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I’m happily engaged to my boyfriend of four years. About four-and-a-half years ago, my friend Angela and I hooked up, twice. She’s strictly a lesbian, and was single at the time. Too much booze was involved both times, and it was just something that happened that had no strings attached. We remained good friends. Angela and her girlfriend Amy have been together for two years. I see Angela regularly, and Amy occasionally. I genuinely like Amy, and think that she’s a great match for my friend. But I recently learned (through a friend) that Amy is jealous, and doesn’t approve of my friendship with Angela because of our past. This upsets me because Angela and I have no romantic relationship potential or desire. I love my fiancé very much, but we have never discussed past relationships or sexual encounters as Angela and Amy obviously have. I have not yet spoken to Angela about this, and now I feel like I am keeping a secret from my fiancé. Angela is one of two girls I have asked to stand up with me at my wedding next year, and now I’m not so sure where to go from here. Should I talk to her or just try to casually bow out of this friendship? Do I tell my fiancé? – Sarah
Oh, so many secrets. Please leave a copy of your email, in code, on microfilm, up a false chimney, in a barn, in Yemen … IN CASE YOU ARE CAPTURED. Keep reading »
We pick up our phone everyday, see the same pattern of emoji-laden iMessages from the same seven people. When we head to the bar, we’re drawn to buy a drink for the same kinds of people — the pierced girl, the prep, the bookish nerd, the rustic leather jacket clad bad boy. Our types are something we’ve all accepted having, something we even laugh about. Maybe that’s not as peachy keen as we think it is.
A recently released study by Aalto University indicates that people have a tendency to communicate with the same kinds of people again and again. Through tracking mobile phone patterns, researchers concluded that we’re all just wading in the same talk bubble of the same people, the same genders, and same ages every damn day. And it’s restricting us; communicating in identical groups stymies new ideas and information from circulating. It also leads to dating déjà vu: that sinking feeling in the pit of your stomach where you recognize a current date is nearly identical to your ex and they keep talking about “It’s Always Sunny In Philadelphia” nonstop. Oh, crap. They even chew in that same obnoxious way. Keep reading »
As a self-proclaimed Wes Anderson junkie, I couldn’t wait to take a peek at the just-released trailer for his latest film, “The Grand Budapest Hotel.” In what looks to be another classic from the famed director, the romance between lobby boy Zero (Tony Revolori) and Saoirse Ronan’s Agatha is reminiscent of the young sweethearts in last year’s “Moonrise Kingdom.” Set in the ’60s on a New England island, that film follows Suzy and Sam, troubled preteens who write love letters to each other before deciding to run away together. The young star-crossed lovers at the center of the camp-themed coming-of-age film really just melt your heart.
Wes’s films always incorporate a romantic coupling, exes, or a love triangle, and the characters involved are usually full of witty advice and observations on relationships. So until we see how Zero and Agatha’s love story plays out in “The Grand Budapest Hotel,” let’s look back at the couples and ex-couples from Wes movies along with their lines on love’s redeeming, disappointing, and confusing qualities. Read more on Tres Sugar…
“It’s not you, it’s me.” How many times have you heard that? How many times have you comforted a heartbroken friend by telling them that there’s nothing wrong with them, they just happen to have picked a poor partner? How many times have you thought that for yourself?
Here’s a hard truth to learn: Sometimes it really is you. Keep reading »
Breaking up is hard to do? Um, doesn’t have to be. Our girl Gillian Jacobs — who you probably recognize from her role on “Community,” and should check out in the upcoming films “Bad Milo” and “Hot Tub Time Machine 2″ — has come up with 10 easy ways to send your significant other packing. Pick whichever method is best for your situation, and PRESTO! The dirty work is done.
1. The Sweet & Sour: Bake your break up message into a cake. The sweetness of the treat will counteract the bitterness of the bad news. They’ll be on a sugar high and probably won’t really get upset for a few hours.
2. The Undercover: Tell them you’re entering the Witness Protection Program and have to break up with them for their own safety. If you ever run into them again, do not answer to your real name and pretend to have no idea who they are — FOR THEIR OWN GOOD. Keep reading »
It can be confusing to sort out your feelings for someone, especially if you’ve been in a committed relationship with them for a long time. We make up all kinds of crazy reasons to stick together rather than break up, but just because you’ve been together a long time, that doesn’t mean it’s healthy for you. There are lots of obvious reasons to break up, but the ones on this list disguise themselves as reasons to stay together.
1. “He hasn’t done anything wrong.”/”He’s such a good person”/”He’s a great boyfriend.” In every other area of life, not doing anything wrong does not earn you an A+. It earns you a passing grade, but a passing grade is not the same as a stellar significant other. Not doing anything wrong does not equate to doing everything right. You deserve someone who is more than a C. Read more on Your Tango….
Adam Levine is my secret celebrity crush. He’s got this weird, tattooed, skeezy charm about him that somehow really works. Perhaps it’s because “This Love” is the one song I always find myself singing along to in Duane Reade, or because his delivery on the chorus of “Moves Like Jagger” sounds like “loose vagina,” or because he is the handsomest judge on “The Voice,” and he manages to make a torn T-shirt look good. Whatever it is, Adam Levine possesses an imprecise combination of playboyish and charming that makes him irresistible. You know, I bet he’d be good to sit down and have a chat with about love, right? He’s got tons of experience, and I’d love nothing more than to gaze into his eyes while he tells me like it is. Through the magic of the internet, it’s now possible! Join me on this GIF journey as Adam Levine shares his best advice on the pursuit of tail.
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Zack, Kelly, Slater, Jessie, Lisa, and yes, even Screech. Our favorite high school gang taught us countless lessons about friendships, hardships, and the most confusing of all — love.
“Saved by the Bell” isn’t just an iconic ’90s TV show; it spoke to a generation. The show dealt with real teen issues (I’m so excited, I’m so excited … I’m so scared, Zack!) and matters of the heart. From Zack and Kelly’s breakups and makeups to Slater and Jessie’s whole ‘opposites attract’ M.O., look back at all the love lessons they taught us back in ’93. You’ll be surprised how wise these kids were—Mr. Belding would be so proud! Read more on Your Tango…
There are all kinds of cliché dating “rules” that get tossed around in conversation, but are they really worth following? Thanks to books, TV shows, and movies like “He’s Just Not That Into You,” it’s easy to get caught up in the supposed dos and don’ts of communication, emotions, and timing. But before you convince yourself that there’s a template for every relationship, take a look at these common dating myths, debunked:
- Wait to respond. There’s something to be said for playing hard to get every once in a while, but that doesn’t mean you need to let hours pass before you text him back. Instead, communicate with the people you date in the same way you’d communicate with friends to avoid any unnecessary games. Read more on Tres Sugar…