Jessica Valenti, Feministing editor and Full Frontal Feminism author, is getting married! Congratulations are in order! Wait, are they? Apparently not, if you believe feminism and marriage can never, ever go hand in hand. Certainly, marriage has its traditions that are problematic from a feminist perspective, which Valenti has addressed many times on the blog — and perhaps that’s why she seemed hesitant to announce her good news. But does the personal really always have to be political? Can’t she get married without every Gloria, Betty, and Camille judging if her wedding is “feminist” enough?
“I don’t want to feel that I must blog about getting married because it relates to the work that I do. I want to be able to have things that are just for me and not be judged poorly because of that…. I realized that I don’t feel like I had to blog about getting married — I wanted to…. I’m positive you’ll be hearing more from me on the marriage front: Like how to do it while shirking patriarchal tradition? Or why I decided to participate in an institution that still (for the most part) excludes same-sex couples.”
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Yesterday, President Obama celebrated National Women’s History Month by creating a special panel to focus on women’s issues. The council will seek new opportunities in the workforce, since women still earn only 78 cents for every dollar a man makes. This makes Obama mad, since he loves the ladies…
No, like, he really, really does. Which is more than kind of hot. Here’s a collection of his most toe-curling musings on the women in his life, from 2005 to now… Keep reading »
Our society has a lot of thoughts about what women should be, and many of these ideas have to do with weight and promiscuity. The ideal is that a woman is thin and pure. In an article on The Huffington Post, writer Charlotte Hilton Andersen considers whether it’s better to be called a slut or fat — two names that women usually don’t enjoy being labeled. So, which would you rather? Justify your choice in the comments! Keep reading »
March is National Frozen Foods Month. Who knew?! We here at The Frisky love our frozen foods — and not just because we’re too lazy to cook. Never in a million years could I make a vegetable lasagna as delicious as the ones I get in my grocery store’s freezer section. After the jump, 10 frozen foods that make our lives delightful. Share your favorites in the comments! Keep reading »
A 40-year-old Japanese man named Tatsuhiko Kawata has been sentenced to five years in jail for having cold feet and a cold, cold heart. Kawata, who had been married since 1994, started cheating on his wife three years ago with another woman whom he agreed to marry last October at the Risonare hotel. Still married to the first wife, Kawata tried to delay the wedding on the eve of the ceremony by dumping petrol in the hotel and setting it on fire! Thankfully, no one was hurt, and the woman Kawata was set to merry dodged a bullet, too. The presiding judge who sentenced Kawata called him “egoistic and short-sighted.” Guess we need to add a #10 to our Signs He’s A Cheater post: He carries a can petrol around with him and sets a hotel on fire. [via Telegraph U.K.] Keep reading »
I will start off with the players: Me, Leo 8/11/72, born approx 8:30pm, Eugene Oregon; my husband, a Virgo, 9/5/76, born in Kitchener Ontario, and the lover, a Gemini, 5/23/77, born in Poughkeepsie NY.
My husband and I married very quickly after being friends for a long time — there had always been some chemistry and attraction, but once we were married things really went downhill. It has reached the point that I don’t want to make the effort because I resent him so much, and also the lack of response and attention from him has affected my self-esteem. We ‘took a break’ in August, this was a huge relief for me. For a variety of reasons it is not possible for us to separate completely yet, and we continue to live together. He wants to reconcile, I do not think I will ever be able to be happy in this relationship. To his credit, he is very committed to me and willing to work on the relationship, but I just don’t feel like he’s ever going to get it — get me, and that is a very lonely feeling within a relationship.
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A new video arrives from Bat for Lashes: “Daniel.” Directed by Johan Renck, who’s directed videos for Madonna and Kylie Minogue, it’s sort of in the same surreal vein as “What’s a Girl to Do?” A little bit Stevie Nicks, a little bit Bjork, the melancholy music vid stars Natasha Khan in tear-streaked makeup getting molested by a pack of black-clad freaks who look like they just escaped from an insane asylum in which everyone is forced to wear Gareth Pugh. It’s a pretty, sad love song — although why it ends with a Karate Kid reunion, I cannot fathom. The track is the first cut released from the upcoming Bat album, Two Suns. Do you love it or hate it? Shout out in the comments. Keep reading »
Last week, I rounded up some GPS cell phone applications that would help you to get laid, and here’s another! HereIAm sends emails with your exact location out on command to all your FWB’s, booty calls, boyfriends, etc. The treasure hunter hunks can track you down with the Google Maps-enabled app. Sit back, relax, and message, “First one to the X wins the booty!” [iPhoneFreak] Keep reading »
Women have subtle and not-so-subtle ways of letting the rest of the world know their man is taken. These eight ways women mark their territory will save you from wondering how involved a guy is, and if you’re in a relationship already, then you’ve got some work to do. Keep reading »