The third date was perfect. You laughed, you flirted, your hands grazed as you both reached for the cheesiest nacho.
Eight days later — nothing. They haven’t called or answered your text(s). You’ve been checking their Facebook profile so sadly you’re sure they were not a victim of a tragic accident en route to dropping off flowers or serenading you outside of your window with an iPod dock and the latest episode of This American Life. Keep reading »
You call yourselves “just friends,” but you know as well as everyone else does that you’re more than that. You know where he is when he’s not with you. You spend your weekends together. You travel together. You go to Ikea together. You say “we” a lot, and all of your other friends know who “we” is.
You are dating without benefits. You are serving all of the functions of life partner for each other, without, you know, any of the good stuff — romance, commitment, and sex. (Though any of these elements might sneak in and out of the relationship on occasion, usually aided by alcohol.) You are a substitute boyfriend or girlfriend, and this, my friend, could drag on for years, especially if neither of you meets someone else — someone you can call your actual boyfriend or girlfriend. This is not great news. Keep reading »
So, the other day I was talking with a dude friend of mine who’s going through a breakup. He and I dated a zillion years ago, and remained good buddies, and we often go to one another when we’re going through current relationship traumas. Breakups are universally terrible, whether you’re a girl, a dude, or something in between. But if my dude friend — and the anonymous crap dude blogger over at XOJane – are any proof, we’re given different messages about how to process our heartbreak. Take the crap dude XOJane blogger, for instance, whose friends seem to be telling him that the best way to get over his ex is to bang a zillion anonymous girls. In sum, the most ideal way to heal your heart is to treat someone else’s like crap.
We don’t really abide by that. And we think it’s about time that we help our boy friends out by offering our own tips and tricks for getting over a breakup. Remember — being a jerk begets more jerkish behavior in the world. And nobody wants that. Keep reading »
Hey Frisky readers! I’m excited to announce that The Frisky is one of the sponsors of a super fun all-day event called “Single in Stilettos” here in New York City on April 28th — and I am one of the featured sexperts! I’ll be joining my fabulous friend, Luscious Lifestyle Diva Yolanda Shoshana, as well as sex therapist Dr. Megan Fleming in an hour-long panel about getting what you want in the bedroom. But there’s a whole day’s worth of fun to enjoy, with dating experts of all sorts sharing their secrets — check out the full agenda here! I’m dying for Frisky readers to come and we’ve got $25 discount tickets (instead of $80) just for you (use discount code SPK4 at checkout). There will be a complimentary happy hour (I will be the one double-fisting!), a raffle and goody bags, plus you’ll leave with a whole bunch of new sex and dating tips. The last event sold out so hop to it! Get more info and buy tickets here!
For those of you not in the New York Area, don’t fret — I’ll be doing a post after the event about some of the fun and informative stuff I learned from my fellow panelists.
You think he’s an idiot. He thinks you’re a nut case. You insist he doesn’t understand you. He insists you’re a nut case. You get angry and maybe even cry. He shrugs his shoulders, assumes it’s a personal problem that has nothing to do with him, and chalks all it up to you being an overly emotional irrational nut case.
Sound painfully familiar? Keep reading »
When a relationship shifts into the living-together phase, it can be difficult to maintain the exciting spark that exists in the beginning. There’s a tendency to treat each other as roommates instead of romantic partners, but a few simple tweaks to your everyday routine can help to amp up the chemistry and strengthen your bond. Worried that you might get a little toocomfortable with each other? Follow these five tips to keep the flirty, sexy vibes alive:
1. Meet after work. There’s something to be said for seeing each other across a crowded restaurant — rather than, say, getting ready together in the bathroom. Read more…
Anything worthwhile in life needs regular, positive attention. This includes relationships. If you want your most important relationships to grow and thrive, you need to care for them.
At this time of year, when the weather is warming up and we’re living in an energy of newness, try a little “spring cleaning” with these four easy tips that will bring fresh energy into any relationship. Read more…
Heartbreak lingers like a hangover. You wake up but don’t want to move, and your head is spinning. Sometimes you need the greasiest pizza down the street has to offer, and sometimes you *can’t eat at all. The only thing that sounds appealing is crawling into a dark cave away from anything (which is everything) that reminds you how shitty you feel. We get it. And we’ve all been that melodramatic. The only real cure for heartbreak is time, but there are definitely ways to spend that time to expedite the process and numb the symptoms. Read more…
Hey Frisky readers! Cool news: tomorrow morning, I’m going to be a guest on Elvis Duran’s radio show giving relationship advice. I’ll be specifically talking about “spring cleaning” your relationship — and I would love to get your questions! So, are YOU thinking about spring cleaning your love life? Think it’s time to kick that bum girlfriend/boyfriend to the curb? Considering taking your ex back? Need tips on how to build the perfect online dating profile? Post your question in the comments or, if you would prefer, email me firstname.lastname@example.org (SUBJECT: Question For Elvis Duran Show) with your question and I’ll try to answer it on-air this Wednesday! (To find a station near you that broadcasts Elvis Duran’s Show, click here.)
Ever since seeing the trailer for “Friends With Kids” we’ve been excited to see the romantic comedy starring some of our favorite actors and actresses from Bridesmaids: Jon Hamm, Kristen Wiig, Maya Rudolph, and Chris O’Dowd. And now the wait’s over, as Friends With Kids hit theaters Friday! The movie’s about two friends (played by Adam Scott and Jennifer Westfeldt) deciding to have a child together without a romantic relationship. And even though it features a hilarious cast, this isn’t your typical lighthearted comedy, thanks in big part to the relationships possibly hitting close to home. Since the couple dynamics and struggles are pretty realistic — showing both the good and the bad sides of marriage, dating, and parenting (writer/directorJennifer Westfeldt explains her inspiration here) — there are many relationship lessons you can glean from the film. So check out 10 relationship dos and don’ts from “Friends With Kids” now. Minor spoilers ahead! Read more…