Laura Sessions Stepp, a Washington Post reporter, pissed off a whole lot of people a few years ago when she published a book about why hooking up is bad for women, called Unhooked: How Young Women Pursue Sex, Delay Love and Lose At Both.
Now the National Campaign to Prevent Teen and Unplanned Pregnancy have asked the controversial writer to host a podcast on their new site aimed at 20-somethings and sexuality, SexReally, which promises to educate women on sex and relationships, especially how to “steer clear of unplanned pregnancy.” Somewhat predictably, Stepp’s first podcast is chock-full of both outdated ideas about “what women want”—not to mention baseball metaphors all about how it’s a bad idea to “make a home run” with someone who isn’t your boyfriend! Keep reading »
Yesterday, NPR show “Morning Edition” explored a new a cultural phenomenon you may have heard of called “the hookup.” The hookup, the program explains to anyone living under a rock, is a social trend, born of the sexual revolution of the ’60s and ’70s, women’s growing independence, and online social networking. It started among high school and college students but is now popular with recent grads who have entered the workaday world. “Young people from high school on are so preoccupied with friends, getting an education and establishing themselves, they don’t make time for relationships,” so instead of concerning themselves with finding a mate, they’re far more interested in no-strings-attached sex. Naturally, people are having a field day arguing the potential benefits and detriments of hooking up. Keep reading »
Last week, I rounded up some GPS cell phone applications that would help you to get laid, and here’s another! HereIAm sends emails with your exact location out on command to all your FWB’s, booty calls, boyfriends, etc. The treasure hunter hunks can track you down with the Google Maps-enabled app. Sit back, relax, and message, “First one to the X wins the booty!” [iPhoneFreak] Keep reading »
GPS may prevent married couples from fighting over directions, but it’s also been helping single people mingle. A few new applications have been sticking the P right in GPS! While these programs might not be designed to help you locate your next sexy time, that certainly hasn’t stopped creative users from hitting it up for a hot spot. Here are three free iPhone and/or Blackberry apps that can sponsor your even freer love…
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Valentine’s Day sucks for single people. Yeah, that’s what your disgustingly cute couple friends think, but they’ve got their heads too far up each others’ butts that night to look around and see how many people are out, single and ready to mingle! Unless you’re a sappy saint, getting laid on V-Day is like buying candy from the drug store. You can get whatever you like cheap and easy! So miss, don’t get sour, go out and eat someone sweet. Here’s how to really feel screwed on the Hallmark holiday…. Keep reading »
When we heard our friends at AskMen.com wrote a book on how to get women from the bar to the bedroom, we were convinced the “tips” were going to be wild ways to get a lady drunk. However, we found “The 11 Rules For Picking Up And Pleasuring Women” to be, well, kind of sweet. From “Express Yourself” to “Keep Her Satisfied,” the tips seemed more focused on connecting and mutual satisfaction than just an ego-fueled crotch conquest. Go figure! They should consider changing their name to AskGentlemen.com. Anyway, while those goals are inspirationally high falutin’, here are some quick, tangible, girl-approved ways a man can up his chances of wooing us from the bar to the bedroom.
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As I wrote yesterday, if you have any desire to possibly, maybe having something deeper than bed rockin’ nookie with a dude, you shouldn’t sleep with him on the first date. I came to this conclusion after many years of experience, chatting with friends (men and women), and having a late night, New Year’s champagne-infused to heart-to-heart with a friend’s husband. But I didn’t think it was fair to use him as my sole source, so I decided to pester the guys on my IM about their experience and impressions of first date sex and whether they could see developing a relationship with a lady they banged on the first date. Keep reading »
I’m going to make a general statement here that’s probably going to get me flamed. If you have any interest in something more than sexual with a guy, do not have sex with him on the first date. While I’m usually against such “dating rules,” there are some logical conclusions I’ve come to after observing men and women, hearing war stories from friends, and listening to the advice of male friends whom I respect. With obvious exceptions (yes, I’m sure you do know someone who slept with her husband of 60 years on the first date), the chance of having a long-term relationship with someone goes down, way down, if you bone on the first date. Keep reading »
To make a long story short, my breakup is officially official. It became sort of official a few months ago when I decided to call it a breakup rather than a “break” or a “separation,” but it didn’t become officially official until my ex told me, a week ago, that he was no longer in love with me. Until that point, I was definitely holding out hope for a potential reconciliation — after all, the “break” was supposed to be time for him to explore and deal with his issues — but when someone tells you that they don’t love you anymore, well, whether you believe them or not, and whether you think they need serious help, you kind of just need to accept it and move on. So I did. And it cost me $527. But it was worth it. Keep reading »