Samhita Mukhopadhyay asked today on Al Jazeera: Can online dating ever be women-friendly? She talks in her op-ed about the challenges of online dating after your mid-30s, the rash of gross misogynist messages you can expect to receive as a woman on online dating sites, and how Tinder was intended to be woman-friendly, but can it really be woman-friendly if its creators don’t know what life is like as a woman and have, now, been accused of sexual harassment? She doesn’t mention sites like Straight White Boys Texting, which cull their content from Tinder users, among others, and which seems like a pretty pertinent point: Even if you “approve” of them based on their profile, you have no guarantee of how a potential date will actually treat you in real time.
Her conclusion is this pretty depressing last-stage-of-grief coping mechanism: “It’s as though the offensiveness on dating sites becomes a sorting mechanism, a virtual last man standing; only the last man is (hopefully) not a drunk sexist jerk.” My god. I mean, I know what she’s talking about. I’ve been there. It’s just that I was 25 and after four months of being on OKCupid the well of all right guys had already dried up and I couldn’t find anyone who was neither sexist nor duplicitous nor hyper-defensive (I expect from previous bad online dating experiences of their own). Keep reading »
The journal Pediatrics published research today that suggests — pretty strongly — that physical activity is important for kids who have ADHD because it increases executive control and inhibition, much in the way that ADHD medications do. Exercise: Possibly the best thing for all mental health?
No word as to how it affects adult ADHD, but I’d wager that it’s also beneficial. James Hamblin at The Atlantic raises a really important point about how we treat kids with ADHD:
“‘If physical activity is established as an effective intervention for ADHD,” they continued, “it will also be important to address possible complementary effects of physical activity and existing treatment strategies …’ Which is a kind of phenomenal degree of reservation compared to the haste with which millions of kids have been introduced to amphetamines and other stimulants to address said ADHD. The number of prescriptions increased from 34.8 to 48.4 million between 2007 and 2011 alone. The pharmaceutical market around the disorder has grown to several billion dollars in recent years while school exercise initiatives have enjoyed no such spoils of entrepreneurialism.”
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Lena Dunham’s first book, Not That Kind Of Girl, is out today, and The Frisky staff is excited. If the book is anything like the writing she’s put out into the world so far, we can expect a smart and honest take on experiences that are so wildly universal that we’ll be scratching our heads wondering why nobody’s talked about them before her. What makes Lena’s work so much fun to watch (and read) is that just like the rest of us, she gets insecure sometimes and learns through making mistakes — and she owns up to every minute of it. Here are some insightful, kickass Lena quotes to get you ready for the book: Keep reading »
There’s one Starbucks in the world where there’s zero chance that your name will be misspelled on a cup: the Starbucks tucked within the CIA’s headquarters in Langley, Va., a location plainly referred to as “Store Number 1″ on its receipts. No names grace the cups here, much to the frustration of one food services supervisor at the compound, who complains to the Washington Post that things might move faster if they did. And according to the paper, there’s quite the crowd to service: The location is described as one of America’s busiest Starbucks, with lines that can snake down the hallway. Read more on Newser…