Are You The “Distancer” Or The “Pursuer” In Your Relationship?

Recently, I was having a Big Serious Relationship Talk with a woman I really respect. I know Dr. Debra Haffner in a professional-relationship-turned-friendship way for her work as executive director of the Religious Institute, which promotes a greater understanding of sexuality issues within religion. Debra is also an ordained Unitarian Universalist minister and, as such, she works with a lot of individuals and couples on answering “the big questions” of life. I’m not an especially religious person (“faithful,” might be a better description) and I’m not one to go around calling ministers when I have problems. But when I knew I needed to talk to someone wise and thoughtful, her image came to the forefront of my mind.

I am so glad we talked. I don’t read many self-help books or psychology books. Much like WebMD always making me think I have cancer, self-help books put “ideas” in my head. But there is something Rev. Debra explained to me that I found really enlightening: the concept of a “distancer” and a “pursuer” pattern in a relationship. Keep reading »

Adorbs Father & Daughter Duet Will Melt Your Black Heart


In this vid, see father-daughter duo Jorge and Alexa Narvaez perform the most adorbs version of Edward Sharpe & The Magnetic Zeros’ “Home.” Warning: Watching this video may have a negative effect on your form of birth control. [The Daily What] Keep reading »

Shopping Guide: Cute & Comfy Workout Gear That’s Worth Wearing

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So, I’m considering trying this thing I heard people do called working out. Like, regularly. Consider it an incredibly generic New Year’s resolution. Only problem is that I have basically no decent workout clothes and the ones I do own have gross sweat stains or frayed hems. If I’m going to take this whole fitness thing seriously, I gotta get my s**t together, sartorially speaking. Here are some cute, comfy, and cool workout pieces I just may blow my wad on, plus a few additional goodies that might actually make getting ripped fun.

Lady Gaga Rocks Out With Her Booty Out

This is a sneak peek of a promo photo for Lady Gaga’s new record, Born This Way, due out in May. It’s also a sneak peek of her badonkadonk. Hey-o! [Copyranter] Keep reading »

Gwyneth Paltrow Opens Up About Postpartum Depression

“[After the birth of her son, Moses,] I felt like a zombie. I couldn’t access my heart. I couldn’t access my emotions. I couldn’t connect.It was terrible, it was the exact opposite of what had happened when Apple was born. With her, I was on cloud nine. I couldn’t believe it wasn’t the same. I just thought it meant I was a terrible mother and a terrible person. About four months into it, Chris [Martin of Coldplay, her husband] came to me and said, ‘Something’s wrong. Something’s wrong. ‘I kept saying, ‘No, no, I’m fine.’ But Chris identified it, and that sort of burst the bubble … I thought postpartum depression meant you were sobbing every single day and incapable of looking after a child. But there are different shades of it and depths of it, which is why I think it’s so important for women to talk about it. It was a trying time. I felt like a failure.”

Gwyneth Paltrow opened up to Good Housekeeping about her bout with postpartum depression five years ago. Much like my own experience with depression, Gwynnie wasn’t a sobbing mess every day; instead, it just felt like the color was leeched out of her life. She’s super lucky her partner was able to identify her pain and support her recovery. I, for one, respect that she’s willing to follow in other actresses’ footsteps and talk publicly about it. [CNN] Keep reading »

Rent The Runway Goes Bridal

Rent the Runway, the site that literally rents out current season designer fashions, is launching a bridal dress shop next week. That means women like me, who don’t necessarily want to keep their bridal gown or spend thousands of dollars on one, will be able to rent a dress for their big day. As wedding season gets into full-swing, this is amazing news for the bride trying to plan a wedding on a budget. The groom gets to rent his tux; why shouldn’t the bride have that same opportunity? Let’s hope Rent the Runway also has a section for bridesmaids. [Racked] Keep reading »

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