I’ve been in a relationship for a really long time, which means I haven’t technically “dated” since George W. Bush was president. Sometimes I feel a little nostalgic and curious about the dating lifestyle, but the other day, when I asked my boyfriend if it hurt when he fell from heaven, I realized there are a lot of things about dating that can — and should — translate to long-term relationships. Corny pick-up lines, for example. Here are a few more dating habits and rituals to keep in your relationship, no matter how long you’ve been together… Keep reading »
You probably know her best as Laurie Keller on “Cougar Town,” but we’ve been loving Busy Philipps since way back in her “Freaks and Geeks” days. She first caught our eye as the bad girl we all wished we could be, Kim Kelly. And, of course, we watched her when she popped up as Joey’s freshman roommate Audrey on “Dawson’s Creek.” Since then, Busy’s been, well, busy. She’s racked up tons of great television and film roles and somehow managed to have eek out some time to get married, become a mother and accompany her best friend Michelle Williams to every major award show. How does she do it?
Because we’re so impressed, we’ve recruited Busy as a guest advice columnist here at The Frisky. She’s ready and willing to answer all of your burning relationship, parenting, friendship, family or work questions. We also heard that she throws a mean dinner party. So even if you’re most pressing issue is which hors d’oeuvres to serve at your upcoming get together, Busy’s got that covered. But she’s down to cover the heavier issues too. Got a problem with a coworker or aren’t sure how to ask for raise? Ask Busy! Do mom or dad still manage to drive you crazy with their judgements about your life choices and you want to know how to tell them to cool it — nicely? Ask Busy! Got a friends with benefits situation that you wish could be more? Ask Busy what to do! Literally, you can Ask Busy anything, and she’ll share her nuggets of wisdom with you. Post your questions in the comments or email them to firstname.lastname@example.org and we’ll enlist Busy to give you her most honest, straightforward answers.
Omaha, Nebraska, couple Mel and Joey Schwanke have been married 65 years, and for more than half of that, they’ve been dressing alike. The pair started wearing the same clothes while on a vacation 35 years ago, and decided to make it “their thing.” They credit the success of their incredibly long union to their sartorial sensibilities. The pair have 146 custom-made outfits — Mel’s tie always matches Joey’s dress — and they can often be seen wearing their matching looks at the flower shop they own together.
“We kind of decided early in the game that he would be boss from 8 to 5, and I would be boss from 5 to 8 the next morning,” explained Joey. [Daily Mail]
Tell us: Do you and your partner dress alike? On purpose?
The third date was perfect. You laughed, you flirted, your hands grazed as you both reached for the cheesiest nacho.
Eight days later — nothing. They haven’t called or answered your text(s). You’ve been checking their Facebook profile so sadly you’re sure they were not a victim of a tragic accident en route to dropping off flowers or serenading you outside of your window with an iPod dock and the latest episode of This American Life. Keep reading »
You call yourselves “just friends,” but you know as well as everyone else does that you’re more than that. You know where he is when he’s not with you. You spend your weekends together. You travel together. You go to Ikea together. You say “we” a lot, and all of your other friends know who “we” is.
You are dating without benefits. You are serving all of the functions of life partner for each other, without, you know, any of the good stuff — romance, commitment, and sex. (Though any of these elements might sneak in and out of the relationship on occasion, usually aided by alcohol.) You are a substitute boyfriend or girlfriend, and this, my friend, could drag on for years, especially if neither of you meets someone else — someone you can call your actual boyfriend or girlfriend. This is not great news. Keep reading »
So, the other day I was talking with a dude friend of mine who’s going through a breakup. He and I dated a zillion years ago, and remained good buddies, and we often go to one another when we’re going through current relationship traumas. Breakups are universally terrible, whether you’re a girl, a dude, or something in between. But if my dude friend — and the anonymous crap dude blogger over at XOJane – are any proof, we’re given different messages about how to process our heartbreak. Take the crap dude XOJane blogger, for instance, whose friends seem to be telling him that the best way to get over his ex is to bang a zillion anonymous girls. In sum, the most ideal way to heal your heart is to treat someone else’s like crap.
We don’t really abide by that. And we think it’s about time that we help our boy friends out by offering our own tips and tricks for getting over a breakup. Remember — being a jerk begets more jerkish behavior in the world. And nobody wants that. Keep reading »
Hey Frisky readers! I’m excited to announce that The Frisky is one of the sponsors of a super fun all-day event called “Single in Stilettos” here in New York City on April 28th — and I am one of the featured sexperts! I’ll be joining my fabulous friend, Luscious Lifestyle Diva Yolanda Shoshana, as well as sex therapist Dr. Megan Fleming in an hour-long panel about getting what you want in the bedroom. But there’s a whole day’s worth of fun to enjoy, with dating experts of all sorts sharing their secrets — check out the full agenda here! I’m dying for Frisky readers to come and we’ve got $25 discount tickets (instead of $80) just for you (use discount code SPK4 at checkout). There will be a complimentary happy hour (I will be the one double-fisting!), a raffle and goody bags, plus you’ll leave with a whole bunch of new sex and dating tips. The last event sold out so hop to it! Get more info and buy tickets here!
For those of you not in the New York Area, don’t fret — I’ll be doing a post after the event about some of the fun and informative stuff I learned from my fellow panelists.
You think he’s an idiot. He thinks you’re a nut case. You insist he doesn’t understand you. He insists you’re a nut case. You get angry and maybe even cry. He shrugs his shoulders, assumes it’s a personal problem that has nothing to do with him, and chalks all it up to you being an overly emotional irrational nut case.
Sound painfully familiar? Keep reading »
When a relationship shifts into the living-together phase, it can be difficult to maintain the exciting spark that exists in the beginning. There’s a tendency to treat each other as roommates instead of romantic partners, but a few simple tweaks to your everyday routine can help to amp up the chemistry and strengthen your bond. Worried that you might get a little toocomfortable with each other? Follow these five tips to keep the flirty, sexy vibes alive:
1. Meet after work. There’s something to be said for seeing each other across a crowded restaurant — rather than, say, getting ready together in the bathroom. Read more…
Anything worthwhile in life needs regular, positive attention. This includes relationships. If you want your most important relationships to grow and thrive, you need to care for them.
At this time of year, when the weather is warming up and we’re living in an energy of newness, try a little “spring cleaning” with these four easy tips that will bring fresh energy into any relationship. Read more…