Some of the feedback I get online is that I’m “too angry.” When people tell me I’m “too angry” in my writing, my immediate thought is somewhere along the lines of “HA HA HA HA HA HA YOU HAVE NO FUCKING IDEA.”
That’s because I know what “too angry” actually looks and feels like. When I was 20, I was treated with dialectical behavioral therapy for anger. I was, at the time, in the midst of an abusive relationship and had a lot of reasons to be angry — or, rather, was being intentionally provoked to anger on a regular basis. I know that now, I didn’t know it then. My ex had zeroed in on something he could poke at so that he could say that I was “acting crazy” and thereby invalidate all of my feelings, not just my very intense feelings of anger, while taking zilch responsibility for his own behavior, of course. Keep reading »
At the Power of Story: Serious Ladies panel at Sundance, in which Lena Dunham, Mindy Kaling, Kristen Wiig, and Jenji Kohan discussed life as female artists, Dunham brilliantly pointed out the obvious regarding Woody Allen’s repeated onscreen “perv” behavior. Dunham is frequently taking the heat for the screw-ups of her “Girls” character Hannah Horvath, as if the two are the same person. As she mentioned at the panel, male writers are much less likely to be compared to the characters they play on camera. Like, for example, Woody Allen:
“Woody Allen is proof that people don’t think everything he says in his films is stuff that he does because all he was doing was making out with 17-year olds for years and we didn’t say a word about it. And then he did it! A bunch!…No one went, ‘oh, Woody Allen’s making out with a 17-year old in ‘Manhattan’ I guess he’s a real perv’…And then, lo and behold…”
Girl tells it like it is. You can watch the fascinating full panel here. [Jezebel]
Last night’s SAG Awards brought together the hottest actors — and entire casts — in TV and film to laud each other for their thespian triumphs. But what did they wear? Click through to see who walked the red carpet…
While we still have to wait until February to get “Last Week Tonight” back, John Oliver has a made a habit of popping by the YouTube every so often in order to keep us from going into full withdrawal. And to give us something quick to post on a Monday morning before we are fully ready to start saying anything particularly clever or smart.
Anyway, this week, Oliver came on to “apologize” for starting a #NotMyChristian hashtag, protesting the casting of Jaime Dornan as Christian Grey in the upcoming “Fifty Shades of Grey” movie, which he acknowledges may have been taken the wrong way. Keep reading »
If you’re trying to lose weight, exercise more, or stop smoking, you should try doing it with your bae. (Just don’t do actual couples exercises like these please.) According to a new study in JAMA Internal Medicine, couples who build new good habits as a team are more likely to reach their health goals and more likely to keep their habits over the course of years: 70 percent of the couples in the study who went to the gym together were still doing so at least once a week, compared to about 25 percent of the study participants who went to the gym alone, and smokers who quit together had a 50 percent chance of quitting for good compared to only 8 percent of the single smokers. Keep reading »
Aquarius (January 20-February 19): Even if you wear your game face in your sleep, it’ll be hard to fight those fuzzy emotions. They’ll be creeping into you in ways that will make you want to run. However, doing the opposite of what you’d normally do will suit you better for this adventure. Opportunities that aren’t dressed to kill will be the deadliest ones now. Good thing the universe is standing above you with a defibrillator.
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