You guys, I’m so glad you liked my first installment of relationship advice! That’s good, because I have a buttload more advice to share. Basically, even though I am generally a wreck and mess up on the daily, I hope you find these words of wisdom helpful. And don’t forget to share your favorite advice in the comments! Keep reading »
Keeping score is a behavior that will quickly unravel a relationship. It begins innocently enough, but it ends with huge fights, lots of resentment and plenty of hostility.
People who keep score often begin this behavior as a way to teach the other partner a lesson. Hurt within the relationship is never just hurt; it turns into wanting to hurt someone else so he/she will suffer and know what it feels like. The problem with that is that we are all sensitive to different things, and what hurts one person looks childish or punitive to another.
Most of the people who do this were raised by parents who kept score. It is an immature coping mechanism of dealing with anger, but, like the silent treatment, it ends up destroying both partners’ feelings of connection and trust. Read more…
Who writes love letters these days? Me, that crazy kid Almie Rose, that’s who. In this helpful video, I show you the ins and outs of writing a proper love letter. Hint: Don’t mention your dying cat.
I don’t think it’s just me when I say that there are so many ways to screw up a relationship now. It used to be fairly big things like standing someone up, cheating, being a big-time loser. Now I hear of people breaking up over of some of the most bizarre things like, “He followed his ex-girlfriend on Twitter but he still wasn’t following me.” I mean, maybe that isn’t so bizarre. Maybe that’s just the world we live in now. Technology is infused with so much meaning. And there are so many ways to misread things! Or to read them correctly. Who the hell knows. At least there’s a site that will interpret text messages for us.
But I do know that you can screw up your relationship big time by being careless about technology. Here are 11 things you want to avoid if you hope to keep your relationship going. Read more…
There was once a time when women’s sole initiative role in the human mating ritual involved nothing more than dropping a silken handkerchief in the presence of her objet d’amour – an olden day version of the “bend and snap” – thereby prompting him to retrieve it and engage her in some polite conversation.
Today we play a much more proactive part in the dating world. This evolution is, for the most part, a positive improvement. We can now go after what – or rather whom – we want, rather than resorting to passive aggressive Victorian “subtleties” involving superfluous floor-bound accessories. On the other hand, it is on us to handle those situations in which we wish to extricate ourselves from the reach of gentlemen showing us unwanted attention… Preferably while still maintaining the grace and decorum befitting a twenty first century lady.
So here it is. The quick ‘n easy exit strategy. How to escape from an insufferable first date. Read more…