Dan Savage’s First Visit To A Gay Bar Was Like An Airplane Taking Off

“[The first gay bar I went to] was called the Bushes … My first ‘real’ boyfriend took me. I was too young to be in a bar—and too naive to be in a gay bar—but bars didn’t card people then like they do now. I’m pretty sure I wasn’t the only 17-year-old boy in that bar that night. It was dark, it was dirty. But it was a public place—the first public place where I ever kissed a guy … I don’t remember much else about the place—but I do remember what I had to drink (a Long Island Iced Tea, I’m embarrassed to say), and I do remember what it felt like to walk into the Bushes for the first time. I had spent all day, every day, for the last six years trying to hide my homosexuality from my family, from my friends, from strangers on the street and on the L. The pressure was so intense that I’m surprised I didn’t crack. To step through that door and feel that pressure lift made me feel lightheaded. It was like stepping through an airlock; I’m surprised my ears didn’t pop. The Bushes was the first place I’d ever been where everyone was gay, where being gay wasn’t something that set you apart.”

Dan Savage remembers his first time at a gay bar. And look at him now. He has affected so much change in his community. He and his husband, Terry, were the Grand Marshals of the NYC Pride Parade yesterday, which was especially awesome because of the gay marriage law passing about 36 hours before. [Slate] Keep reading »

5 Books That Changed My Life

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True fact: I probably like books more than people. Uh, except for you, dear Frisky readers. One might even say some books have been like friends to me — helping me through difficult times and clarifying life for me when I needed them. The right book at the right time is everything. Without further ado, in honor of Crack A Book Week, here are five that found me at times in my life when I needed a friend and changed my life for the better.

Men Inherit Their Cheating Ways

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An unfaithful father makes for an unfaithful husband. You may now add this to your handy list of relationship adages to live by right next to, “If he treats his mother like crap, he will probably treat you the same way.” According to a new study done at Charles University in Prague, men were found to be far more likely to cheat if they grew up with a father who was unfaithful. The daughters of cheaters, however did not suffer a similar fate. The researchers’ conclusion was as follows: Good-looking parents produce good-looking children. Said attractive children have more opportunities to stray if they are men but more opportunities to snag a genetically desirable mate if they are women. But the attractiveness theory doesn’t quite cover the rest of the population. I mean, ugly people cheat too. How do they explain that? Well, it’s all about the motivation for the infidelity. The study found that of the cheating men surveyed, most were motivated to stray by sex and sex alone, while the cheating women only wanted to explore their sexual options if they were unhappy in their relationships. And that will be all for your “Differences Between Men and Women 101″ lecture today. See you next week for more interesting discoveries about how men are really into sex and women are really into feelings. [Daily Mail UK] Keep reading »

Hailee Steinfeld’s The Newest Young Girl To Land A Major Fashion Campaign

Hailee Steinfeld is 14 years old. She starred in “True Grit” and she’s also now the face of Miu Miu’s newest series of ads. That’s great, I suppose, but SERIOUSLY WHY WHY WHY can’t we get some grown ass women starring in fashion ads? Style blog Fashionista lauds the campaign for its minimal use of makeup and Photoshopping. Well, you know, when you’re dealing with practically prepubescent skin, you’re not going to have that many problems, now are you? What’s next? Second grade Prada models? Toddler Thierry Mugler campaigns (somewhere in a marketing meeting someone is pitching this right now)? Miu Miu and the rest, start showing your clothes on real women — don’t condescend to us with teens, please. Keep reading »

The Frisky Readers’ 10 Weirdest Quirks

How endeared we are by your many eccentricities, Frisky readers. Last week, we showed you ours and you obliged by trusting us enough to show us yours. Somehow, I’ve managed to make this sound like a creepy game of doctor. Not what I was going for. After the jump, the 10 most common quirks in the Friskyverse. We praise you for your, uh, specialness. Keep reading »

Tara Says Her Lesbian Love On “True Blood” Is The Real Thing

“When I first got the script, I thought [Tara's new direction] was great … I think [Tara] needed a new lease on life. She totally comes back more zen, and she’s a feisty season one Tara who we all loved … I don’t think [Tara] was expecting [a lesbian relationship]. I think it just happened. I think it was one of those things where you just fall in love with who you fall in love with. I don’t think she labels herself as one thing or the next. She just started hanging out and the next thing you know, she was in love. I don’t think she was in love with Eggs. Every time she was with him she was either stoned or under a spell. I don’t think that was real. I think it’s going to take her some time to realize that, but I think what she has now is a little more significant.”

—Rutina Wesley, who plays Tara on “True Blood,” talks to Entertainment Weekly about her character’s plot twists in season four. In last night’s episode, we discovered that Tara had run way from Bon Temps, is now going by the name Toni, and has a girlfriend. Woo-hoo! I’m thrilled Rutina thinks that she and her new love have staying power. Here’s hoping no one offs this new lady. [EW] Keep reading »

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