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Dear Wendy: “If I Kick Out My Roommate, I Might Lose Friends”

I bought a house last summer and decided to ask a friend, whom I’d lived with before, to be my roommate once again. While it wasn’t ideal the first time around, as she is quite lazy and doesn’t have the best hygiene, I needed help on the financial front and felt I knew what to expect. The trouble is, she is now even lazier, doesn’t respect my things (almost everything in the house is mine), has ruined expensive items without offering to replace them, and the hygiene front is getting terribly worse. I’m what people would call a b****; I usually say what’s on my mind and I don’t think before I speak, but this past year has been difficult as I’m afraid my normal “honesty” would send my antidepressant pill-popping roommate rocking in the fetal position in a corner. By the time I think of a nice way to tell her what needs to change, the problem feels out of date and inappropriate to talk about. I can very well kick her out now, as the finances are somewhat better, but the problem is we have the same circle of friends, and if I get rid of her, I risk losing quite a few of them. I feel like many of my problems with my roommate should have been voiced much earlier, but I avoided them hoping they would resolve on their own. Plus, I needed the monthly rent. — Fed Up

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Dear Wendy Updates: “Military Brat” Responds

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” in which people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing today. After the jump, we hear from “Military Brat,” a young woman who wrote in when her boyfriend, whom she didn’t see a future with, started pressuring her to tie the knot. She was considering joining the military and he said if she did, they really needed to get married first. So, did she join the military? Did she marry her boyfriend? Did she break up with him? Find out after the jump. Keep reading »

Ask The Astrosexologist: Do I Still Have A Shot With My Scorpio BF?

I’m a Taurus and he’s a Scorpio. We used to date a while ago and he quickly became my best friend as well, but it was my first real relationship and he moved way too fast for me emotionally. So we broke up. Then last year, when I was going through a hard time and despite all the time that had passed, he was the only one I wanted to talk it through with. So I reconnected with him and ended up telling him how much I really missed him — but, I knew I wasn’t ready for a relationship at that particular time and I told him that, but he asked me out again anyway. I told him to just give me some time and he said he would, but apparently he took it as a kiss off because before I had had enough time he was dating someone new. Since then we have sporadically been keeping in touch, but now my situation has changed and we might be seeing a lot more of each other. I decided that if I got the chance to be with him again I would take it, ready or not. Although, right now he is involved (with yet another girl) and I dunno if I should push the subject now or wait it out. I’ve tried to move on, but every time I see the way he looks at me, it gives me hope and I just want to know whether or not there is a chance? – Hopeful

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Dear Wendy: “How Can I Dump My Boyfriend Nicely?”

I have been in a long distance relationship for a year. While our relationship has been almost perfect on paper (he’s my best friend, we never fight, and we’re always on the same page), I’ve realized that he’s not the one for me. Since the beginning, I felt like something was missing. The spark just wasn’t there, but I kept trying because he loved me so much and I wasn’t yet sure what I wanted (he’s my first boyfriend and I’m only 18). Now, I know I have to break up with him, but I don’t know how to do so in a way that would hurt him the least and save our friendship. You see, he’s told me multiple times that he wants to spend the rest of his life with me, that I’m the most important person in his life, and that he would love nothing more than to marry me. Before he met me, he was depressed and suicidal at times. He says that he’s been happier than he’s ever been this past year. What do I do? Do I tell him the truth, that I just don’t love him enough? Or do I blame it on the circumstances, the long-distance, financial problems, parental control, etc? Do I drag it out slowly, or do I blindside him? More importantly, is he going to be okay? — The Dumper

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30-Day Breakup Guide: Day 21

To celebrate the publication of our first-ever book, The Frisky 30-Day Breakup Guide, we’re re-running the original series that inspired it, and having writer Maude Standish bravely road test the book’s expanded tasks and tips. So follow along, chart your own progress, and find out everything else you need to know to forget he-who-shall-not-be-named!

Give Blood
If there has ever been a chance for you to act both badass and selfless, this is it. If you’re healthy enough to give blood, be happy for that alone, and then go save a life. Eat and drink plenty afterward so you don’t pass out.
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Dear Wendy: “I Can’t Climax On My Meds”

I’m a 25-year-old single woman with diagnosed clinical depression. I received this diagnosis about five years ago and have been on the same medication off and on since. It has many side effects, but one of the most frustrating is that it kills my ability to orgasm. I still have a healthy libido and enjoy sex, but the big finish just doesn’t happen. Obviously that’s a medical issue, not a relationship issue, but my question is: how do I handle this when I’m with a new guy? For most of the last five years I was in a long relationship, so he knew about it when I did. But now I’m interested in someone new and don’t know what to do. Should I fake it? I don’t want to mislead anyone but I worry that if I disclose the situation he won’t be interested in me. Maybe he’ll think, “What’s the fun in getting off with someone who can’t get off at all?” Also, I don’t necessarily want to discuss my illness with someone I’m only seeing casually. FYI: I’ve considered switching meds, but I don’t want to change something that works very well for me, and the medication I’m on actually has the lowest instance of sexual side effects of any on the market; I’m just part of the very unlucky 0 percent of the population. — No O

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