One of the things I love about being in a relationship is that my friend circle multiplies. But what happens to those newly formed friendships when the relationship ends? For example, recently two of my friends who were in a couple broke up and it’s been awkward ever since. Where we used to all go out together once or twice a month, now I have to split time between them, and I have the nagging feeling that I’m cheating when I hang out with one and not the other. After driving myself crazy for a few weeks (Do I talk about or avoid the subject? Partake in talk about the ex or awkwardly change the subject when it comes up?), I sought some advice on dealing with the joint-friends breakup — who keeps whom? And does it really have to come down to that? Keep reading »
Now that I’m back on the “dating scene,” I’ve realized that I’m still borderline idiotic when it comes to male-female courtships. My last relationship started off pretty typically — a dinner date here, a movie date there — but quickly spiraled into very serious, very quickly. We said I love you within two months, moved in together within five months, and were together for nearly five years. I can’t recall when we or if we had the whole “boyfriend/girlfriend” discussion, or how we knew we were seeing each other exclusively. It’s unfortunate, because I could use that knowledge now. For example, how in the hell do you know when your fun, dating relationship has progressed into boyfriend/girlfriend territory? Is it when you have the “we’re banging each other exclusively” conversation? When introductions are made to friends? When one of you slips up and and says “my boyfriend” in front of the other? And let’s say you’re dating each other exclusively (because dating, not to mention sleeping, with multiple people is extremely time consuming), when does THAT change into BF/GF? Seriously, can you tell I am confused? The guys on my IM are here to help… Keep reading »
Oh PETA. Always gettin’ themselves banned. Above, the commercial that WON’T run during the Superbowl, which features scantily clad women getting horny with some vegetables. Because apparently, “studies show, vegetarians have better sex.” Is that true? Anyway, I don’t really see what’s SO super hot about it, but it does continue PETA’s trend of objectifying women in order to push their don’t eat meat agenda. Whatevs. It did kind of make me want a carrot stick dunked in ranch dip.
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Great news for those of us who are 32: we’re totally hot! At least, this is the age we report feeling the most beautiful, anyway. A new survey of 1500 women found that 40% of respondents said they felt most attractive at this age. At 32 women say their life “had the mix of confidence gained from life experience, an active love life and the pleasure of eating and drinking sensibly.” Hmm…do women not have that at 33 anymore? Or at 38, or 43, or 50? While I would hope these things would continue well past 32, some psychologist named Sandra Wheatley says this is “really encouraging” news because it means women are placing value on life experiences and achievements instead of just how shiny there hair is or how perky their boobs are. She told the Daily Mail: “It sounds to me like women are becoming much more swayed by personality. It’s a sign that we are valued for who we are and what we are capable of, not just what is on the surface. Feeling beautiful is tied in with confidence and life experience. At 32, a woman has been through and survived more experiences and achieved more than at 22.” Keep reading »
Check out the boot to the left. Looks like something you (or your slightly slutty best friend) might wear, doesn’t it? While it is by fabulous female shoe designer Stuart Weitzman, this boot and its partner aren’t made for women. This is actually a guy’s boot, aka a “moot.” Weitzman custom-made this and a black patent-leather bootie with a silver heel for Justin Tranter, the lead singer of New York garage glam-rock band Semi-Precious Weapons. This is the first time Weitzman has ever done shoes for a man (in size 12 wide, no less), and Tranter adores his new kicks: “I love heels for two reasons: One, they make my amazing legs look even better and two, I love being able to make an artistic statement without even opening my mouth.” Spoken like a man who knows his shoes. Keep reading »
In last weekend’s New York Times Magazine, “What Do Women Want?” took a deep look into what really arouses women. A study by professor Meredith Chivers at Queen’s University in Ontario monitored men’s and women’s levels of sexual arousal while they watched various video clips: heterosexual sex, homosexual sex, a man masturbating, a woman masturbating, a chiseled man walking naked on a beach, a well-toned woman doing calisthenics in the nude, and monkeys having sex. Among the findings? Women are much more turned on by gay sex and monkey sex than they admit. What else turns women on that they don’t confess to anyone? We asked nine women to tell us their secret sexual fantasies. Keep reading »
This past week on VH1′s “Tool Academy,” the dudes were taught humility by admitting their deepest fears about their relationships and prancing around in tutus. However, their girlfriends have been trying to put them in their place since the season began by withholding sex. Granted, none of those bros deserve a piece of their girl’s promise land, since they’ve been complete bastards, but if these ladies are willing to stand by their jerky boyfriends while they man up, what’s the point of not having sexy times?! It simply turns sex into a control issue. However, these “Tool”-ettes are not alone in their belief that keeping their legs closed for business will bring about a positive change in their love life. The question is, does denying what you both need — sex — get you what you want — a good relationship?
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Remember all the hoopla about how much Gov. Sarah Palin’s campaign wardrobe cost? And remember how the Republican National Committee promised to donate the clothes to charity after the election? Well guess what? The $180,000 wardrobe is sitting in trash bags at the RNC, according to NewMajority.com. A source close to the issue said the clothing is in the “process of being donated.” I guess I can understand how that can happen because I have a bunch of coats in my hallway that are in the “process of being donated” too. But then again, I don’t have a political image to uphold. The RNC has not said when and where the clothing will be donated, so we came up with a few ideas for how it can recoup its investment. Keep reading »