ 03:32 pm: [report]

As for the lube….wow…I’m 50 and have never not once used lube for vaginal sex, ever. Its not needed.

becknee
wrote on August 19 2009 @ 04:24 pm: [report]

@Sara.B LOL! We should institute the Barry White Rhythm Standard for pleasing a woman.

writergirl
wrote on August 19 2009 @ 04:33 pm: [report]

@bogart—no what I meant was every guy I’ve ever been with knew exactly where it was.  That’s why I was kind of surprised it is such a big issue.

nicefrenchgurl
wrote on August 19 2009 @ 10:16 pm: [report]

hum is it a french thing? but my biggest turn on is cuddles, kisses, etc. so i guess you could add to the list ‘men who forget to be cuddly before/during/after’ ‘
not that i mind rough playing from time to time

spanishbutterfly
wrote on August 20 2009 @ 09:41 am: [report]

good list.. i must say keepin ur socks on doesnt bother me. I prefer to have my folds touched and my clit slowly licked/sucked on ..I thought i was the only one who didnt understand why men pay so much attention to the vagina, i cum from stimuli to the clit. and breathing an moanin in my ear takes me over the top… I love when my bf is ready to cum and he is in my ear sayin my name over n over again ....dam it ... now i want him lol that has to be the best for me

Cori L
wrote on August 20 2009 @ 11:05 am: [report]

Can’t agree w/all of the suggestions - but it’s a quick entertaining read anyway.
#3 - Speak for yourself Sandpaper Sally
#4 - Dirty talk’s cool, if you don’t take your lines from a Max Hardcore flick.
#5 - A dry tongue during oral?? Doesn’t that mean a dry choocha?  New partner needed stat!
#9 - Smile!?! I don’t need you smiling at me goofball.

william.paul
wrote on August 20 2009 @ 11:09 am: [report]

@Cori L

#4, you’re familiar with Max Hardcore’s films?

CheeeeEEEEse
wrote on August 20 2009 @ 11:17 am: [report]

@Cori L & william.paul: Shame on both of you. That man is a terrible human being.

william.paul
wrote on August 20 2009 @ 11:20 am: [report]

@cheeeeEEEEse

I didn’t say I was a fan. I’ve just seen his work. Kinda like Heinrich Himmler.

moonblossom
wrote on August 20 2009 @ 11:34 am: [report]

@Irisherin - LMAO! SO freakin’ true. What is up with the “button pushing?” It doesn’t work that way!

Cori L
wrote on August 20 2009 @ 12:01 pm: [report]

@william.paul - familiar w/Max Hardcore & his jail sentence

@CheeeeEEEEse - that’s my dad

CheeeeEEEEse
wrote on August 20 2009 @ 12:06 pm: [report]

@Cori L: Sucks to be you.

Cori L
wrote on August 20 2009 @ 12:14 pm: [report]

@CheeeeEEEEse Yes CheeeeEEEse it does.  Keeping Thanksgiving dinner urine-free was always a challenge growing up.

william.paul
wrote on August 20 2009 @ 12:20 pm: [report]

@Cori L well isn’t that just lovely?

CheeeeEEEEse
wrote on August 20 2009 @ 12:26 pm: [report]

@Cori L: I bet it was tough with all those tarted up women on rollerskates sitting on ‘daddy’ too.

JennyPurr
wrote on August 20 2009 @ 01:57 pm: [report]

HAHA!  I love #6.  That *used* to be one of my major hot zones.  Until I met my current BF, who also enjoys that area more than starving infants.  I’ve invested in Udder Cream.  Poor things are on the verge of attack from his pinching claws all day and night.

hudsonkk30
wrote on August 20 2009 @ 06:46 pm: [report]

oh my god my boyfriend ALWAYS wears his flippin socks!  he says he needs them for “better grip” i’m pretty sure he’s just to lazy to take them off ugh

Kat
wrote on August 21 2009 @ 04:52 pm: [report]

Lube is so gross…. I’ve never needed it. To say that ALL women need it is sort of silly. Isn’t it what our ladyparts are FOR?

