Miracle of miracles, the current economic crisis doesn’t look like it’s going to saddle you with major financial setbacks. Your significant other, however, hasn’t been so lucky. Whether your partner’s been laid off, forced to take a pay cut, or seen a formerly robust stock portfolio become awfully puny, it’s become quite clear that his or her financial future is looking grim. Though it makes you feel a little guilty, you’re beginning to re-evaluate whether, going forward, his or her financial situation will be able to provide or assist you with living the kind of lifestyle you’d like – or at least to which you’ve become accustomed. Are you being cold and superficial or wise and practical? We consulted Debra Mandel, Ph.D., a psychologist and author of Dump that Chump! for advice on how you should best approach the situation.
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Every year we miss the Dec. 31 deadline for the New York Cares Coat Drive. And then we guiltily buy a new coat and promise ourselves to make a donation next year. And this month we’ll fulfill that promise and we hope you will too. If you’re not in the New York area, you can donate your gently used coat at any Burlington Coat Factory during the Warm Coats & Warm Hearts Coat Drive. And as if the warm and fuzzy feeling you get from making a donation wasn’t enough, Burlington will take 10 percent off your purchase when you donate a coat. So now you can buy yourself something without any guilt, or you can keep spreading the love by donating a little something-something to a needy child. Most communities have a charity that is fulfilling holiday wishes for children.
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Ever since Sean Avery was suspended for referring to his ex-girlfriend, Elisha Cuthbert, as “sloppy seconds,” I’ve been thinking about how Cuthbert has been at the center of controversy before. Read on for all the details… Keep reading »
Okay, that’s a lie. There are wrong ways to wear a blazers. Most of the time, however, they’ll make you look a whole lot nicer without much effort. The best (and cheapest) blazers are the ones in the boys’ department. The small size means the fit is less boxy, and the sleeves will be 3/4-length on you, which is less stuffy looking.
1. Boys’ Cherokee Suiting Jacket, $34.99, Target.com (Don’t be deceived by the photo. Amelia has this and it looks divine on.)
2. Women’s Essential One-Button Blazer, $39.50, OldNavy.com
3. Claiborne Boys Poly/Wool Single Breasted Blazer, $59.50, Macys.com
4. Silence & Noise Menswear Smoking Blazer, $78, UrbanOutfitters.com
5. Check thrift shops. I own blazer #3, but I picked it up for $1.50 at Goodwill. Some 10-year-old boy had outgrown it. Keep reading »
I was flipping through New York magazine at the gym last night and was absolutely puzzled when I came across a small ad for something called “Bootie Pies.” These boots are made for wearing during the winter after you get a pedicure. The company means well. They don’t want your newly painted nails to get smushed in shoes, or for your feet to get frostbite from wearing flip-flops home from the salon. But the aesthetics just aren’t there. Basically, the boots are Uggs with a removal toe covering. They also have a zipper in the back that allows you to slip your foot in easily. It’s true that peep-toe booties are in right now, but these don’t fall into that category (and that trend is questionable anyway). Why spend $128 on ugly boots when you can just spend an extra 5 minutes at the drying station? If it snows, your Bootie Pies certainly won’t protect your tootsies. [Bootie Pies] Keep reading »
My dilemma involves a man whom I’m extremely attracted to, but very ambivalent about romantically. We’re known each other for over a year and things either seem to move at a snail’s pace or just come to a screeching halt entirely. The last time we were in the same vicinity was sometime in October. He called me at 3am under the guise of being too drunk to drive. Being the kind soul that I am, I picked him up and let him crash at my place. I felt nervous and awkward, but my altruistic side won out. He apologized for his antics, swore up and down that he didn’t blame me for hating him, etc. Naturally, this fueled my frustration and I may have ripped into him a little about his actions towards me. We fooled around, but no intercourse occurred. This is the second time he’s stoked my fire just enough, but not enough to go all the way. I feel cautious because it feels like he is hiding something, but I can’t put my finger on what. I want to believe that he cares, but his broken words leave me doubting. It feels like I should walk away, but very time I seem to get to that point is when he happens to show up again. I don’t know whether this is one to walk away from or try to make a go at it. I don’t know if my head or my heart or both are right in this situation. My DOB is March 10, 1984 (birth time 5:30 pm Nassau, Bahamas) and his DOB is 12/4/1980. — When To Walk Away? Keep reading »
Though I can’t remember his name, I can still recall the face of the guest who whipped out a handful of Ziploc bags as a long ago Christmas party was winding down. “Do you mind if I take some of these cheese puffs home with me?” he half-asked, shoving the leftover snacks into a bag. “What about these tortilla chips?”
Too shocked to do anything but nod, my acquaintance left with a stash of snacks and a permanent place on my own personal Do Not Call list.
When I first started writing this piece, I figured it would be about not making a fool of yourself at the company holiday party. But the more I researched, the more it seemed that pretty much every business on the planet has cancelled their annual soirees. I get that you can’t lay off half your staff and then ply the other half with six-foot sandwiches and cheap booze, but I think a lot of companies are using this financial downturn as an excuse. Bah humbug! Keep reading »
Sometimes we link to your celebrity gossip stories in “Star Couplings” or “Quickies,” but we might not be doing that for awhile, or ever again, thanks to this little post. Yeah, we know that a lot of gossip sites making fun of and ridicule celebrities, but your post about Jennifer Hudson’s sister went way too far. Whoever killed Julia Hudson’s mother, brother, and son — the police have arrested her husband William Balfour — did so because he is a disgusting, depraved human being and not for any reason connected with the way Julia looks. Your headline, “The Hudsons Were Killed Over This Woman????”, not only makes light of a tragic situation, but it also shows a complete lack of understanding of the motivations behind domestic violence. And it’s just really, really effing mean.
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