Sometimes I Wish I Hadn’t Written So Much About Sex

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A few months ago, Amelia and I were talking about rape threats against women who write online. It seems like it happens to feminist writers Zerlina Maxwell, Amanda Hess and Jessica Valenti every day. Amelia asked if any readers have threatened to rape or otherwise harm me. The honest truth is that it only happened once — on Twitter a few years ago. The man had zero followers and had only tweeted a handful of times, all of which were incendiary remarks or threats against other liberals. I didn’t suspect he posed a serious threat to my safety, so I just blocked him. Do I even have to say I’m grateful that this was the one and only time some stranger threatened me?

That one incident isn’t the complete picture, though. A better question to ask in order to illustrate the at-times unsavory experience of being a feminist writer online would be about the kinds of inquiries I get on social media or in my inbox. Nearly every single day, a man emails asking me personal information about my sexuality, for an invitation to a sex party, or straight-up propositions me for sex. Keep reading »

OKCupid Is Experimenting On/Lying To Users Now

OKCupid Is Experimenting On/Lying To Users Now

Last weekend, I got a curious email from OKCupid. I have a profile on the site, but rarely log in and haven’t actually messaged with or gone on a date with anyone in months and months. I still get regular emails about having new matches, but this email subject line stood out immediately: “Match % update for [REDACTED USERNAME].” Hmm. The email (above) alerted me that due to “a diagnostic test,” my match percentage with a specific user had been erroneously reported and the two of us were actually 92 percent compatible, as opposed to the previously determined 32 percent. Keep reading »

10 Bitter Life Truths Apparent In “Kim Kardashian: Hollywood”

I’m a late adopter so I didn’t download the Kim Kardashian game app, “Kim Kardashian: Hollywood,” until this weekend, a move I quickly began to sort of regret, as it is quite possibly the most addictive yet utterly pointless and unchallenging game ever created. I don’t even want to tell you how late I was up playing it on Sunday night. Okay, fine, I’ll tell you. THREE IN THE MORNING. Basically, the point of the game is to go from E-list to A-list celebrity by performing a variety of “tasks,” earning and spending money, growing fans and followers and building buzz through social media and networking. You do all that by tapping shit that appears on your iPhone screen. I wish I could say it was more complicated. I wish I could say that all that tapping is so boring that you’re inclined to just delete the game after 15 minutes. But that would not be true, because again, I was up until 3 a.m. playing it. In fact, I’m thinking about it right now, wondering if I should expect a call from Kim soon inviting me to her house in Beverly Hills. Luckily, only getting a few hours of shut-eye wasn’t for naught. See, “Kim Kardashian: Hollywood” exposes some bitter, depressing truths about real life. For example… Keep reading »

“The Situation” Sentenced To Anger Management Classes After Assaulting His Brother

  • Mike “The Situation” Sorrentino of “Jersey Shore” was sentenced to a 12-week anger management course after assaulting his brother at one of his family’s tanning salons (of course) last month. Mike told TMZ, “If that’s what’s needed, I’m willing to abide by the court’s rules and maybe it will help me out.” Maybe! [Page Six]
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  • Lea Michele will guest star as a waitress on the final season of “Sons of Anarchy.” [TVLine]
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Pussy Riot To Sue The Russian Government

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Style Stealer: Taylor Schilling Knows Rompers Are The New LBDs

Style Stealer: Taylor Schilling

It took me a second, but I’m fully behind the evening romper trend, especially during summer when the weather is warm and legs are tan. Taylor Schilling — aka Piper on “Orange is the New Black” — paired her chic black and white playsuit with a white tuxedo blazer, festive heels and a red lip, a fun alternative to the standard LBD (or orange prison jumpsuit). Keep reading »

86 Of The Best Feelings In The Entire World

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The past week has been kinda a bummer for me, and I’ve hit the point where I’ll search for a little happiness just about anywhere. When I saw that someone had asked the Reddit community “What is the best feeling in the world?”, I clicked expecting to see a mix of classics (like peeling the protective plastic off of new gadgets) and the obvious sexual things (which, of course, were there).

What I didn’t expect was to have my heart basically melt out of my body by one user’s completely spot-on list of 86 absolutely perfect pleasures. Read them all on College Candy…

NYPD Accused Of Using A Chokehold On Pregnant Black Woman

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NYPD CPR 03.27.2013

This weekend, police in Brooklyn, New York, busted some folks who were grilling on the sidewalk — which, I didn’t know until reading this New York Daily News article, is illegal. But a “melee” broke out, with several of the parties resisting arrest. Now there are photographs being distributed by a community advocacy group which purport to show a NYPD officer with his arm in an illegal chokehold around a woman, Rosan Miller, who is seven-months pregnant. Keep reading »

This Bracelet Will Give You An Electric Shock For Indulging In Bad Habits

Well, It's An Idea

An upcoming bracelet and app called the Pavlok will help you change your habits by giving you an electric shock when you fail at them. You get to choose the habit you’d like to work on, like spending too much time on the internet, going to the gym, losing hard-earned cash, or getting up at a certain time in the morning. Then you get to set a consequence to hold yourself accountable, which can range from Pavlok posting embarrassing stuff on your on Facebook wall, vibrations from your bracelet, losing hard-earned cash, or even a 340V electric shock. As the Pavlok’s promotional video says, there are so many self-improvement devices on the market that don’t really work, so “what if we get a device that changes behavior?”

Spoiler alert: the other products didn’t work because people change their own behavior. Keep reading »

It’s Time To Cry: Mom Fighting Cancer Helps Her Son Meet His Hero, Ringo Starr

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Ringo's Biggest Fan

Mom Cali Tobias has been diagnosed with breast cancer four times, and is now facing ovarian cancer. She told ABC News, “I need to make sure I have as many fun memories with my kids as I can while I’m still here.” To do that, she arranged for her son King, a Beatles superfan, to meet Ringo Starr. King, 5, is a musician himself and can play some of the Beatles’ hits on his guitar. When Cali got tickets to Ringo’s concert in San Jose, California, this month, she and King were invited backstage. Ringo greeted King with a big hug, and he even got to play the legend’s drums! So sweet. [Huffington Post]

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