I know the beauty industrial complex yells a lot about how the bright lip is the only thing you need in your arsenal, and how it makes you look instantly pulled together, gorgeous and glowy, hiding the hideous shebeast beneath with one swipe. This is the job of most beauty writing. It alternately intimidates and inspires you, telling you that you are both beautiful and a monster. It’s basically the manipulative best frenemy, expertly skilled in the backhanded compliment. Everything about this is bullshit. But, there’s a teensy nugget of truth in this lipstick mess. They might be kind of right with this one. Keep reading »
Benedict Yumberbatch (aka Benedict Cumberbatch, but it’ll be Yumberbatch from now on) was on “The Daily Show” last night to promote his film, “The Imitation Game.” As it turns out, Jon Stewart, like the rest of us, wants to rip Yumberbatch’s clothes off and sell them on eBay. Stewart claimed that if Benedict got naked and oiled up for a magazine cover Kardashian-style, the world might actually end (#BreakTheEarth?). Anyway, watch for both hilarity and an interesting discussion about theoretical questions inherent in computer programming. [h/t Jezebel]
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Last night, I was in a candy shop in my neighborhood waiting for the owner of the store to cut some marshmallows for me when a woman walked in, dropped a bag on the counter (literally dropped, as in held it high in the air over the counter and then let go, letting it fall to the surface), and told the associate at the counter, “I have to return these. They’re disgusting. I tried them, and I almost vomited.” Keep reading »
Today is International Men’s Day. You might be thinking to yourself, Isn’t almost every day Men’s Day? Believe me, I’m wondering the same thing.
I’ll roll with it, though! I’ve made a policy of not making public shows of gratitude to male feminists, because too often those public shows of gratitude make it seem like men are doing women a favor by deigning to acknowledge injustice and believe that we should be their equals. But, for International Men’s Day, I’d like to acknowledge the good work of a few men who are not just saying that they believe in gender equality, but really living the struggle.
So, male feminists, on International Men’s Day, we salute you! Thanks for speaking against the status quo, for taking harassment and abuse alongside the women you work with, for writing serious and nuanced critiques of gender constructs in our culture.
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Every new relationship comes with its own bag of possibilities and pitfalls. We approach new romance hopefully, keeping our eyes peeled for warning signs and red flags that might tip us off about a character flaw or mismatch, and determine an outcome accordingly. But everybody’s past is different, and depending on what you want and need from a relationship, what might be a red flag to one person might not be a red flag to others.
I’ve noticed a recurring theme in the comments on Dater X about what may or may not be red flags in my dating adventures. One commenter wrote “Dater X seems to have a huge problem reading between the lines,” while another said, “It’s becoming pretty clear that something is off in her dating choices.” Do I? Is it? Yeah, I’m going to disagree with you there. I know exactly what I’m looking for and what to be worried about. What I’m not doing is making snap judgments about someone’s character or our potential compatibility based on one thing that’s said or done. What I might see as a no-harm difference in personalities might make you say run as fast as you fucking can. So what exactly are the warning signs that I look for in a new partner? Allow me to explain… Keep reading »
Beating out “Bae,” “Budtender,” “Contactless,” “Indyref,” “Normcore,” and “Slacktivism,” Oxford Dictionaries’ Word Of The Year has officially been crowned! While they were all worthy contenders, this year’s pick was an obvious choice since it’s usage has more than doubled over the last year, and you’re 30 times more likely to come across the word than you were two years ago. So without further ado, the Word Of The Year is… Keep reading »