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30-Day Breakup Guide: Day 1

To celebrate the publication of our first-ever book, The Frisky 30-Day Breakup Guide, we’re re-running the original series that inspired it, and having writer Maude Standish bravely road test the book’s expanded tasks and tips. So follow along, chart your own progress, and find out everything else you need to know to forget he-who-shall-not-be-named!

DAY 1: Change Your Cell Phone’s Wallpaper

If you were “that girl” who had her boyfriend’s pic as her phone’s wallpaper, that ends. Now. Even if you didn’t and your phone’s screen has always proudly displayed the default “dewy leaf” background, it’s time to start over. Today you’re going to find your Inspirational Photograph that will accompany you on your 30-day journey.
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Dear Wendy: The Ex Files

I have been dating my man for a year and half and we have been living together for five months now. All in all, we have a great relationship, however, I worry about his feelings towards his ex. He has all of their old emails saved on his computer and I did some snooping (I know, I know, asking for trouble) and discovered that they had a flirtatious relationship up until we had been together for three months. She texted him frequently when she was drunk; they said “I love you” to each other; and he even called her on our first Valentine’s day together as a couple. He was honest about speaking with her, but was not honest about the extent of these exchanges. Furthermore, why does he still hold onto these emails? He also has a bracelet she gave him that he swears he will never part with (even though it’s metal and scratches me sometimes when we have sex). He feels that asking him to let go of these reminders of her is unfair. She was the first person he slept with and he’s a loyal guy, so I understand that his “sentimentality” was a contributing factor in all of this. Their last contact was over a year ago, though, so should I just let it go? Or should I admit to snooping and discuss it with him? Does this sound like bad news to anyone but me?? — Suspicious

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Love Vandal: The Stages Of Romance

Reader Erin snapped this in Breckenridge, CO: “It made me a little bit sad, because it is true. I was in Breckenridge to hang out with a boy who I’ve passed through the “lover, love, loved” cycle with already, and after three years of not speaking, we are moving through these stages again. Hopefully I can hold us at stage two this time.”

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Dear Wendy: “My Boyfriend Says He’s Not In Love”

It’s time again for “Shortcuts,” wherein I answer readers’ letters in two sentences or less. Sometimes the answer to a person’s question is so obvious and the need to hear it so great, being as clear and frank as possible is simply the best way to go. Today we discuss loser boyfriends, lying about one’s age, and creepy old-man dance teachers. Keep reading »

How To Be A Good Ex

Not to put too grim a spin on it, but it’s a fact that most relationships eventually end, and most of us have been on both sides of the breakup equation. Here’s a brief guide to handling being either end—the dumper or the dumpee. Keep reading »

Dear Wendy: “My Boyfriend Won’t Let Me Sleep Over”

I’ve been seeing this really great guy for about a month. We’ve ended a few evenings at my place and fooled around until the wee hours of the morning, yet he has refused to sleep over even though I’ve explicitly invited him. He said he had a hard time sleeping next to someone because he’s a fussy sleeper, is used to his own bed, needs to listen to the radio, et cetera, so it would just be easier if he went home. But then last weekend, when we were in the same situation, only at his place, he made me take the bus home at 3 a.m. rather than let me sleep over (he did walk me to the bus stop). He said it had to do with his trust issues and that he found it very difficult to feel comfortable sleeping next to someone. I was upset and we talked about the issue a few days later, and he said that he had had bad experiences before (having a panic attack while a girlfriend stayed over once) and had fully intended to let me sleep over, but then got scared at the last minute and refused. We also agreed to give the sleepover a try next time. My question is, what do I do if he can’t handle sleeping next to me? Is it unreasonable for me to expect to be able to stay over at the end of the night? How do I put him at ease? And if I can’t, should this be a dealbreaker? — Losing Sleep

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