I cannot think of a woman who wears her sexuality more proudly in her work (modeling, hosting, musing) than Amanda Lepore. In a YouTube interview, Lepore said, “Transexual women, many of us have an overt sexuality because it is conscious. Whereas natural born women might not have to think of it.”
That said, the idea that women can’t choose to be feminine or that this is purely patriarchal seems silly. I’ve often heard it said that “sex is between your legs gender is between your ears.” Many feminists say that gender is a social construct, and something we should get rid of. But perhaps the idea of sex is what we need to cast off. Gender can be a cool and fluid thing to play with, to express oneself with.