Okay, sure all of this is great if you know what you want to try, but what if you don’t know? Brainstorm it out. Think back on the (kinky) sexual images that have turned you on. What elements stick out and what parts you could do without? Is your goal to feel the physical sensations involved in a particular act or are you more interested in the emotional side of the fantasy?
Make a list of the things you might want to try. “Write down a basic idea such as ‘Bondage’ or ‘Spanking.’Then make one column for the different things about spanking you think are sexy and another column for what you don't find sexy at all,” Maggie encourages. Then share that list with your partner.
