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8 Rules For Kissing Off Your One-Night Stand

It’s hard to willingly endorse the one-night stand because it either goes one way or another: a one-nighter can be blissful, but it can also be a cringe-inducing horror. While a lot of things can go wrong with your quickie, most of the problems will occur during the aftermath—the morning after, and maybe even the few days after that. Here, some things that you just. shouldn’t. ever. do. Keep reading »

Dear Wendy Updates: “No Longer Booty Called” Responds

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing today. After the jump, we hear from “No Longer Booty Called,” whose booty call of nine months suddenly stopped contacting her. “I’m not upset that it ended, but I feel as if I have a right to know why things just came to a halt,” she wrote. We all told her what happened: that he found someone else and moved on. But did she ever find out the details from the guy himself? Keep reading »

Dear Wendy: “Should I Ask My Booty Call Why He Disappeared?”

I had a booty call/fling/whatever you want to call it with this guy for about nine months. We had both just gotten out of long term relationships so we knew neither of us was looking for anything serious. Besides, the sexual chemistry was fantastic! We weren’t just booty calls, though; we hung out, went and saw movies, went to bars together and essentially enjoyed each other’s company. About a week ago communication between the two of us just stopped. I didn’t think much of it, considering the fact that it had to end at some point (as all booty friends do) but I was wondering if it would be out of line for me to approach him about the end of our “relationship.” I’m not upset that it ended, but I feel as if I have a right to know why things just came to a halt. I was curious as to how you would approach a situation like this, or if you even would. — No Longer Booty Called

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Our Crazy College Hookup Tales

While we may not miss early morning classes, soul-less buffet-filled dining halls and Cup ‘O Noodle dinners, crazy roommates, or being piss poor, there are plenty of things we Frisky chicks miss about college. Freedom from the “real world” might just top that list. But coming in at a close second? Just how sexually liberating it was. Ah yeah, all those raging hormones, that freedom from the ‘rents, parties and flexible schedules equals time to explore sexually. That’s not to say our college years were like a big, happy, free-wheeling orgy (we were serious students, thank you very much). But from gettin’ it on in the common area to gettin’ in on with a group of coeds, this back-to-school time of year has us reminiscing about our wild ‘n’ crazy college sexcapades. We divulge all some of these tales, after the jump. Keep reading »

Wanderlust: How To Hook Up In A Hostel

It would be hard to find a more fitting pair than that of sex and travel. Here, one adventurer, who has kissed an uncounted number of men who don’t share her zip code, shares her experience combining the two through more than 30 countries for our “End of Summer Escapes” series.

Obviously, the word “summer” goes perfectly with the word “fling,” but trying to combine the two during your stay at a 12-bed hostel while you’re visiting some over-priced European country can be tricky, though it’s not impossible. I love to stay in hostels even in a booming economy because they’re the best place to meet other travelers – unless you encounter a 56-year-old who creeps all the other guests out — and learning the hostel hookup ropes is key to the hostel experience. So what do you do once you’re ready to swap spit with the man of your dreams and he happens to be staying at the same 20-Euro-per-night place as you for the next few days? (NOTE: For our purposes, “hookup” is used in a PG or PG-13 manner, unless you really like performing for an audience.) Keep reading »

Dear Wendy: “Is My FWB In Denial About Our Relationship?”

I’ve had a “friends with benefits” situation with a male friend of mine for the last few months. I recently told him that I had feelings for him, but that I was in no way interested in acting on those feelings, as I know that he is not wanting a “gf/bf relationship” right now. After I told him this, he told me he needed some time to think things through. A few weeks later, he invited me out for a few drinks, and then back to his place for the benefits part of our relationship. We went out for a middle of the night snack, and he did all of the classic “boyfriend” posturing — opening doors, hand brushing, turned toward me, looking at me during conversations, etc. After that, he has been contacting me almost daily, first for benefits and then for cuddles and talking. Last week, he invited me out for karaoke at a local bar where he introduced me to people (as his friend), but spent the whole night with his arm around me. At one point, he even kissed me after I performed. But he still insists that this is a FwB relationship, and nothing more. Oh, and he isn’t seeing any other women in any sort of capacity. He is in denial over our relationship, or am I just way too into him? — Just a Friend with Benefits

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Can Casual Hookups Really Lead To Love?

