Having a frenemy sucks. But at least there is some sort of unspoken agreement there—that you both acknowledge the sense of competition. The other night, some friends and I were talking about the concept of frenemies at a bar and I realized that I actually had my very first one in high school—only I had no idea that’s what was going on. Leslie* and I were best friends for about a year. But though I couldn’t identify it at the time, there was definitely something off about our friendship. Leslie would always ask me what score I got on a test, only to tell me that she had done better (even if it wasn’t true). And when I told her about the awesome job I’d gotten at a local movie theater, she apparently went in and applied without saying a thing to me about it. But the worst was when I told her about a mega crush I had on a guy in one of my classes. Apparently, at a party one night, she made out with him. When another friend told me this, I confronted Leslie. “Oh,” she said. “I wanted to find out for you if he liked you or if he would kiss another girl.”
At the time, I actually thought, Of course! She was just doing reconnaissance for me. I’m so lucky to have a good friend who looks out for me. But now I get it: she always needed to one up me to make herself feel better.
Talking to other women, it seems like a lot of us had this type of proto-frenemy relationship like this and didn’t quite realize what was going on. After the jump, The Frisky staff tells their tales. Add yours in the comments section. Keep reading »
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“Dope” is a new television show that sounds like the perfect combination of everything I love—one part “Mad Men,” one part “Breaking Bad,” one part “Bored to Death,” and one part “The Good Wife.” And even better—it will be produced by and star the amazing Julianne Moore. Julianne is developing the show for HBO alongside Todd Haynes, who directed her in “Far From Heaven” (pictured here) and who more recently turned out Kate Winslet in “Mildred Pierce.” Based on the novel by Sara Gran, “Dope” tells the story of a woman in 1950s New York who becomes a private eye, despite her past as a heroin addict. Which sounds pretty juicy to me. And hey, i’s exciting to see a period drama in the works that centers on a female character—and one who is not in a bunny tail or formfitting Pan Am stewardess get-up. [Huffington Post, TV Line] Keep reading »