This piece is part of The Frisky’s How To Deal Week, in which we’re tackling mental health issues.
As an oldest child/perfectionist/control freak/Taurus, asking for help is one of my least favorite things. Whether I’m doing a crossword puzzle or weathering an emotional storm, I’ll handle it on my own, thankyouverymuch. Over the past year, though, I’ve been dealing with some pretty intense life changes and found myself in the position where I literally couldn’t get through it alone. I was drowning, and I had no choice but to reach out and grab the outstretched hands of my amazing friends, who pulled me to shore and gently guided me toward the office of a therapist, where I swallowed my pride and said, “You know what? I’m not doing so well.” In the process, I learned how important it is to be able to ask for help, especially when you’re feeling lost, overwhelmed, or alone. Here’s why… Keep reading »
As is the case with any relationship gone south, sometimes you need to break up with your therapist. Maybe you feel ready to fly in the world on your own, or you’ve stopped connecting, or maybe she said something awful, like “You shouldn’t cry so much.” I don’t care how much she helped you unpack your mommy issues, she’s not going to be of any more assistance saying crap like that. So you know you need to dump your shrink, but how? It seems like it would be easier than breaking up with someone you’ve been sleeping with. But sometimes, because of the intimate nature of things you share with your therapist, it’s harder. You have a few options. Some shrink dumping approaches after the jump. Keep reading »
A federal appeals court ruled yesterday that Texas is now allowed to cut off funding for Planned Parenthood clinics that participate in Texas’ Women’s Health Program. Planned Parenthood performs abortions, which the state opposes, and therefore they are allowed to defund the clinics.
The program helps roughly 130,00 low-income women with health care; it aids women who would not qualify for Medicaid unless they are pregnant. The WHP has always funded Planned Parenthood clinics in the past; its mandate is not to fund “abortion-providing entities” and Planned Parenthood got around that by creating a separate legal entity to accept the funds to use for non-abortion health care. The state knew that and funded the clinics anyway. But then the state of Texas decided it was more de riguer and keeping with the times to defund Planned Parenthood over all this. It rewrote language saying WHP funding couldn’t even go to abortion-providing affiliates. Keep reading »
When a therapist hits you with a zinger, it’s the kind of thing that stays with your forever. Best case scenario: it’s sage wisdom or advice that changes your life. Worst case scenario: it’s so wildly offensive or off-the mark that you know you have to dump your shrink. After the jump, I canvased Frisky staffers and friends for their therapists’ very best and worst one-liners. Share yours in the comments! Keep reading »
Did you know that one in eight women will be diagnosed with breast cancer in her lifetime?
This astonishingly high statistic is one of the many things I learned about breast health at Planned Parenthood’s Breast Health Initiative briefing yesterday. Surrounded by some incredibly influential and inspirational women, including Planned Parenthood President Cecile Richards and actress/activist Gabrielle Union, I was informed about the lives that screenings have already saved and the ways in which Planned Parenthood is expanding their services. Keep reading »
Today in our regularly scheduled segment “Old White Male Politicians Revealing Themselves To Be Ignorant About Reproductive Rights”: Rep. Steve King (R-IA), when asked about a minor being impregnated from statutory rape or incest, told a reporter:
“Well, I just haven’t heard of that being a circumstance that’s been brought to me in any personal way and I’d be open to discussion about the matter.”
One, what is there to “discuss” when an 11-year-old is impregnated by her grandpa? And two, this is where I remind you that Rep. King, along with Rep. Akin and Republican vice presidential nominee Paul Ryan, all co-sponsored a bill to rewrite the existing federal ban on abortion funding to have an exemption only for cases of “forcible rape” or in the case of minors, “an act of incest.” Keep reading »
The word therapy conjures an image of a serious man with a steno pad taking notes while a patient reclines on a black, leather couch, talking about her childhood. I’ve been to therapy a bunch of times and never once have I reclined. One of my therapists was a tough talking Texan who threw a Kush ball with me as we spoke. Another was a completely bald little person who drank protein shakes and gave me existential philosophy CDs to listen to. Yet another liked to write possible solutions to my problems on a dry erase board.
While there are therapists who employ the whole reclining on the black, leather couch while you talk about your childhood thing, that’s only one kind of psychotherapeutic treatment available. If you’re not into that (I know I’m not!), don’t let it stop you from seeking out some support for your issues. There are many, many other approaches and types of therapy available. Depending on your personal preferences and what kind of issues you might want to tackle, you’ve got options. Many, many options. So many, that I’m only going to tell you about a few. Click on through for a very abridged breakdown of some of the most popular types of therapy available.
Amelia is still down on the floor of her bathroom with her hand mirror, trying to find that anti-pregnancy rape mechanism thingamajig [APRMT] inside that will keep her from getting pregnant if she’s raped. I keep telling her that no such body part actually exists in a woman’s body and Missouri Rep. Todd Akin is just a dumbass, but she is all, like, “No, Jessica! Our elected officials would not lie to us. I will find this thing!” Hmm. I don’t think she’ll get much editing done today.
The good news is that a lot of people have come out to say Rep. Akin’s comments were medically inaccurate — a 1996 study published in the American Journal of Obstetrics and Gynecology found that approximately 32,000 pregnancies each year are the result of rape— and that casting doubt on whether rape is “legitimate” or not is horrible. The bad news is that other people have come out to defend him. Keep reading »