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“Scott Pilgrim Vs. The World” Cuties Take Off Their Pants For GQ

Proving that women aren’t the only ones who sometimes forget to put on pants before leaving the house, the boys from “Scott Pilgrim vs. The World” — Jason Schwartzman, Michael Cera, and Chris Evans — took off their khakis (and their undies too, it seems) for “Pantsless Saturday” in GQ. Bonus! We’re getting a lot of calf eye candy as well! [GQ via Crushable] Keep reading »

David Agbodji Looks Mighty Fine In His Calvin Kleins

You ladies know I like to introduce you to my latest boyfriends. Right now, it’s model David Agbodji, and isn’t he pretty! Yes, he is. And he’s mine. He’s 23, was born in Paris (swoon!), and is the star of Calvin Klein’s fall menswear ad campaign. He likes to buy me baguettes, make me lattes, and thinks I’m the bee’s knees. Here’s to hoping we get married! I’ll invite every one of you. After the jump, check out more sexy-steamy photos of my imaginary boyfriend. Keep reading »

Old Spice Guy Lands Both Movie And TV Roles

Everyone in The Frisky office has a crush on Isaiah Mustafa, aka the Old Spice guy. And can you blame us? He is charming, handsome, hilarious, and shirtless 98 percent of the time. But while we sit here watching his steamy personalized YouTube videos and doodling his name in our notebooks, Isaiah is out working hard to spread his sexiness across the land. He’s bringing his smolder to both the big and small screen. Keep reading »

Mind Of Man: You Are Not “Single” — You Are Ronin

“Single” does not mean “Unloved.” “Single” means “I’m making myself a magical pot of pasta and re-watching season three of ‘The Wire.’ What are you bringing to my dope-ass party?”

”Those are our cosmic marching orders from the top down: Beget while the begetting is good. If the universe is such a smarty, why did it make life so fragile that it has to perpetually procreate? The same universe that filled the suffocating void of space with fire and ice also made life pretty flimsy. Did it run out of materials? Why didn’t it just make us out of diamonds and granite? If we were more durable, maybe we wouldn’t have to follow such strict rules. Thankfully, what makes us human is our adorable penchant for occasionally ignoring our biology. We eat forbidden fruit. Build towers of Babel. LOLcats serve no specific evolutionary purpose.

There’s a big difference between being alone and solitude. Recognizing this difference is the first step in wresting control of your story from the cliché script pop science says we can’t help but follow. When you’re alone, you feel lonely. Unloved. “Single.” Loneliness is just not being able to stand the person you’re stuck with your whole life. And that person is you. Loneliness covets what others have and frequently instant message. Loneliness can feel like emptiness inside, but it’s the opposite. It’s more like a cavity – a damp hole that’s full of rotted hopes, selfish prayers, and fear.

Solitude, on the other hand, is our soul’s default setting. Solitude is being alone, but not lonely. Solitude is an art; it’s projecting an avatar of yourself in the inflatable bounce house of your mind and giving that version of you a hug. It’s building a secret garden and throwing up a gigantic golden door not to keep people out, but to see if there’s anyone clever enough to pick the lock. Being “single” does not, in fact, mean you are incomplete. It means you are totally complete. “Single” is not a brand that scars Facebook and dating site profiles. “Single” does not mean “Unloved.” “Single” means “I’m making myself a magical pot of pasta and re-watching season three of ‘The Wire.’ What are you bringing to my dope-ass party?”

Men don’t fear the “single” label. We have our own issues and fears, but they are likewise illusory, socially created scarecrows, and generally deal with how every man is a falcon, a mighty falcon everyone wants to pluck! I’ll just go ahead and save that generalizing rant for another day. Men don’t mind being “single,” because we have mythologies that celebrate the whole notion of being on your own. Woman, you are not “single.” You are “Ronin.” Now, I know what the overwhelmingly female readership who frequent The Frisky are thinking, Do you mean nerd legend Frank Miller’s 1983 dystopian sci-fi comic book epic Ronin or the gritty 1998 cloak-and-dagger classic “Ronin” starring Robert De Niro? No on both points, ladies!

I am referring to the Ronin of medieval Japan. Ronin are samurai, the mighty warrior class who wield razor-sharp katana swords with fatal grace and serve at the pleasure of a feudal lord. Specifically, however, Ronin are samurai who have no master or lord, either because said lord was killed or disposed. They were free agents of badass. Granted, the most famous Ronin died avenging the murder of their master. But Ronin could also just, you know, stroll around the countryside, drinking tea and writing poetry about nature’s splendor, and hacking off the arms of bandits and nogoodniks. They are alone, and answer to no one. Ronin are serene and powerful, merciful and courageous. Ronin live that ancient Zen saying, “Que sera, sera.” A Ronin respectfully bows before kingdoms wild and civilized so that he may peacefully pass and resume strolling along the path he is forging for himself. Now, re-read that last rambling sentence and replace each “he” with a “she.” See? You’re not single. The world needs you, not the other way around. Sit and breathe. Defend the weak. Stop to salute the lotus flower. Roam the world and never feel alone. You are Ronin – you answer to no one. Your heart is your only master.

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Quotable: Eva Mendes Says Mark Wahlberg Is Hotter In His Calvins Than Kellan Lutz

“Hell yeah, I would take Mark over any young, new, hot thing! He’s amazing! What’s beautiful about Mark is he’s such an amazing actor, he has really proven himself as a talent. He’s still hot, insanely hot. GOD! He’s got the goods, the talent to back it up, it’s a full thing.”

Eva Mendes has some very kind words for Mark Wahlberg, her co-star in “The Other Guys.” Do you agree with Eva? Who’s hotter Mark or Kellan Lutz? [Hollywood Life] Keep reading »

8 Totally Mean Things Women Do To Men

The dudes over at AskMen.com came up with a list of “10 Cruel Things Women Do To Men,” including giving out fake phone numbers, withholding sex, flirting to make you jealous, etc. OK, I’ve done that last one. But as a lady, I can confess a few more sins I’ve seen my kind do to dudes. After the jump, a few more mean things women do, plus a gal’s advice on how a man can defend himself from such attacks! Keep reading »

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