The 30-something who has "never had a relationship." What? Why? How is that even possible? At a certain point, it's no longer OK to use the "commit-o-phobe" excuse, it's just pitiful. If a man is of a certain age and has not sought help for his inability to connect intimately with another human being, that is an issue. Don't delude yourself, you're not going to be his first. He needs a shrink, not a date.