JennyPurr
wrote on August 21 2009 @ 05:05 pm: [report]

@ Kat Congratulations. 
BTW, it sounds like you’re implying that women who can’t produce enough lubrication naturally have broken vaginas.

How is lube gross?

Red_Lady
wrote on August 21 2009 @ 05:27 pm: [report]

Good list.  Though I’d reverse #1 - there’s more than just the clit down there, and I enjoy a little action all over.  Near the end, then yeah, focus on the clit. 

@Kat, that’s true, not ALL women need lube all the time, and our lady parts do produce lubrication, but it’s not always enough.  That’s why we have spit, and/or lube.  I’m also wondering though, how is lube gross?

Kat
wrote on August 21 2009 @ 08:24 pm: [report]

Wow, Jenny, way to take it wrong.

I don’t like the smell or texture of lube. Even the “nicely scented” stuff still smells gross to me, and all lube(even water-based) feels sticky and requires so much washing off. Never liked it. I think if I stopped producing as much naturally, I’d either use spit or swear off any but oral sex. That’s how icky I find the sensation of lube.

JennyPurr
wrote on August 22 2009 @ 03:08 pm: [report]

@Kat I apologize.  I made a snap judgement on your tone and totally read you wrong. 
I feel I come across a good deal of women who almost seem to brag about not needing to use lube, like if you need it there’s something wrong with you.  Anyway, I shouldn’t have assumed you meant it that way.  Forgive me?

But I do feel you on the texture issue.  It’s all a matter of finding the perfect formula.  Personally, I steer clear of silicone base lube and don’t like to be “drenched” in it either.

develange
wrote on August 22 2009 @ 04:20 pm: [report]

if a man is having trouble finding her clit, I pray that she will show him where it is. After that, there is no excuse.

What’s wrong with lube? I began using lube when I started having rougher sex, more intense orgasms. I don’t view lube as some sort of deficiency…there’s skin, and it gets chafed, especially the clit and the opening.  Sometimes your body is tired or drunk and doesn’t want to cooperate.

Socks are unsexy if they are dirty, smelly, or too big.

What’s wrong with nip play? It’s less painful when you’re really aroused.

To each her own.

Beast
wrote on August 26 2009 @ 11:17 am: [report]

well as a man I do quite a bit of foreplay, the problem is that my girls clit is very.. ticklish.. i’ve tried with miltiple fingers to create a wider base… tried a little more pressure (as less pressure or just grazing it makes it worse) Although breasts are definitely my favorite part of a woman except for the vagina for obvious reasons lol.

Its hard to get things going when she’s laughing though because her clit is ticklish.. *sigh*

i read one person that mentioned us not being very vocal during sex.. well at least in my case I’m just not that vocal.. i mean it feels good (at least to me) when I’m getting close to orgasim but before its all just building up to it and there isn’t too much feeling honestly.. i mean it feels good.. but i dont think NEARLY as good as it feels to you. I dunno maybe its just me. And the “concentrating” looks is us trying to hold our orgasim back to we can stay inside you longer and keep that feeling going longer because that does feel great.

As far as the socks.. i never wear them during sex.

wild-ting
wrote on August 27 2009 @ 05:44 pm: [report]

Yeah, why the hell don’t guys know where the clitoris is?! Didn’t you take health 101/anatomy? If not, we sure as hell know you watch porn.

Um…don’t suck my fingers or toes. But play with my nips for hours on end.

