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Dear Wendy: “My Boyfriend Doesn’t Brush His Teeth”

I have been with my boyfriend for almost a year now, and although we are both stubborn, there aren’t many things we haven’t been able to communicate with one another. The one problem I’ve run into is an aspect of my boyfriend’s hygiene. He hardly ever brushes/takes care of his teeth. This isn’t something I would ever end the relationship over, but I have a few issues with it. First off, I don’t know how to even begin to discuss it without sounding like his mother. Every time I have brought it up, he has explicitly told me that it is extremely damaging to his self-esteem. I’m not one who is overly concerned with the “appearance,” but he has had serious problems with his teeth already, and the fact that he gets defensive about it hurts me. I’m not expecting him to do this for me, but I know if he doesn’t do something about it it will get really bad for him down the line, and it is very hard for me to just sit back and watch. Is this something I should just let his mom nag him over, and I should remain silent? Or is there a better way to approach it without hurting his feelings (although I don’t even know that’s possible)? — Orally Fixated

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30-Day Breakup Guide: Day 15

To celebrate the publication of our first-ever book, The Frisky 30-Day Breakup Guide, we’re re-running the original series that inspired it, and having writer Maude Standish bravely road test the book’s expanded tasks and tips. So follow along, chart your own progress, and find out everything else you need to know to forget he-who-shall-not-be-named!

Plan A Lady Party
Check your calendar and pick a date three weeks to a month from now, because you’re in no shape to do large-scale entertaining. Yet. What you can do, though, is plan a small party on that day for a few female friends. Keep reading »

Dear Wendy: “I Have Inverted Nipples”

I recently began to rekindle a romance with a guy I dated for a short time and have kept in touch with on and off for a few years. When we first met, we clicked immediately. Unfortunately, he moved for work, and we haven’t lived in the same place for that last two years. Since we started talking again, things seemed to be as great as I remembered until our conversation last night. We were talking about past relationships and romantic experiences, and he mentioned that a girl he slept with once had inverted nipples and it really freaked him out. Just my luck — my nips, too, occasionally point inward (when they aren’t cold or being sexually stimulated). Guys never seemed to have a problem with them before now (because having access to boobs is pretty darn amazing), so I had stopped worrying about how they look. But the more he said he was freaked out by them, the more I started feeling like a freak. I tell myself that I can find a way to bring it up without being too awkward. I also think, however, that I can’t change his preferences. I worry that I’ll always be less desirable to him because of something as small as nipples. What should I do? — Inverted

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10 Reasons Not To Get Back Together With An Ex

Getting back together with an ex: haven’t we all considered it at one point or another? It would be so easy to slip right back into that comfortable routine, picking up where you left off. Or not. Here are 10 very, very, very good reasons not to go back for round two at the ex-boyfriend buffet. Keep reading »

Dear Wendy Updates: “Worried After Suicide” Responds

Thanks to reader ACooper’s suggestion, we now have a new feature called “Dear Wendy Updates,” in which people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing today. After the jump, we hear from “Worried,” a high school student whose boyfriend’s mother had just committed suicide when she wrote to me for advice. While the subject was tragic, this was one of my most gratifying “Dear Wendy” experiences because of the way the community here rallied and showed its support for “Worried.” One reader who had once been in a similar situation even asked me to pass along her email to “Worried,” which I did and she was then able to provide further advice and support. “Worried” has been on my mind since I first heard from her, so I was really happy to learn she and her boyfriend are doing OK. Check out her update after the jump. Keep reading »

Dear Wendy: “I Have To Choose Between Grad School And My Boyfriend”

I am 21 and just got accepted to grad school studying architecture after being placed on the wait-list. I have been with my boyfriend for a year and although he is supportive in me becoming an architect, he told me that if I was going to go to grad school in the fall he thinks that maybe we should go our separate ways. We both just finished our undergrad degrees and he wants to work and live together and earn some money and he thinks that me going to school will keep us in this money rut that we have been in for the last year. I do agree that our financial stability is lacking to say the least, but my goal was always to go straight to grad school after undergrad. He thinks that me choosing to go to school is abandoning our original plan of working on our finances and he fears that I will turn into one of those people who chooses their profession over their relationship. But I just can’t make the choice between him and my profession because both are equally important to me. I think that if I abandoned either of them I would always think about what could have been. How do I know what’s right? — Aspiring Architect

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