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30-Day Breakup Guide: Day 10

To celebrate the publication of our first-ever book, The Frisky 30-Day Breakup Guide, we’re re-running the original series that inspired it, and having writer Maude Standish bravely road test the book’s expanded tasks and tips. So follow along, chart your own progress, and find out everything else you need to know to forget he-who-shall-not-be-named!

Change Your Perspective
Find a museum in your city or town, and check to see if they have any current exhibits featuring female artists. If so, hop in your car and go — no matter how badly you want to continue watching “America’s Next Top Model” reruns and eating the rest of that bag of Bugles. Women’s perceptions of the world are distinctly different from the mainstream. Photographers Catherine Opie and Cindy Sherman have challenged the idea of traditional domesticity … Keep reading »

Dear Wendy: “My Crush Likes Me Now That I’m Thin. Should I Give Him A Chance?”

When I was in college, I was good friends with this guy Zach and this girl Lucy, whom I met in the guitar club our freshmen year. I soon grew to have a huge crush on Zach, but after months of obsessing and fantasizing about our life together, I learned that Zack and Lucy had a thing for each other, leaving me out in the cold. Now, in college, Lucy was very athletic and had an awesome body and was extremely nice, while I was chubby and overweight and just as nice. We’re now out of college and I’ve lost a ton of weight and, not gonna lie, I look really good. The thing between Zack and Lucy broke off and we’re all still good friends and have started hanging out with each other again. Out of the blue, Zach has started hitting on me and giving me the kind of romantic attention I longed for in the beginning. But, I have a sneaking suspicion that it’s mostly because of my weight loss. I’m still the same person, just in a smaller size. So, now I don’t know whether or not I should give him a chance … he broke my heart long ago, and didn’t seem interested in me when I was heavier, but part of me still absolutely adores him. — Downsized

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Dear Wendy: Have I Given You Advice In The Past?

In yesterday’s Dear Wendy column, reader ACooper commented: “I think it would be a great series if once in a while we get some feedback from the letter writers after some time has past. It would be nice to hear if people took your advice, if they are still stuck, if they are happy, etc.” I think it’s a great idea and am opening a call for anyone who has written to me in the past and had his or her letter published in the column to email me (dearwendy@thefrisky.com) with some feedback and an update. Did you hate my advice? Did you love it? Did you follow it? And because this is often a community effort, I’d also love to hear how commenters affected any decision you made in regards to the issue you wrote in about. If you could, please send a link to the column in which your letter appeared and a brief update on how you’re doing now and whether the advice you received here helped you. I’ll share your feedback with our readers, and as always, you’ll be kept anonymous. Email me at: {encode=”dearwendy@thefrisky.com” title=”dearwendy@thefrisky.com”}. Thanks! Keep reading »

This Sentiment Isn’t For Sale

Reader Ashley took this photo in north Florida, writing: “Snapped this on the way home today. Even in the middle of nowhere love still thrives!”

Have you seen graffiti that’s kind of sweet (even if it is against the law)? Send your pic to {encode=”tips@thefrisky.com” title=”tips@thefrisky.com”}. Keep reading »

30-Day Breakup Guide: Day 9

To celebrate the publication of our first-ever book, The Frisky 30-Day Breakup Guide, we’re re-running the original series that inspired it, and having writer Maude Standish bravely road test the book’s expanded tasks and tips. So follow along, chart your own progress, and find out everything else you need to know to forget he-who-shall-not-be-named!

Read A Book You Loved
Figure out where your closest public library is. Go there and get a library card if you don’t have one already. Remember wandering the stacks in grade school? Chances are you read something as a little girl that jump-started your imagination or inspired you to do something silly. Keep reading »

Dear Wendy: “I’m Not Sure If My Boyfriend Really Loves Me”

Four months ago I moved from Europe to NYC to be with my long distance boyfriend. Before then, we had been going out for about six months, sending lovey emails and Skype-ing for hours every day. About five months into the relationship I told him I loved him and he went all silent and weird and only told me that he loved me back three weeks later when I said I needed to know. Well, a few weeks after I moved he told me he “had to be honest” with me and said he didn’t think he was in love with me after all. He said he was still hurt by his ex — they were together for five years and engaged, but they broke up two years ago! So we split up for two weeks but got back together when he told me he DID love me, and that things had just been moving so fast etc. I still wasn’t sure he was in love with me and I constantly nagged him to tell me he was. He withdrew emotionally and I pulled away, which made him become very sweet and attentive again and for the past month or so has been the perfect boyfriend. My problem is: he never tells me I am the one; he rarely tells me he loves me or compliments me (outside the bedroom); and I don’t feel like he is really in love with me. I am just so incredibly worried that he’s only with me because I’m really good on paper. By now I am not even sure now if I love him. I feel amazing when I’m with him, but when I’m alone I’m just obsessed about this in-love business and I don’t trust my instincts or feelings about anything anymore. I am in a really horrible downward spiral, in a brand new city with a job I love, but very few friends and no family. I feel very lonely and like I’ve totally lost my grip on the situation. I no longer feel like the strong, independent, beautiful woman I know I once was and I am not sure if it’s something in me or something in my relationship. — Losing It

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