CheeeeEEEEse
wrote on August 27 2009 @ 09:25 pm: [report]

@wild-ting: I sure as hell know where it is. It’s just that I’m dumb to what to do with it. I get confused with noises, hair grabbing, and pelvic thrusts. I was dumb to not understand the meaning behind them till it was too late…:(

sunrise
wrote on September 6 2009 @ 12:06 am: [report]

one problem i’ve had with guys and my clitoris… rubbing everywhere feels somewhat good, but there’s only a teensy tiny spot that feels so great it will make me come. so a guy can hit it, and be going really good for a minute, then adjust his hand a fraction of an inch because he’s at a weird angle or something and it’s like, “oops, its gone!” so frustrating, for both of us… i feel bad when he’s honestly trying hard to please me and i have to make him fix it every thirty seconds.

bampow
wrote on September 7 2009 @ 11:09 am: [report]

some of these are great.
although, on #6, my nips aren’t that sensitive so i’ve always wished guys would be rougher…

and reading some of the above comments, wow. i wish i was luckier and didn’t need lube, but unfortunately it’s necessary for me nearly every single time or else i’m in for some SERIOUS painful time no matter how wet i get :(

also oh dear! totally agree on everyone on the vocal part. my last guy is so quiet when he comes i honestly wondered if he did. not that he needs to be fluent with dirty talk or moaning or anything. it’s just slightly confusing when he suddenly stops and you realise… oh, he HAS come.

CheezeDoodles
wrote on September 7 2009 @ 01:48 pm: [report]

Well, even though the list says “it’s right there, it doesn’t move,” I sure feel like mine is wearing roller skates at times.  Hell, if I have a hard time finding that elusive sucker, what chance does my guy have?  SHEESH.

On the fingers & toes thing:  I am 200% with it for fingers.  Touch my feet, and I’ll beat you senseless. The toe thing is just too dumb for me, smacks of cheeseball porn; plus, I hate anyone screwing with my tootsies.

Socks in bed…never cool on a guy.  My guy thinks white socks & sex are “cute.”  When my guy comes to the romance party with socks still on, I always laugh (hard) and tease him by saying, “You know, your getaway will be safer and less painful if you leave the shoes on too.”

We’ve been together for four years.  He only runs when chased.

The dirty-talk thing?  Spot-on…but it’s critical that your guy knows what level of smut to incorporate, lest he gross you out.  I’m lucky that mine is good at the Sexy Dirty Talk.  It makes up for the socks. 

coolestguyever
wrote on September 8 2009 @ 12:15 am: [report]

I know a lot of women don’t like there toes sucked, but I found that my girlfriend likes it when I kiss the bottom of her feet softly on the arch of the foot… The feet have lots of nerve endings and if you ever read or studied reflexology, it talks about it. It’s big in Asia and other parts of the world. So when I kiss the arches of her feet, it sends sexual sensations throughout her whole body. And when I told my friends about it, they all got positive results from their girlfriends/wives also.

Jewels86
wrote on September 9 2009 @ 08:36 am: [report]

First, my feet are entirely too ticklish for ayone to kiss, let alone suck them. They would probably get a Jackie Chan like kick in the throat.

second, I like lube.. especially if it is warming or tingling.. it just heightens sensation.. not to say i use it everytime.. but it prevents any question of dryness or chafing.

TheFSD
wrote on September 15 2009 @ 12:03 am: [report]

I gotta admit, I don’t often take my socks off or use lube, but for good reason! Everyone in my family has very sweaty feet. We just can’t help it. SO, it’s just courteous for me to wear fresh and thick cotton socks before getting hot and sweaty, just in case. Also, my wife and I only use lube once in a great while, and it’s only the Us+Them line from KY for the extra sensation. She get pretty well lubricated naturally. Truth be told, sometimes too much so where neither of us can feel anything and just give up.

BedRocka
wrote on September 15 2009 @ 12:39 pm: [report]

#1 is almost like the equivalent of catching a greased up piglet running around the mud wearing a set of oiled up mittens ...

Jitterbugs232
wrote on September 25 2009 @ 09:28 am: [report]

1.for sure its like hello, I need attention too not just my boobs

2.I hate the socks thing.

