Zergnet: Simply Irresistible
The other day, we told you about Hadley Freedom’s essay, “The New Confessional Journalism Turns Female Writers Into Tedious, Self-Hating Semi-Celebrities” in The Guardian. In it, the writer prattles on about how female-focused media run the same stories over and over where a women grapples with hating her thighs/ex-boyfriend/inability to have a relationship at all. I have to disagree with her, as I think sharing a personal story is one of the most powerful things you can do. Not every tale can have a happy ending—and if it doesn’t, is it not worth sharing? Sure, I sometimes get weary of hearing the same story told in the same way, but when a confessional story is sincere, striking, and well-told…nothing’s better. I am inspired by women who find fresh and unique ways to share their stories on the page or off. And that’s why I am so moved by British multi-media artist Tracey Emin’s exhibit, “Those Who Suffer Love,” now on display at London’s White Cube Gallery. Keep reading »
Excuse our French? Well maybe not today. Coming from a very French family, we were lucky enough to grow up in Paris and go back fairly often. Our aunt has always loved the city and would take us out when we were little to tea or shopping and would let us wear her bright red lipstick. This past year we were visiting for our birthday when she decided to take is to a jewelry expo, and we ran across this company. French Factory’s mix of jewelry is very tongue and cheek — delicate porcelain or gold with modern day expressions ranging from ladylike to raunchy on them. This “J’aime le choclolat” long necklace translates to “I love chocolate,” and of course who doesn’t? While it’s a French company and we ran across them at random, they have French and English sites that are definitely easy to access. [$76, French Factory] Keep reading »
When my grandma called me a few weeks ago to make me promise I’d go out with her friend’s grandson if he called me, I stupidly agreed. You see, my thinking was, What guy is really going to call some girl he doesn’t know because her grandma says she’s a catch? And even if he did defy my cynical expectations and call me, good old grandma told me a solid five times that he is just “so handsome, Lily, you have no idea. And witty, too!”
So when mystery man did, in fact, call a week later, I paused briefly before agreeing to lunch. I mean, if worse came to worst, at least I’d have something pretty to look at while contemplating ripping my arm off just for the excitement.
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Every Sunday night, my girls and I go down to our local speakeasy bar and suck down cocktails prepared by our favorite bartender, Thomas. He’s a hot guy—tall with brown hair, blue eyes, a nice smile, ’30s style garb (complete with suspenders), and a big, fat, honking…mustache. This mustache has sparked a heated debate among the ladies. Half the group thinks it’s sexy; the other half wants to attack Thomas with a razor. ‘Stache style has ebbed and flowed over the years—there’s the crazy Salvador Dali waxed ‘stache of the ‘30s, the sexy ’70s ‘stache a la Burt Reynolds, and the ironic ‘stache of the last few years popularized by hipster boys. The question: Would you ever smooch a dude with a lip sweater? I say why the heck not, but apparently not everyone is so open-minded. Keep reading »
Some say the eyes are the window to the soul, but when it comes to women, I’d argue that it’s what’s in her purse that offers the real clues as to who she really is. Every so often, we’d like to delve into the depths of one woman’s bag and look at what she can’t leave the house without. To get the ball rolling, today: the innermost secrets and pockets of my own handbag. I’ll show you mine if you show me yours: Send us a pic of your bag and all its contents and tell us why you love these products. Spy in my bag after the jump, if you dare… Keep reading »
When you are at your best, you know it. You feel it in your bones. Don’t deny you know this about yourself, just because some loser guy can’t get with your program. You can rationalize all you want, make excuses, but if he is not with you in the here and now, then you have to stop lying to yourself. Realize, once the lies stop, the truth and new hotness can come back in.
Being the team leader is not a role you prefer, but this week if you want your baby to start picking up the slack and stop treating you like you’re hired help, then you are going to have to kick some ass and make demands. Enough is enough and if you want to feel like the queen of your domain, you are going to have to get your serf to act accordingly.
You know you suffer from the “hearing what you want to hear” syndrome, but this week a vaccine is in sight and these interesting communications will reveal something quite mysterious, intense and real. Seems there is more than meets the eye with whoever this sly talker is and that no matter what is learned, a bigger curiosity is about to open in your mind.
The love for your boo is about to soar to new heights, but don’t forget you have a life too. While the attached at the hip look is cute and will give you a sense of security that you crave, know it won’t bode well if you start blowing off others to keep playing arm candy. Realize what makes you special is your independence, so exercise it for maximum happiness.
Ultimatums are necessary if you want to see the life you want happen. Otherwise, waiting for someone to get on your page or seeing if what you think they are isn’t actually what they are will only postpone you from your destination. There is no time to waste, as time is crucial. Be willing to lay down the law or forever hold your peace.
If you want your future to brighten up, you have to let bygones be bygones. No matter how new the wounds may be, packing up the past in a box and sending it down the river is vital for your immediate future. Letting anything fester will only open up the emotional gashes bigger and more unnecessarily so. Take the power and make a clean break be your only option.
Trying to be friends with an ex isn’t always the best option. Although you’d like to show you can be a bigger person, why? No one is judging you and you aren’t running to be the next Mother Theresa. Seriously, some people don’t deserve your time and if you couldn’t love them one way, realize you don’t have to love them at all.
This is going to be a busy work week and to get your kicks you might have to settle on more psychological ways of getting off. Be ready to test your skills at phone sex, virtual sex toys or whatever you may be open to that isn’t the traditional way of going feeding your desires. As it goes, this is the time to prove you can have it all.
Break tradition and be the first to spill your guts. You know what you feel and waiting for validation isn’t going to change that. While you do like to hold onto your security blankets as long as you can, time to speed up your love life. With some of your turbo force love that has you taking control, you will lead the pack to beautiful places.
You’ll have the whole world in your hand, how you want to stroke it is up to you. Seems you will have the charming element to make men submit to your will easily. However, your eyes will be bigger than your stamina, so use this power accordingly and sparingly, as where you direct your energies will set the pace for the rest of the month.
Love will be making you crazy, as it takes a hold of you and has you relentlessly plowing after that object of desire, as if your life depended on it. Hallelujah for the passion and determination, as this will bring you to a whole new level of psycho and has you proving to that right someone that you are a sucker for their love.
You can’t always get everything you want and this week it’ll be even more frustratingly so, as there will be two hot choices, but only one path you can take. You’ve juggled in the past and learned that no good can come from that behavior — despite how good it may sound in theory. This time around, guarantee yourself some real resolve and be mature by seizing your own fate.