A new study from the University of Iowa found that casual hookups are a perfectly acceptable way of stumbling into a happy relationship. Couples who became sexually involved as friends or acquaintances reported being just as happy in their relationships as people who waited until things were more serious to make the beast with two backs. But (of course there’s a “but”) this was true only if both people were open to having a serious relationship. Ooooh, I get it. Both people have to want to have a relationship for a relationship to happen. What a revelation. Yeah, I conducted this study myself throughout my 20s and discovered exactly the same thing. Sorry to bother you — go back to whatever it was you were doing, you sexy single. [Salon] Keep reading »

Wanderlust: Why It’s Easier To Meet Men On Vacation

It would be hard to find a more fitting pair than that of sex and travel. Here, one adventurer, who has kissed an uncounted number of men who don’t share her zip code, shares her experience combining the two through more than 30 countries for our “End of Summer Escapes” series.

There have been many times

I’m not suggesting you stick your tongue into the mouth of the first guy you meet; I’m merely suggesting you use your trip to really chill out.

But the minute we book a trip, hop on flight, and relocate our gabfest to, say, a weekend in Miami, everything changes. The halter dresses come out along with the wavy non-blow-dried hair. The anxiety over feeling stuck in a cubicle fades, and we’re actually smiling for no reason. We’re not hunched over, balancing our winter coats on our laps. Instead we’re approachable, and the guys actually start approaching. Sometimes we meet one guy, sometimes a group, but it’s almost a guarantee. The only thing that’s the same as those chilly bar nights back home are the martinis. Actually, I’m lying about that — two months ago, I decided vodka tonics are my drink of choice since there’s less spillage while wearing heels.

So, why is it easier to meet guys when traveling? Well, for one, “where are you from?” is actually a non-cheesy pickup line that works perfectly on vacation. Right away, it’s easy to see whether you click or not (like, if he’s there on a hunting expedition). If not, there will be another guy coming your way. As a side note, I do not look like a supermodel, nor do I have bronze lean legs or long blond hair. I would call myself a 6.5. But still, even as a woman who thinks she’s just slightly above average on that stupid one-to-10 scale, my newfound willingness to have fun intrigues men. Plus, vacationing males are also out of their element, creating a ballsier atmosphere on both sides. Speaking of ballsy, while away from home I also learn to do the talking — especially when it comes to asking the guy next to me for the time (which is usually irrelevant), or even an “I’m drunk” cigarette. And very soon, sitting at the bar turns into dancing near the bar (sometimes on the bar), which turns into a crawl to the “trendier” bar next door. If it goes well, brunch the next day is always an option. (There’s sometimes more action involving hot tubs, but my husband wouldn’t appreciate reading the details.)

After all, it’s vacation. Where else are you going to be on a noon-to-3 a.m. schedule when your entire agenda for the day is composed of lounging, eating, and drinking? But

I’m not suggesting you stick your tongue into the mouth of the first guy you meet; I’m merely suggesting you use your trip to really chill out.

When you’re lying in the sun (wearing sunscreen, of course) on that postcard-looking beach, you can finally relax and let your guard down. And even if you don’t end up in a “serious relationship” after a few days in paradise, at least you’ll leave with a few vacation pics to show your friends at home. But please, don’t share them with the hot guy you went on a date with before you left.

How To Be A Good Hookup

Just like tasting ice cream flavors, sampling sex with a new guy is what being young and single is all about. Sure, you can have your fun, but what do you do when the sun comes up? After a night of hot humpin’, it’s time to get back to your regular bump-and-grind. Here’s how to fulfill your contract after you’ve sealed the deal.

1. Set Your Alarm: Get up and out! Unless you know for sure that you’re going to do breakfast, beat the awkward morning-after by waking up before him. Just make sure you say goodbye (see below).

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Flojuggler: For The Man Who Knows Nothing Is More Terrible Than A Woman’s Period

Men, are periods wreacking havoc on your lives? Everywhere you turn is there a woman eating a pint of Ben & Jerry’s or unwrapping a Tampax? Does this concern you? You never have to be blindsided again by leaving your man-cave only to confront the terror that is menstruation. A website called Flojuggler allows you to chart the periods of the women in your life and set alerts two days in advance of when your girlfriend, your hook-up or even your mom is on the rag. Presumably you want to do this so you can disregard any irrational things that come out of her mouth while she is possessed by the hormone demons. Keep reading »

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