9.This one for sure!!! He has this serious sex face and it makes me wonder if he is enjoying himself too, he is just so focused

gamer_girl79
wrote on September 25 2009 @ 01:26 pm: [report]

Dear Beast,

first of all, congrats on being the type of guy who doesn’t give up on tricky bedroom business. I’m bi and I know from experience that girls (as well as guys) can be tricky to figure out, since everyone is so different. If you haven’t already tried this, aim for the area just above her clit, with the flat of your finger or tongue and a little more pressure than normal. Works for me, hopefully it works for her too.

The rest of you that are arguing about bottled vs natural lube, every woman is different… certain times of the month require more artificial lube for some women. Another factor is if you’re the type who enjoys sex during your period and you’re a tampon user, you need some artificial lube to get started sometimes. Forgive the mental images that may bring up, but it’s true just the same.

For those of you who dislike “sticky” lube, my recommendation is “add magic” from BootyParlor… I never liked lube until I tried that stuff, it’s very silky and doesn’t get sticky unless you use buckets of it. It also washes off easily and has no perfumes or dyes so it’s nice for those of us who are allergic to everything on the planet

SamL
wrote on September 26 2009 @ 07:12 am: [report]

The socks are just a major killer for me…. In fact I’d get up and leave if someone I knew wanted to get physical whilst wearing socks…. (well, if it was bed based physicality.)

Sam xxx

B Khuu
wrote on September 26 2009 @ 07:48 am: [report]

I seriously didn’t think I would be in absolute agreement with this list until I read each one. It was also like a reminder. (Damn, has it been that long?!?!?) I’m pretty opinionated about almost anything and I’m sure I can name a few deal breakers myself but this list kept me saying, “Oh yeah!... totally!”

UGH! I have always said that thing about the socks…. those damn socks!

323Felicity
wrote on September 27 2009 @ 09:57 pm: [report]

socks are kind of silly but they aren’t that terrible. and i have to use lube every time. :( so everybody stop gloating about how you don’t need it. and i agree with whoever said that guys should make more noise in bed. you don’t have to like scream or anything, just a little something to show you’re enjoying yourself.

Kat
wrote on September 27 2009 @ 10:07 pm: [report]

Uhhhhh…. Noone’s…gloating. Gloating? Really?

To state women “actually need to be pretty drenched with water-based lube for business time” is just simply plain old FALSE.

It’s not, I repeat, NOT an across the board rule for guys to remember. I wish the women who DO need lube wouldn’t take it so personally when women who don’t need it point out they are PERPLEXED by this sex suggestion.

P.S. Sometimes too much natural lube can be AS MUCH of a problem as no natural lube. If I get too TOO turned on there’s just no friction.

_jsw_
wrote on September 27 2009 @ 10:21 pm: [report]

amanda2m has been reported.

theattack
wrote on September 27 2009 @ 10:24 pm: [report]

@jsw, I reported too! What a strange coincidence we’d both find that inappropriate. (Not really at all)

_jsw_
wrote on September 27 2009 @ 10:26 pm: [report]

@theattack: Well, in all fairness, it was pretty good advice.

For misogynistic sociopaths, that is.

_jsw_
wrote on September 27 2009 @ 10:31 pm: [report]

@theattack: I meant “For misogynistic sociopaths who know how to use cut and paste, that is.”

theattack
wrote on September 27 2009 @ 10:45 pm: [report]

@jsw: Clearly, demonstrating that new and confusing copy/paste technology declares superior intelligence and a sixth sense for making convincing arguments.

theattack
wrote on September 27 2009 @ 10:50 pm: [report]

Also, this is a prime example of why I’m afraid to date people that I don’t have personal character references for. Talk about a potential one night stand gone terribly awry.

CaleeKay
wrote on September 27 2009 @ 11:59 pm: [report]

i dont know if anyone brought this up, because i stopped reading halfway down..
but to #1. The whole guys stop when they hear us moaning comments, its soo true.
Think of it this way, you like US to keep the rythm when we jack you off or it ruins things, we are the SAME way. YES, we get tired too, but we continue anyway, so feel the pain in those fingers of yours and keep going!

and #9 concentration thing, cracks me up. I often catch my boyfriend looking like that as well, and i can never help myself from laughing.

great list actually.

