You don’t have to try everything all at once! Looking at rows of floggers, paddles and nipple clamps at the sex shop can be a little overwhelming. There are so many things you can do with BDSM, but there is nothing wrong with starting off slow. Try mixing one new thing into your sex routine at a time. You can start with a blindfold during sex or maybe a little spanking in your foreplay (you can always use your bare hands before forking over the money for a paddle.)
Books, websites, workshops can be helpful as well. You can try saying something to your partner like, "I have so much fun with you in the bedroom and you make me feel so good that I feel comfortable checking out something I've never done before, like maybe bondage. I don't really know very much about it, do you think that we could attend a workshop just to find out how it works?"
