Reader Morgan snapped this in the Richmond district of San Francisco.
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My guy’s birthday is 9/16 and mine is 6/23. We dated for five months when he was living in my town for work. He asked me to move with him to his town and I agreed. Shortly after moving, he became distant. After a year, he broke up with me and I moved back to my hometown. Five months later, we began to see each other on occasion and I’d spend nights. Everything was wonderful, as it was in the beginning. Last month, I saw a profile he had online, which said, “…not looking for a bulls**t partner for life.” I was devastated. I thought we were working on building a new foundation. He said he felt used and that there were things in me that he didn’t want to be around for the rest of his life. This is the first time he has said anything about our breakup. Yes, he is right, I am emotionally insecure at times, but also very loving. I miss him so much and have apologized for my mistakes. He said he was done. Do you see us getting back together? How and when should I approach him again? – Lost in Michigan
It’s time again for “Shortcuts,” wherein I answer readers’ letters in two sentences or less. Sometimes the answer to a person’s question is so obvious and the need to hear it so great, being as clear and frank as possible is simply the best way to go. Today we discuss un-ambitious significant others, jealous friends, and interpreting mixed signals. Keep reading »
I don’t care how in love you are. No matter how much naked-couple time you log, how often you finish each other’s sentences—even if you regularly eat up hours marveling at the beauty that is your unique, special snowflake of love, every relationship has its ups and downs.
Rare is the couple that can’t handle the highs. Sure, you hear about the occasional marriage that breaks up over lottery windfalls (or when the female half wins an Academy Award, ahem), but for the most part, good fortune is a breeze. It’s the rough stuff that puts your love to the test. And what could be harder to handle than the Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse?!
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I’m a single mom and I recently broke off a relationship of about a year with a guy who’s a single dad. I grew up in a step-family and could see danger ahead if we continued the relationship. Just suffice it to say that my kids are a big part of my life, but for my former SO, his kid IS his life. Here’s what I question: when I dumped him, of course, he unfriended me on Facebook. While I don’t live and die by my online presence, what bugs me (although I don’t know if it should) is that he has kept all my kids as Facebook friends. He comments on their posts, and sends them messages! I don’t stalk him online, but other than block my kids from my feeds, I keep seeing the comments. In the real world, I really don’t think ex-SOs would keep in contact with kids, but who knows? I thought maybe you could give me some perspective! — Single Mom
I have been dating my first serious boyfriend for five months now. He has always been a bit on the chubby side, but in no way overweight. At first it bothered me a little bit but I didn’t make a big deal about it, but he gained even more weight since we started dating, in part because his gym membership expired and then he was so busy he stopped going for a while. I am starting to lose my sexual attraction to him, and I almost never orgasm (which might be normal because he is my first?). He started to go to the gym again and is being careful with what he eats, but he eats out a lot and drinks a lot of beer when we go out. I have talked to him about his weight, but mostly by joking around about it. I know that his weight bothers him, and he knows that it bothers me. I love my boyfriend to death and would not trade him for Tom Brady, but this situation is really starting to affect me. I tried to subtly tell him that it affects my sexual attraction to him, but whenever I try to bring up the subject I can see that it really hurts him, and hurting him is the last thing I want to do. Our relationship is perfect in every way, except for this. What should I do? — Weight-Watcher