SamL
wrote on September 28 2009 @ 02:13 am: [report]

@theattack…. that’s remarkable understatement there. ”...a potential one night stand gone terribly awry.”

That sounds like a potential one night stand that-I’d-lay-serious-money-on-that-would-end-in-tears! His or mine is irrelevant, but certainly some way on from “terribly awry.”

To everyone with any sort of grip on sanity, please, please stay safe out there!

FriskyJuLieT
wrote on October 2 2009 @ 07:37 pm: [report]

Smiling is overrated especially during sex. I dont want it to be easy for him, i want him to work for it, I want a look on his face that says “OH God that feels so damn good” - no, this doesnt constitute a smile. Babies usually smile right before they fart! Besides if your man is constantly talking dirty talk and calling you his Adorable Baby-Girl - you wouldnt be concerned with his smile. And if you are getting some really GREAT Sex - you should be bent over the kitchen table and he should have his Cock solely in your Ass - you won’t know if he’s Smiling or not!

skorea09
wrote on October 3 2009 @ 09:16 pm: [report]

Hey, I’m a guy and when I get home from my day as a stockbroker, the first thing my wife and I do is have sex.  We strip each other.  She loves taking me out of my suit, tie, shirt and pulling off my wingtips.  But she wants me to keep my socks on because my feet get cold very quickly unless it is warm outside.  I have two pairs of wingtips, both thick-soled Florsheims, and she gets turned on by their smell, my footprints on the insoles and my sweaty socks, and I get turned on when she gets turned on.  These things (among others) tell her I’m working hard to support our family and she find sit very sexy.  So, during sex, I leave my socks on!

Psych-chick
wrote on October 11 2009 @ 02:07 am: [report]

First of all I would like to say that I LOVE that there are guys on here that comment and give perspective.  Secondly, so true on almost all counts!  Although I do love some nipple biting there at the end!  Thirdly, I totally want to forward this to my husband, so he knows that it’s not just me that says these things, and also that just because his stupid baby-mama was nice and wet every time, the few times they did it (read: illicit sex will do that for a girl), does not mean that if a woman is not that way that there is something wrong.  Especially when stress levels are sky high, especially when you’ve been married for a while and especially when the woman is on birth control (this is why I’m not the baby-mama).

rockbody
wrote on November 25 2009 @ 01:11 pm: [report]

Ok guys listen up…

I’ve been with my girl friend 3 years. I love intimacy…I always prepare to give her my best each and every time before, during and after sex. First I quickly shave my face smooth and then splash on her many favorites colognes. I like attitude or black…it drives them crazy. I check my finger nails and clip them….your toes too! Next I burn a few candles coupled with turning on low watt light or a red light so that we can still see all our body parts….expressions of the face is a turn on but the atmosphere is fun generate excitement, followed by cool soft music in the back ground….thats optional. We like it both ways and turned down low…it just a nice mix once in awhile. She puts on sexy purfume that drives me wild….

I start by working from her face downwards to the promise land. She may start on me…we like to mix it up…I start by kissing her soft lips, cheeks and ears…kissing and NOT licking her….and always plan journey with her by talking dirty and breathing hard…on how I’m going to make her moan with pleasure, take it deep and slow until she explodes….you get the point. I tease her to the point she begs me to put it in…nothing is more powerful then a women ready to come before sliding your tool inside. I move to her neck then to her beautiful breasts…paying attention to both sides…the nipples are your clues…they rise with joy…take a reading guys. Women will clue you in on the right amount of tweaking the nipples with your fingers…use your tongue and suck them like a baby…move to the mid secton around the naval with your tongue. Massage her naval area with your hands to…and then inch your way to the grand prize. Remember, this is exciting to me…At this point I want to drill her big time…but my journey gets a better. A women loves her clit gently rubbed and tongued…I prefer to use both ways…I always circle around her clit by teasing her…..and then perform a pass over the top….just to say…I coming to get you. Don’t wait…I may only circle her clit for about a minute which to her seems an hour. When you get on stage she will be moaning….she is hot and ready. I will stay on stage and perfom my magic act with my fingers and tongue…sucking on it…and playing with it as if it was an new born egg. I will even drive my tool just inside and rub it on her clit….for another arousal. I’m always very vocal letting her know how turned on I am….wanting to nail her now or telling her that she is going to get it soon, hard and deep….It all works….And don’t forget the G-Spot….I hit the area every time with her…thats another story by itself…I always give my girl 2 orgasums per time….sometimes 3 if we stay with it…but it takes practice guys. Be a tease…stop thinking with your tool…use it to your advantage.

