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Love Vandal: White Out

Reader Janessa snapped this photo down the street from her house: “It’s on the side of an industrial building. I especially like how they used the hearts to cover up the graffiti.”

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Dear Wendy: “I’ve Fallen In Love With Another Man”

I am a 28-year-old married woman, who has been with my husband for 10 years (married for two). Last year my husband confessed that he had a “hot wife” fantasy and wanted me to experiment with sexual relationships outside of our marriage. At first I was appalled because I had only had been with one partner besides him, but after months of talking about it, I became open-minded to the idea. So, this past January, I met a single man I was extremely attracted to. Needless to say, I told him that I was in an open-marriage and within a matter of weeks we were involved in a hot and heavy sexual relationship. I have been with my lover now for three months and have a huge problem: I’ve fallen in love with him. I know he is not in love with me (he is dating other women) and it hasn’t changed the fact that I love my husband. But I can’t stop thinking about or lusting for my lover, and lately have even felt a bit jealous about his other relationships. I told my husband and he believes our relationship is strong enough to handle this. I’m afraid to tell my lover for fear that he’ll end the affair, which would devastate me. I’m so confused about how to proceed; can I be in love with two men and somehow make this work? — Twice In Love

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Dear Wendy: “Is Cybersex Cheating?”

I have been married for two years and am blissfully happy. Recently I went off the Pill because it was affecting my sex drive and since then it’s been so high that I can’t seem to stop thinking about sex for more than a few minutes. I have to admit that it feels great and I am having orgasms more frequently and easily. My husband is elated by this, but unfortunately he has a job that takes him away a lot — like about three times a month for several days at a time. He’s gone right now for two more days and I have been climbing the walls with frustration; yesterday I had the day off and I masturbated for several hours, having about 15 to 20 orgasms. Then I did something bad. I went on a website and found another guy who was like me, and we have been sending each other dirty emails for a couple days. It has been just the release I need, really hot but not actually doing anything wrong. But then I stopped and wondered if that was true. On one hand I feel guilty that I am finding such pleasure and excitement through someone else, and on the other hand this is just a fantasy to keep me from losing it while my husband’s away, so what’s the harm? Is it really wrong? Should I tell him? Should I stop? I don’t know what to do! — Horny and Alone

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Love Vandal: Industrial Emotions

Reader Morgan snapped this in the Richmond district of San Francisco.

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Ask The Astrosexologist: Cancer Hopes For Future With Manipulative Virgo

My guy’s birthday is 9/16 and mine is 6/23. We dated for five months when he was living in my town for work. He asked me to move with him to his town and I agreed. Shortly after moving, he became distant. After a year, he broke up with me and I moved back to my hometown. Five months later, we began to see each other on occasion and I’d spend nights. Everything was wonderful, as it was in the beginning. Last month, I saw a profile he had online, which said, “…not looking for a bulls**t partner for life.” I was devastated. I thought we were working on building a new foundation. He said he felt used and that there were things in me that he didn’t want to be around for the rest of his life. This is the first time he has said anything about our breakup. Yes, he is right, I am emotionally insecure at times, but also very loving. I miss him so much and have apologized for my mistakes. He said he was done. Do you see us getting back together? How and when should I approach him again? – Lost in Michigan

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Dear Wendy: “My 33-Year-Old Boyfriend Still Lives At Home”

It’s time again for “Shortcuts,” wherein I answer readers’ letters in two sentences or less. Sometimes the answer to a person’s question is so obvious and the need to hear it so great, being as clear and frank as possible is simply the best way to go. Today we discuss un-ambitious significant others, jealous friends, and interpreting mixed signals. Keep reading »

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