The Pattern: Your life stops when you are waiting to hear from a guy. Staring at the phone, you feel anxious and sick to your stomach. If someone else calls while you’re waiting for a call from him, it sucks to be them! Because you do NOT want to talk to them, and you are not good at hiding your disappointment. And how many times can you refresh your email in an hour? If you’re expecting an email from him, infinitely. Just sit in front of your computer and refresh. Refresh. Refresh. No email yet? Keep refreshing another million times. Eventually it will arrive.
How To Break It: Throw your phone and computer out the window. Kidding! There is a way to manage the panic and nausea of waiting for a guy to be in touch and fearing that he never will. Get busy with your own life in ways that involve leaving your home and preferably turning off your phone, like going to a movie or taking a yoga class. You may still be waiting to hear from him but at least your mind will be partially occupied with something else. At work, only let yourself check your personal email at set times, like once in the morning and once before you leave at the end of the day. They usually call eventually, this usually happens when you’ve finally stopped waiting, and staring at your phone/refreshing your email ad nauseam generally does not expedite this process.