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Recently, a reader asked “Dear Prudence” how to “unfriend” a friend:
How do you “unfriend” someone, not on Facebook, but in real life? This is a person who is also friendly with someone I know well, so it is not unlikely that we might all get together through our mutual friend. However, it might seem odd to the mutual friend that I no longer wish to associate with this person. I see both of them at work and we often eat lunch together. How should I handle this? My main reason for unfriending this person is a serious lack of boundaries on their part (constant evangelizing me to her religion, constant “invitations” which are hard to say no to, bad manners, etc.).
Once, I had a flaky friend. Whenever I’d call her or make plans with her, she’d have one of three excuses: she was too tired, she was sick with a headache or a stomach ache, or she would have to call me back, which almost never happened. I got the hint. Either she didn’t value our friendship or thought her time was more important than mine, and I decided she and I didn’t really need to be friends. While it’s hard to end a friendship, a bad one can be as destructive as an abusive relationship. Here’s the best way to “unfriend” a friend if you find yourself in a similar situation. Keep reading »
In Newsweek, Rachel Lehmann-Haupt shares how she decided to have some of her eggs frozen at 37. After a relationship ended, Rachel wanted to have kids of her own at some point in the future, but she worried her time might be running out, since doctors say 35 is the age after which fertility tends to drop. With money inherited from her grandmother, she had the procedure, and eight of her mature eggs are being stored for the day when she finds a man to fertilize them.
Lehmann-Haupt speculates freezing eggs could affect women’s lives. “I think that like birth control or abortion, egg freezing could also change society. It is a choice, another tool by which women are able to assert control over their bodies.” The prohibitive cost (around $15,000 plus $400 per year for storing the eggs) prevents the majority of us from having our eggs frozen for later use, but someday, as science progresses, this could change. Is this something you would do? Do you think freezing your eggs would help you feel like you have more control over your life? Would it take away some of the pressure we feel to find a man and make babies before a certain age? [Newsweek via Salon Broadsheet] Keep reading »
Last week, The Guardian published a heartfelt letter that writer Stephen Fry had penned to his 16-year-old self in which he wrote : “Tears splash on to my keyboard now. I am perhaps happier now than I have ever been and yet I cannot but recognize that I would trade all that I am to be you, the eternally unhappy, nervous, wild, wondering and despairing 16-year-old Stephen: angry, angst-ridden and awkward but alive. Because you know how to feel, and knowing how to feel is more important than how you feel. Deadness of soul is the only unpardonable crime, and if there is one thing happiness can do it is mask deadness of soul.” Hundreds of readers responded to the letter with notes to their own 16-year-old selves, warning of everything from fast-approaching baldness, unfulfilled dreams, and death of friends and family. Some gave advice: “Marry that fab posh girl in about three years, not seven. Life’s too short to wait, but any sooner will freak her out.” Others gave hints of good things to come: “Amazingly, not only will you get a boyfriend but he is lovely and you will live together in London on the other side of the world.” What would you say to your 16-year-old self? After the jump, a letter to myself at half the age I am now — and, yes, that makes me 32. Keep reading »
Breaking news before the slow-poke networks, staying atop of Ashton Kutcher’s activities, bringing the pound sign back: Twitter gives us all of this. But what does Twitter do for love, we asked? The answer: the chance to write clever pick-up lines in 140 characters or less. Keep reading »
This just in from the Department of No-Duh: Paula Abdul has fessed up to Ladies Home Journal that she’s been fighting an addiction to pain killers. For 12 years, Ms. Straight Up was anything but, shooting syringes of lidocaine into her butt before graduating to a don’t-try-this-at-home pain killer patch that’s 80 percent stronger than morphine. [NYDN]
Bristol Palin appeared on “The Today Show” and “Good Morning America” today because it’s the National Day to Prevent Teen Pregnancy, and Palin has signed on to be a national spokeswoman for the Candie’s Foundation. We watched the interviews, and they were equally awkward. On “Today,” Bristol appeared with baby Tripp and her father, Todd. Mostly, she talked about how much work being a mother is, and how it’s a full-time job. While she didn’t practice abstinence, she wants other young women to know how hard it is to be a mother. As for Levi Johnston, Bristol said she wasn’t on “Today” to talk about her personal life, but after an uncomfortable silence and some questioning by Matt Lauer, she said Levi is a part of Tripp’s life, although she wouldn’t say to what extent. The interview unraveled at the end when Todd said, “Sharing Bristol’s experience with other teenagers, the mistake she had here over a year ago, if she could prevent one teenager from getting pregnant, that would be great.” Oops. Todd called Tripp a mistake.
Actually, Todd seemed less media-savvy than Bristol, which might be why he didn’t accompany Bristol for her “Good Morning America” interview. In addition to doing a one-on-one interview with Chris Cuomo, she appeared with Neil Cole from the Candie’s Foundation. “Just because you’re wearing high-heeled sexy shoes doesn’t mean you should have a baby,” he said. Oooh. Compelling. Keep reading »
This is one of those head-scratcher products I’m not sure who would want to buy. This Souffrez Pour Moi underwear is made with “artfully placed seams, beads, and textured fabric to create intimate, temporary patterns in the skin.” I don’t know about you, but if I ever discovered an “intimate, temporary pattern” on my skin, I’d make an appointment with my doctor and be tempted to warn any previous sex partners of the new development. The underwear isn’t meant to just be worn, though, oh, no — it’s supposed to provoke thought, too, on “how beauty and suffering are subtly intertwined.” Call me crazy, but I don’t think there’s anything subtle — or beautiful, for that matter — about bejeweled panties. If the underwear saves some women from getting lower back tattoos, though, I’ll give it my blessing. [Generate via Random Good Stuff] Keep reading »