Category Archives: Guys

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Frisky Rant: On Guys Who Don’t Read Books By Women

Frisky Rant: On Guys Who Don't Read Books By Women
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Guys tell us what they like/ don't like to see on a girl's book shelf. Read More »

It wasn’t long after I started using OK Cupid in late 2012 that I realized I was just looking at the same guy over and over and over. Bearded, goofy, self-effacing, liberal arts major, non-religious, burgeoning career, presents as worldly — basically, hipsters. But that’s not why I say “the same guy.”  I say “the same guy” because all of them had, unfailingly, exactly the same taste in literature: Thomas Pynchon, Jorge Luis Borges, David Foster Wallace, Don DeLillo, Jonathan Franzen, Haruki Murakami, Junot Diaz, Charles Bukowski, Cormac McCarthy, Albert Camus, and Philip Roth, with a smattering of Hemingway, Thoreau, Tolstoy, Kafka, and Vonnegut to give props to the giants.

Not once did I ever see these men list Margaret Atwood, Maya Angelou, Barbara Kingsolver, Harper Lee, Alice Walker, Toni Morrison, Flannery O’Connor, Eudora Welty, Zora Neale Hurston, Joan Didion, Annie Dillard, Bharati Mukerjee, Jamaica Kincaid, Annie Proulx, Susan Sontag, Joyce Carol Oates, or Zadie Smith.  Not even Charlotte Bronte.  Not even Mary Shelley. Keep reading »

Be My Boyfriend: Dana McGregor, Pismo Beach’s Preeminent Goats Rights Activist

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10 reasons I'm totally obsessed with goats. Read More »

Remember Dana McGregor, the magical SoCal dude who taught his goats to surf? As if his interspecies surfing lessons weren’t admirable enough, he’s now become Pismo Beach’s leading only goats rights activist. His focus switched from surfing to activism in the face of a law passed by the city council that bans goats within Pismo city limits. In January, McGregor begged the council to reconsider. “I talked about all the good things the goats are doing in the community,” he said. “They’re our mascots for surfing and stand-up paddleboard camps.” (Was that not how you were expecting that sentence to end? Me neither.) McGregor has received numerous tickets for letting his goats graze within city limits, but he’s undeterred. “I want what’s best for the city too,” he said. “I’m hoping we can work something out.”  Meanwhile, I’m wondering if McGregor and I can work something out. Like, a relationship. Because as the old saying goes, “When you find someone who shares your pathological obsession with goats, you should marry them immediately. And then go surfing with your goats to celebrate.” Dana, give me a call. [The Tribune]

The Soapbox: Let’s Not Give Feminist Frank Too Much Credit

The Soapbox: Let's Not Give Feminist Frank Too Much Credit

Maybe I’m just a sourpuss, but I’m having a really hard time appreciating the new “Feminist Frank” meme, just like I had a hard time appreciating the “Feminist Ryan Gosling” meme.  I guess it boils down to this for me: It’s a lot easier to say the right things and look like a feminist than it is to actually do the right things and be a feminist. Keep reading »

9 Photos Of Ryan Gosling Looking Hot Promoting “Lost River” At Cannes

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Here Are 6 Photos Of Ryan Gosling Walking Through An Airport (Just Because)
Hey, it's The Gos walking through an airport -- plus, his film's trailer! Read More »

Do I really need a reason to post this many photos of Ryan Gosling standing at the press call for his directorial debut, “Lost River,” at the Cannes Film Festival? Dude is like a comet, I can’t be sure when I’m going to see his gorgeous face and muscular arms again, considering he’s been off the grid for awhile now. I need to bask in these Gosling moments, because they are fleeting. I’m sure you understand and support this. Right? BTW, the cast of “Lost River” was there with him — including Christina Hendricks and Matt Smith — but Eva Mendes, his maybe-girlfriend who’s also in the movie, was nowhere to be found. WHAT DOES IT ALL MEAN?! [Photos: Getty Images]

Sigh, Jake Gyllenhaal Ditched His Beard & I’m Sad About It

Sigh, Jake Gyllenhaal Ditched His Beard & I'm Sad About It

Welp, my girl boner is officially at half-mast. Jake Gyllenhaal shaved his face. While the rest of the world rejoices in the actor’s return to the baby-faced look, I’m gonna miss his urban mountain man vibes. I swear, though, if he chopped off that glorious man bun and is hiding a short ‘do under his beanie, he’s dead to me. [Photos: Splash News]

Cosmopolitan Declares Techie Guys Are “Trending” — Here’s What I Know About Dating Them

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Well, Mark Zuckerberg, you’ve finally made it: Cosmopolitan has written an article on the pros and cons — sorry, make that bros and cons — of dating a “start-up techie.” You may not have had much success with girls at Harvard, but according to Cosmo, your type is now “trending” as “Hollywood It Girls are snatching up web entrepreneur like they’re the latest iPhone upgrade.” That’s almost as monumental your whole being-worth-$27.8 billion thing!

I don’t usually have much to relate to in Cosmo articles (just can’t get that damn squirter thing to squirt) but this topic is actually something I know a thing or two about. You see, I’ve actually dated two different guys who launched their own start-ups — Ex-Mr. Jessica was one of them and the other sold his startup and is now some muckety-muck at Facebook. I’ve a fair amount of time around startup guys (they are for the most part dudes, although not always), and yeah, despite Jezebel’s snarking, Cosmo is on to something … particularly how a lady will always be number two in a tech dude’s life because “his devotion to his startup rivals Adam Levine’s love for Victoria’s Secret models” and “he’s always working.” Keep reading »

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