Danae Mines, a firefighter of 11 years, has long been one of New York City’s few women in the position. Now, she’s taking on another first — the only woman to be featured in the formerly dudes-only FDNY Calendar of Heroes.
The annual display of sexy firefighters raises money for the FDNY Foundation — and gives us all an excuse to gawk at shirtless heroes for a good cause. Mines’ interest in the calendar wasn’t met with the enthusiasm her male peers usually receive. Mines told the New York Daily News that she was told that only men were allowed to be featured and that “if I made it in the calendar, I would look like a pinup girl.” Considering that all of the men featured in the calendar are scantily dressed themselves, a comment like that is positively blood-boiling. It seems that Mines felt the same way: “I wasn’t going to let anyone tell me I couldn’t do what I wanted to do. I was determined.” After all, it only makes sense that anyone who risks their life everyday to protect others, male or female, deserves eligibility for such honors. Keep reading »
Last month, a blogger named Jordan Younger announced in a blog post that she had eaten some fish. This wouldn’t have been noteworthy, except the blog was called The Blonde Vegan and Younger’s post was titled “Why I’m Transitioning Away From Veganism.”
Younger used to be a vegan for both health and ethical reasons. As she explained in her post, she felt “nourished and fueled” by her plant-based diet and she was satisfied in her commitment to being cruelty-free. (She also, it should be noted, called herself “addicted to juice cleanses.”)
For awhile, her healthful living seemed to be going well. But then, all of a sudden, her body changed. Younger explained that she no longer felt filled up after she ate, and began to have stomach aches and “wild and ravenous sugar cravings.” She also felt like she could no longer focus. Yet, she writes, “I spent the next several months ignoring my body’s internal cues. … [M]y body didn’t feel GOOD & I wasn’t listening to it.” Keep reading »
Annabelle Earl, a four-year-old Brooklyn girl, had a dream of being a flower girl but no wedding to attend. With a long dress, bouquet, and a poster that read ”Can I be your flower girl?” she took to Brooklyn City Hall to find herself a willing couple.
It sounds like a Hallmark moment, until we learn that the only reason this scenario went down is to appease the fact that her original wish for a unicorn couldn’t come true. Yes, we are actually seriously considering little girls’ requests for unicorns now. Earlier this spring, Annabelle’s mother Kim took her to Washington, D.C. They visited Yoko Ono’s “Wishing Tree” in a Smithsonian garden, and Annabelle whispered her greatest dream to the tree. Keep reading »
Many media outlets reported that R. Kelly’s child, Jaya Kelly came out as a transgender boy. Reports claim that Jaya would prefer to be called “Jay” and “dresses in boys clothing and emulates the testosterone fueled behavior of boys in her peer group.” Many members of the media reported on this discovery in such an insensitive and uneducated way, that it made me believe that many of us are confused about how to talk about a trans person or are so wrapped up in our own beliefs of sexuality, that insensitivity becomes the default. Read more on Hello Beautiful…
Today in bizarre: a Japanese artist has been arrested for obscenity after allegedly emailing data that would be used to make 3-D prints of her vagina. Megumi Igarashi works under the name Rokude Nashiko, which translates to something along the lines of “bastard kid,” and a major goal of her work is to make the female body less of a taboo topic. She’s been known to mold all kinds of materials into the shape of genitalia because, according to her, the vagina is hidden away in Japanese society. Keep reading »
I made a special trip to New York last weekend to visit Kara Walker’s A Subtlety at the Domino factory during its last weekend. It was worth it. It was worth the four 90-degree days with no air conditioning in a hostel, it was worth the plane fare despite my general brokeness, and it was worth the syrup that got caked on the hem of my dress. The floor of the factory had flooded a little the night before I went, so the bases of the sugar sculptures had eroded; some of the figures that had already started to break down were melting into pools of syrup that looked like blood, and some of the figures held baskets full of hardened sugar-water.
Beyond the colonial critique that the installation waged, what struck me the most was the way that the viewers had sensationalized the Sugar Baby’s naked body, taking unintentionally macabre smiling selfies in front of her breasts or exposed vagina. And although this artwork has the most to do with the exploitation of black women’s bodies, the feeling that shocked me, as a viewer, into just total heartbreak for this woman was that this is what I feel like every time I get catcalled: a body that’s been unwillingly made into a sideshow, a thing to consume and reduce, vulnerable and exposed. In other words, it was a massively effective work of art.
But you missed it! And I know that you missed it because every single friend I met with during my visit said “Oh yeah! I’ve been meaning to go see it.” But by then it was too late. I’m so sorry, guys. However! There’s another exhibit in New York that I have to exhort you to see to soothe your lady-art cravings… Keep reading »
Didga the skateboarding cat can add parkour to her resume now, too. The two-year-old cat was adopted at 13 weeks by a pet trainer who’s taught her everything she knows about her talents in feline sports, and this video is her coolest yet. Watch and enjoy (and please don’t try to parkour-ify your own kitty unless a cat-training pro is around)! [Tastefully Offensive]
Here are two things I never expected to be told in the same breath: “You’re so skinny! This will look cute on you,” and “I’m pretty sure you’re lying about that time your dad molested you.”
Nine months ago, I confronted my father about sexually abusing me as a child. Since then, my communication with my family has been limited, and it caught me off-guard when, just two weeks ago, my aunt invited me to meet her for lunch. I impulsively agreed, and initially, we started on the right note. After a few minutes of polite pleasantries, she handed me a gift bag. Inside, I found a hand-me-down Ann Taylor blazer with the tags still on (“I love the pattern, but it just doesn’t fit me”) and a copy of Meredith Maran’s My Lie: A True Story of False Memory (“I learned so much from this book. It’s amazing how unreliable our memories are, don’t you think?”). Never before had I felt so flattered and insulted all at once. Keep reading »
The Church of England today took a pretty large step into the 21st century, voting by a two-thirds majority to allow the ordination of women as bishops. It’s a reversal of a 2012 vote that failed by just six votes, notes Sky News, and cements the role of female leadership in an institution that has allowed women priests for two decades. Read more on Newser…