Stay as long as she needs you on center stage…its great…you can hear her moan with pleasure….she is actually telling you how your doing….and moaning does not mean…rapid fire….let her get to the orgasum on her terms, not yours. I’ll tell you this….if you follow this lead, it won’t take long with her either. The lub thing….I can actaully see my women gush with lub streaming from her viginal area everytime I do this with her…I love watching that…it turns me on.

When you she has reached her summit….she will honor you like a hero…and give it back 10 times at your pleasure….deep, fast, slow, quick, rough or jack hammer…show your queen how your a master of sex…a god of sex. All women are different, but I do know this…my sex abilities has never steered me wrong. My girl gives me the thumbs up. I never wear socks either…I’m to active in bed for any clothes…and I get my women so hot she has never requested socks…I always ask if they want me to suck toes…thats up to them. I’m not afraid of learning…and how I got to be a sex machine…chat with your partner….“what a great idea guys” A women in bed…is the most beautfil thing you can imagine. I cherish every minute I get.

Good Luck!

Psych-chick
wrote on November 26 2009 @ 01:26 am: [report]

Can someone please report “rockbody”?  That’s getting pretty ridiculous.  I would but I can’t send email right now.

ChiefPoundherhard
wrote on November 30 2009 @ 02:14 pm: [report]

I have a comment about the socks. I do this to my girlfriend all the time.(leave them on) She hates it. I see it as degrading. Whenever, i leave my socks on i know they are on and i usually Give it to her really hard and fast.

Sometimes she works real hard to get them off and I give in. Other times, after a good hard shagging and…im laying there not trying to drip on her to much i point down and smile. It makes me feel good to get one on her. Seeing all the women on here that hate this makes it even more rewarding.

Also, I find that blowing on the clit works wonders.

As for the lube my girlfriend never dries up on me unless she is letting me get her in the middle of the night.  Usually she insists on using it just for anal sex. Which i totally understand.

sclingerie
wrote on December 4 2009 @ 02:04 pm: [report]

My boyfriend always leaves his socks and I hate it. Nothing sexy about the socks to me! Take them off please!

MintJulep
wrote on December 8 2009 @ 05:11 am: [report]

I don’t care about socks bc I always wear mine.  That’s not where my focus is anyways.  But I agree with:
#10 - why just a little lick-y lick-y and zoom on to Vagina-ville?!  Stay there!  To be honest I’d just have the “O” off that alone…super hot spot.
#1 - Am I alone where I don’t like finger-action?  Aw man, guys only need to stimulate the clitoris, but some doofs like to ram their fingers deep inside, which gets me super-angry, then it’s all over.  Do not pass go, do not collect $200.  Maybe it’s just the idiots I was with.

MintJulep
wrote on December 8 2009 @ 05:17 am: [report]

...and why is everyone trippin’ about lube?  we all know everyone’s body is dif.  but i suggest getting your clit pierced (had mine for 2 years now). and if you should find the right guy to suck on it, you’d be up to your ears in lube.

eden
wrote on December 8 2009 @ 05:37 am: [report]

If a guy sucked my fingers and smiled down at me while giving me little pecks instead of a full blown snog I would think he was a #&@$% psycho.

