How many times have you claimed to be a feminist, or joined in the angry chorus of Jezebel commenters about the birth control debate, or fought tooth and nail for your place in a male-dominated field (probably computer programming or something)? A lot. And yet, you still act like such a sycophant when it comes to your relationships with guys! You go after the married ones, you feel pressured to lie about how many guys you’ve slept with to impress one you like, etc. You need to end up with a nice guy, one who probably went to a liberal arts college on the east coast and considers himself a feminist. Someone for whom you won’t have to compromise your ideals.