The first thing anyone asks a battered woman is: “Why did you put up with that?” Domestic violence is the only crime I can think of—well, besides rape—where the victim is treated as complicit in her own abuse.
This is why I rarely talk about my two-year relationship with a batterer. I wasn’t a housewife with no resources, I was a teenager and he was my first boyfriend. He beat me, raped me and stalked me. After I escaped, it was years before I told anyone what I’d been through because I was so ashamed. I still avoid the topic with those close to me.
What people don’t understand is that abusers don’t generally punch you in the face on the first date. If they did, nobody would ever go out with them twice. But there are some early warning signs—and as much as you might hate to admit it to yourself, the fact is, even a strong, smart, independent woman can find herself on the wrong end of the fist. Here are some behaviors to watch out for … Keep reading »
Teenage heartthrob and alleged assaulter Justin Bieber has a new project in the works: perfume. Bieber’s unisex fragrance, “My World,” will be infused into wristbands and dog tags in a new patented resin technology designed to hold the scent for over a year. The scent, which will be launched at Walmart for Black Friday, is, according to Bieber, not “too young, too fruity.” And of course the 16-year-old entertainer has his eyes on the horizon. Next up? A possible sneaker collab. [WWD] Keep reading »
After announcing her separation from hubby Jordan Bratman, Christina Aguilera jetted off to Honolulu. But Carey Mulligan has not made such grand plans since her split from Shia LaBeouf. She quietly moved out of the mansion they shared and, since she needs to stay in Los Angeles to film her new movie “Drive,” has taken up residence at a hotel. And not the Chateau Marmont. Nope, Carey is reportedly staying at an under-construction Best Western overlooking the freeway. Keep reading »
Yes, we’ve all heard that “Mean Girls” quote about how Halloween is the one night a year when girls can dress like a total slut. And I’ll admit that the “sexy costume” craze has led to some weird combinations, like Sexy Chewbacca and Sexy Skunk. But every year, in the weeks leading up to our scariest holiday, the slut-shaming rises to a dull roar, and everybody starts saying things like, “When did Halloween become an excuse to dress up like a slut?”
The answer is ALWAYS. When I was in 6th grade, I begged my mother to let me dress up as a hooker, because Halloween has always been about dressing up like a slut. And you know why? Because it’s fun! Keep reading »
Let me rephrase that. Do you have a set age, in your head, of when you expect it’ll be time to chop off your hair? The New York Times had an interesting article in its style section this weekend about how, when a woman reaches middle-age, she is almost expected to cut off her hair so that it can no longer be described as “long.” Keep reading »