Oreo
wrote on December 8 2009 @ 06:11 am: [report]

Lets get one thing straight right now:

Men do not “tenderly suckle on fingers.”  This is a female behavior.  Stop asking your men to be women.

And few words are as repulsive as “snog.”  I’ll take the c-word over that.

christophereliot
wrote on December 8 2009 @ 07:36 am: [report]

s almost like the equivalent of catching a greased up piglet running around the mud wearing a set of oiled up mittens ...

MintJulep
wrote on December 8 2009 @ 10:03 am: [report]

@eden snog?

catgirlll
wrote on December 8 2009 @ 11:11 am: [report]

So where are 10 things women forget to do? I would love to know.

Yodar Critch
wrote on December 8 2009 @ 11:12 am: [report]

Sounds like the best advice is to eschew any list and just take the time to communicate with, and learn about, YOUR partner.

After all, what other people may like or dislike should not be that important.  What is important is what YOUR partner likes and dislikes.

Taking the time to learn about your partner as an individual is the best investment for a good relationship. 

Yodar Critch
wrote on December 8 2009 @ 11:16 am: [report]

Oreo,

What is repulsive about the term “snog”?

Snog is just the verb form of Snogging which means to kiss, cuddle, hug, snuggle…...

http://www.thefreedictionary.com/snogging

Oreo
wrote on December 8 2009 @ 05:40 pm: [report]

It’s the word itself…it just sounds awful.  Every time I hear it, I picture the scene from “A Christmas Story” where the little brother eats his mashed potatoes without using his hands (“who’s mommy’s little piggie”)

onewriter
wrote on December 10 2009 @ 07:50 pm: [report]

@rockbody keep it up if that’s what you like…and works for you. sounds good to me

Lube: I have needed it.  With my ex husband.  With my current SO, I’m ready almost instantly and at almost any time of the month…it just depends on your level of involvement maybe?

Socks:  No, it’s not sexy, but it’s the equivalent of my telling him that I want him so badly I am not going to bother getting him completely undressed…

Talking during sex:  Yes, it turns me on to know he’s turned on, and it’s nice to hear when you’ve hit a spot that is particularly yummy that night.  It’s also a turn on to get the occasional dirty talk when it’s not a consistant sex thing, because, again, you know he’s massively turned on.

Nipples:  Don’t ignore them.  It tightens the uterus and feels reeeeeaally good when they are licked, nibbled, and sucked on.  Take as long as you want.

Oral sex:  If he’s down there, with no 5 o’clock shadow, in the general area, and he is obviously enjoying himself, I have no complaints.  He can lick any part he wants. 

Look of concentration vs. smile?  I want a smile after sex…during?  would be weird.  I like seeing him concentrate on what I am doing to/for him.  That look is sexy.

But as has been said several times, each to his own.  Definitely the best thing would be to talk with your partner and be open about what you want.  If you can’t do that, you get what you deserve/reap what you sow…

symone
wrote on December 13 2009 @ 08:10 pm: [report]

#1 I disagree with.  Not so much the location (lol), but there is more to my vagina than just the clit.  I will be terribly bored with you if you just played with it and not the folds (considering that my “G” is just under it buried within those folds—hint hint). Do me a favor, and let your tongue wander…I wont mind.  Just pay good attention to #5 b/c nothing says good oral like cottonmouth :\

#2 LOL spot on!! What’s funny is when they wear the white knee high socks—all the way up. Happened to me once…had to hold back the giggles.

#3 From reading the comments, I have to say to each his own. I personally dont need it.

#6 Considering mine are pierced…if you pinch, there will be problems. But by all means, make a pit stop there. Trust me, they are VERY sensitive.

Great read :]

Colinboudreaux
wrote on December 25 2009 @ 12:20 pm: [report]

I disagree about the socks comments. I always wear those real high socks up the knees during sex, the kind that NBA players used to wear in the 1980s. I keep several pairs in my nightstand next to my bed.

