I should have known the relationship was doomed the moment he brought up his all-consuming hobby: race car driving.
I spent an entire summer in the sticks of Ohio and Pennsylvania, feeling like an idiot as my then-boyfriend Sam, his dad, and a friend worked on the car, which was black and blue with a giant wing on top. It looked like an alien bug on wheels. The first time I came to a race, his mom told me to dress casually, but my outfit (jeans, a striped T-shirt, red flats, and big sunglasses) might as well have been a ball gown compared to the giant silk-screened shirts everyone else was sporting. Sitting in a lawn chair in the driver’s pit, I folded the cover of The New York Times magazine to hide the abortion cover story — that wouldn’t have gone over well — and offered everyone soy nuts. From the stands, I watched cars flame out, crash into each other, and kick up dirt. I prayed for one of the cars to mow me over and texted all my friends, “One of these things is not like the other….” Keep reading »
I love receiving gifts, but even I’m a little confused about the phenomenon of the push present. As you might have heard, the push present is a gift, often a piece of jewelry, a new father gives to a new mother when she gives birth to their first child. If you’re a fan of “The Real Housewives of Orange County,” then you might recall that the newest cast member Peggy Tanous received a Bentley as her push present. Now, the push present sounds like a gesture of gratitude, but there also seems to be a thick layer of guilt surrounding it too. Moms seem to want some compensation for carrying a baby for nine months, getting sick, surviving labor, and losing their figure. But shouldn’t the new bundle of joy be the greatest gift? Also, the idea of the push present seems to be a marketing ploy by the jewelry and luxury brands industry. Of course, I wouldn’t turn away a push present from my future husband, but I also wouldn’t want us to go into unnecessary debt because we decided to start a family. How do you feel about push presents? Did you receive a push present after giving birth? Do you want one when you become a mother? Keep reading »
…Penelope Cruz was a model with a pixie cut in Sassy magazine. Who knew? This pic, from a 1994 issue of the iconic teen magazine, also features platform Converse. Remember those? [via F**k Yeah Awesome ’90s Stuff!] Keep reading »
Before I start here, I need to explain why the distinction between the type of “work” I’m talking about here is different from the typical kind of “job” drudgery lamented in endless Dilbert comics and annoying Facebook status updates. The type of workplace referenced here is the kind that serves as a funnel for your passions, not an obstacle between you and the weekend. Keep reading »
A new study says that it could be your fault if he’s considering cheating on you. No, not because you’re not putting out enough or you nag too much. It’s because you scold him when he ogles other women. The study found that men who were interrupted while admiring attractive women reported to be more likely to cheat on their S.O. if given the chance. Why? It’s the “forbidden fruit” principle. He wants it more, because you tell him he can’t have it. I feel the same way about chocolate. I am very likely to cheat on my diet if I am scolded for my ogling of sweets. I have no self control. I am victim to my animal impulses and therefore not responsible for my actions. Thanks for understanding. [Men’s Health] Keep reading »