Here’s a sticky wicket for you: the mother of a 21-year-old mentally challenged woman in Britain is asking a court for permission to sterilize her daughter so she will not continue getting pregnant. The daughter, who is referred to in court as P to protect her anonymity, already has two young children who are being raised by P’s mother, Mrs. P, who lives with them. However, Mrs. P said she cannot financially support a larger family and that when she took her daughter to a family planning clinic, she refused to get a contraceptive injection (Depo Provera). As Mrs. P described it, if P were to become pregnant again, Mrs. P would put the baby up for adoption. The nature of P’s mental difficulties are not explained by the Guardian, but Mrs. P told the court that P does not seem to understand the gravity of the situation. “I tried to explain that any future babies will go to a new mum and dad,” Mrs. P said. “She doesn’t understand that she won’t ever see them again. She says, ‘I’m the mummy’. She doesn’t understand they will get a new mum.”
Mrs. P continued, “I want the best for my daughter. We are supporting and helping her, bringing up her children and keeping them together as family unit. Obviously we can’t carry on supporting more and more children. She doesn’t see anything wrong in her behavior.” The judge handling the case, however, said that expert evidence was not available to make a judgment and he declined to rule on an “extremely serious and important” issue without it. Keep reading »
Last week, Jennifer Doll offered a familiar lament in the pages of the Village Voice: “Dear Single Women of NYC: It’s Not Them, It’s You.” Though her focus is on New York, Doll could have been describing almost any large American city in which the number of single, straight, employed, and emotionally competent men is apparently dwarfed by the number of women who want to meet them.
The “man shortage” is a perennial go-to for articles aimed at women readers; these pieces differ mainly in the degree to which they blame the crisis on women’s ambition, pickiness, or sexual aggressiveness. Keep reading »
The Taylor Swift song everyone is waiting for? Whatever the little princess comes up with to memorialize/trash her ill-fated holiday romance with hunky oldster, Jake Gyllenhaal. We watched as their succession of coffee dates took them from Brooklyn to Nashville to London — and then, as fake Taylor sings in this Funny or Die spoof, things got weird when Jake asked how John Mayer looked naked. (NSFW due to the dropping of one F-bomb, otherwise fine.) [Funny Or Die] Keep reading »
Check out this diagram about what your beauty mark(s) predict about your future. I am slightly skeptical for a few reasons: 1) I have no idea where this diagram comes from. 2) It looks like an egg and not a human face. 3) I had a beauty mark in the “carefree life” area and it turned out to be skin cancer. What does it mean now that it’s gone? I think I’ll go to a palm reader and find out. What do your beauty marks say? [The Gloss] Keep reading »
His emails are always filled with their/there/they’re mistakes, but you never say anything. A friend asks you both a question about, say, what’s going on in Egypt and you have a strong opinion, but you let your boyfriend respond. Date night involves watching a high-brow French film and you just nod your head politely as he explains the movie’s complicated message, even though you understood it perfectly fine on your own, thank you. You are also capable of assembling a piece of Ikea furniture on your own, but you ask for his help anyway, because it makes him feel manly. These are all examples of what journalist Liz Jones, writing in the Daily Mail U.K., would call Silly Me Syndrome (SMS), which “happens when a woman dumbs herself down so as not to offend the man in her life. It is something we learn to do at a very early age, because women are born smarter than men.” You know, “Oh, silly me. I forgot what nine times seven is again.” Keep reading »
It must have been a slow news day yesterday, because the whole world stopped for Justin Bieber’s thoughts on abortion. While driving around with a “Rolling Stone” reporter in Atlanta, sans handlers, the 16-year-old virgin told writer Vanessa Grigoriadis he believes abortion is “killing a baby” and even in the case of a pregnancy that results from rape, “everything happens for a reason.” Minds were blown. Rome fell. S**t got real.
Well, it turns out that was not Bieber‘s full quote. Keep reading »