B Khuu
wrote on December 26 2009 @ 02:04 pm: [report]

Also… put on the list that they just plain forget the rest of the body and erogenous zones when they’re so focused on the va-jay-jay. We have a neck, legs, back… etc.

onewriter
wrote on December 26 2009 @ 02:07 pm: [report]

When they really care, they don’t “forget”...otherwise, why bother, it’s too much trouble.

magjoy
wrote on December 27 2009 @ 07:48 pm: [report]

Socks;
If your feet are cold, it’s going to be very distracting and take away from his A game.  Let him have his socks, it’s not the end of the world, and yes, it helps with the friction on the sheets.  Do you really want cold feet brushing up against your calves anyway? I wear socks because my feet get super cold.
Sorry, the socks are NOT coming off!

The clit. Yes, I believe every man knows where it’s at technically. However, it moves!  It’s attached loosely by pliable flesh and moves, a lot. Especially when it’s wet.  And yes, it’s a bundle of nerves. This bundle starts at the pelvic bone area (top of the whole vag area) and runs all the way down to the entrance.
There are also several nerve endings all over the folds.  Take advantage of this if your body digs it.

As for them smiling.. really?  have you ever seen your own O face? 

The dreaded TOES.  eeew, I know.
Ok, the two toes next to your big toe?  the sides have a lot nerve endings that are VERY stimulatin, sex wise. 
After reading all of the responses I think one thing many women don’t realize is there is no hard and fast manual for sex. for a woman or a guy. We all like things differently.  Some like to be fingered, some don’t.  Some like lube, some don’t.  Some like our nipples tweaked, others don’t.  The most important thing is that you convey this info to the guy you’re with.  I think this is why so many guys seem clueless.
They’re not all that clueless, they just don’t know your likes and dislikes and their basing it on previous experience. If their last 2-3 ladies liked being fingered.. you’ll probably end up getting fingered unless you say something!

I don’t think many women quite get how much physical energy goes into this! whether it’s doggie style, missionary style or the wheel barrow.  He’s balancing his weight and our weight and still moving, and every time we move they have to recalibrate their balancing act.  So there is the balancing, then they CAN’T finish.. they have to keep going..make the woman happy… it can be incredibly hard sometimes for guys. even usual marathoners.  The key is to switch it up when you know he’s starting to struggle.  a different position will slow him down somewhat.  Some guys are so damned worried about what we think they don’t always enjoy their own orgasms as much as they could.
for me… dude, I’m finished..I’m happy… It’s your turn!  So it all boils down to… if they forget something, it’s probably because they also have a #&@$% load of things on their minds as well!

As for what women forget? 
I’d like to know!  I think one of the things many guys have said in the past is that women don’t pay much attention to their other parts.  there is usually the random (usually not very good) BJ. I’m shocked and dismayed about how many women will actually NOT perform this!  but no extensive kissing and stuff.  Guys have a lot of other erogenous zones outside their peckers!  I knew one guy who needed some serious nipple tweaking to even reach his orgasm.  I’m surprised at how many guys dig this.

WildCat
wrote on December 28 2009 @ 04:56 pm: [report]

The clit is the same as a penis and in regards to sensitivity…be firm but gentle, ffs no teeth or fingernails! As for the smiling, who wants to feel like a clown is shagging them? The hard concentrated look is sooo sexy, it’s like he’s saying, “Oh, yeah, you’re getting it now..”
If socks are that aggrovating, the sex can’t be very good, lol.
Sunrise and Bedrocka, AMEN. The clitoris does move around, and readjusting the angle is frustrating. Even when it gets harder it’s not easy to stay with it.
I am suprised that the G spot hasn’t been mentioned more. It’s not hard to find and manipulate, but gives amazing orgasms…and yet not alot of men know how to zing it. At least, not in my experience. :/
A half hour of research online and both men and women can learn all the basics of amazing love making, and then adjust to their partner’s desires from that point on by communicating.
As for lube, whether you need it or not, a stimulating one can make the sensitivity come alive.
Everyone is different, of course, just throwing a few things out there generally.