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Dear Wendy: “Am I An Awful Friend?”

I just recently graduated from university and am on the job hunt, as are a lot of my friends. One friend and I come from similar educational backgrounds, but vary in different life and work experiences. She recently alerted me to an amazing job opportunity that she believes she’s qualified for. I agree that she definitely meets the minimum qualifications but the thing is, so do I! And my work experience would really set me apart from her, in the positive. Being aware of this, I asked my friend if she would be angry if I applied for the job as well. She initially said ‘yes,’ due to the fact that I have more experience. I think I’m going to apply anyway, but I am wondering – does this make me a bad friend? Hypothetically, if I do receive the job, I think it would put stress on our relationship (which I feel is unfair) because that’s the kind of thing my friend causes drama over. She often tries to one up me or make her “situations” the focus of attention. I feel like all we ever discuss is her life, her relationships, and the like. I do love her though and don’t want to lose her as a friend, but in this economy, a job’s a job. Am I making a mountain out of a molehill? Obviously neither of us have been hired yet, but chances are one of us could definitely be. — Piece of Work

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30-Day Breakup Guide: Day 22

To celebrate the publication of our first-ever book, The Frisky 30-Day Breakup Guide, we’re re-running the original series that inspired it, and having writer Maude Standish bravely road test the book’s expanded tasks and tips. So follow along, chart your own progress, and find out everything else you need to know to forget he-who-shall-not-be-named!

Get Your Hair Did
You’ve had an appropriate post-breakup mourning period, so chances are you’re not going to do something outrageous, like try the Natalie Portman pixie cut that only Natalie Portman can pull off. That said, dip your toe into the crazy. Page through some mags to get ideas for what you want to do to your hair. Always wanted a red tint? Do it. Keep reading »

Dear Wendy: “If I Kick Out My Roommate, I Might Lose Friends”

I bought a house last summer and decided to ask a friend, whom I’d lived with before, to be my roommate once again. While it wasn’t ideal the first time around, as she is quite lazy and doesn’t have the best hygiene, I needed help on the financial front and felt I knew what to expect. The trouble is, she is now even lazier, doesn’t respect my things (almost everything in the house is mine), has ruined expensive items without offering to replace them, and the hygiene front is getting terribly worse. I’m what people would call a b****; I usually say what’s on my mind and I don’t think before I speak, but this past year has been difficult as I’m afraid my normal “honesty” would send my antidepressant pill-popping roommate rocking in the fetal position in a corner. By the time I think of a nice way to tell her what needs to change, the problem feels out of date and inappropriate to talk about. I can very well kick her out now, as the finances are somewhat better, but the problem is we have the same circle of friends, and if I get rid of her, I risk losing quite a few of them. I feel like many of my problems with my roommate should have been voiced much earlier, but I avoided them hoping they would resolve on their own. Plus, I needed the monthly rent. — Fed Up

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Dear Wendy Updates: “Military Brat” Responds

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” in which people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing today. After the jump, we hear from “Military Brat,” a young woman who wrote in when her boyfriend, whom she didn’t see a future with, started pressuring her to tie the knot. She was considering joining the military and he said if she did, they really needed to get married first. So, did she join the military? Did she marry her boyfriend? Did she break up with him? Find out after the jump. Keep reading »

Ask The Astrosexologist: Do I Still Have A Shot With My Scorpio BF?

I’m a Taurus and he’s a Scorpio. We used to date a while ago and he quickly became my best friend as well, but it was my first real relationship and he moved way too fast for me emotionally. So we broke up. Then last year, when I was going through a hard time and despite all the time that had passed, he was the only one I wanted to talk it through with. So I reconnected with him and ended up telling him how much I really missed him — but, I knew I wasn’t ready for a relationship at that particular time and I told him that, but he asked me out again anyway. I told him to just give me some time and he said he would, but apparently he took it as a kiss off because before I had had enough time he was dating someone new. Since then we have sporadically been keeping in touch, but now my situation has changed and we might be seeing a lot more of each other. I decided that if I got the chance to be with him again I would take it, ready or not. Although, right now he is involved (with yet another girl) and I dunno if I should push the subject now or wait it out. I’ve tried to move on, but every time I see the way he looks at me, it gives me hope and I just want to know whether or not there is a chance? – Hopeful

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Dear Wendy: “How Can I Dump My Boyfriend Nicely?”

I have been in a long distance relationship for a year. While our relationship has been almost perfect on paper (he’s my best friend, we never fight, and we’re always on the same page), I’ve realized that he’s not the one for me. Since the beginning, I felt like something was missing. The spark just wasn’t there, but I kept trying because he loved me so much and I wasn’t yet sure what I wanted (he’s my first boyfriend and I’m only 18). Now, I know I have to break up with him, but I don’t know how to do so in a way that would hurt him the least and save our friendship. You see, he’s told me multiple times that he wants to spend the rest of his life with me, that I’m the most important person in his life, and that he would love nothing more than to marry me. Before he met me, he was depressed and suicidal at times. He says that he’s been happier than he’s ever been this past year. What do I do? Do I tell him the truth, that I just don’t love him enough? Or do I blame it on the circumstances, the long-distance, financial problems, parental control, etc? Do I drag it out slowly, or do I blindside him? More importantly, is he going to be okay? — The Dumper

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