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Guy Talk: How Deleting My Facebook Profile Saved My Love Life

First-Date Fears
Common first date fears you don't really need to worry about. Read More »
Making The Move
A guy talks about the making the first move on a woman. Read More »
Facebook Turn-Offs
These Facebook behaviors turn him off. Read More »

I’m known amongst my friends as a serial dater. I enjoy going on first dates. Or I used to. In the last few years, I began to feel an encroaching anxiety before every first date. There was one thing standing between me and enjoying dating. It was a monster. Every time I met a girl I liked, I would sit at my computer and open my browser. My fingers would start tapping. And I couldn’t resist. Clicking. Going through images. Info.

“Look what I have to show you,” the monster would beckon me. And it had a lot to show me.

It knew my date’s favorite books, movies, music, even quotes. It knew her interests. It showcased videos of her with friends. And worst of all it was the gatekeeper of her photos. Sometimes just a few, sometimes hundreds, thousands. So many photos of the girl I hadn’t even gone out with yet! The monster would only show her good ones, of course. The bad ones were untagged, which made me wonder what the bad ones looked like. That monster was Facebook. And it was ruining my ability to date like a normal human being. Keep reading »

Mind Of Man: Valentine’s Day Is Not So Bad

V-Day Survival Guide
For all your Valentine's Day needs. Read More »

Valentine’s Day shouldn’t be about who loves you, but whom you love. It’s the one day out of the year when you should take account of those people in your life who make you gleefully vomit little candy hearts. Being loved back isn’t nearly as important in life as boldly, recklessly, sincerely loving someone regardless of any returns on investment. Making love, not taking it, is the primary occupation of the human condition, our core programming, whether we realize it or accept it or not. All other activities and pursuits are secondary.

Instead, Valentine’s Day feels like emotional extortion. To many men, it’s an inconvenience to dread, a relationship hoop set aflame which one must deftly prance through like an expertly trained poodle. And to other men, it’s a day of opportunity. Keep reading »

Thoughts From Guys On Our IM: Do You Worry About Being A “Toxic Bachelor”?

Guys on IM: Cooking
woman cooking photo
Do guys like it when we cook for them? Read More »
Guys ON IM: Porn
How do they really feel about porn? Read More »
Bachelor 4 Life
George Clooney says marriage just isn't for him. Read More »
Wills' Bachelor Party
Prince Harry and Prince William photo
What went down at the bachelor party Harry threw. Read More »

The “toxic bachelor.” It was a term we’d never really heard of until a 33-year-old male friend, fresh off a breakup, mentioned it. “I want to settle down,” he said. “I want to start a family. Plus, I’m getting to that age where if I don’t do it soon, I’m in danger of becoming a ‘toxic bachelor.’” A toxic bachelor, he explained, is when it’s no longer cute to be single, and seems sad and desperate instead. For this particular friend, his “toxic bachelor” age was 35, and we wanted to know if other men felt any kind of desperate pull to settle down. So we asked them. Over IM.

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Nerd Girl Porn: 13 Hot Film Goths

I’m looking forward to to seeing Sean Penn’s upcoming film, “This Must Be The Place,” where he plays a rich, depressed ’80s musician married to a fire fighter. His character, Cheyenne, is loosely based on director Paul Sorrentino and Robert Smith of The Cure with a dash of Iggy Pop and David Byrne — which means he’s a goth. Yesss! Even though some might say guyliner and Doc Martins are not the most flattering on Sean, his bravery to go goth makes him hot to me. “I’m quite convinced that there will be plenty of audience reaction [to my look] that is — I’m going to use the word ‘challenged.’ But there was a choice to make, I made it,” Sean said. That’s right Sean, goth is a choice. And you wear it well. I’ll always have a soft spot for a goth man. So sensitive, so depressed, so sexy in black, so skilled at doing the pain dance. You can take the girl out of the goth club, but you can’t take the goth club out of the girl. I’ve rounded up some of the hottest goths onscreen. Keep on clicking for your daily dose of goth porn. [NY Times]

Be My Boyfriend: Guy Who Made The World’s Largest Gumball Out Of ABC Nicorette

Addiction Bingo
Play "My Strange Addiction" Bingo! Read More »
Be My Boyfriend: 15 Things
This man gets by with only 15 belongings. Read More »
Be My Boyfriend: Pizza Guy
This guy ate 362 slices of pizza. We want to eat him. Read More »
Be My Boyfriend: Hair Guy
Evan is addicted to pulling hair out of shower drains. Read More »

Look at what we got here. This fine gentleman, 50-year-old Barry Chappell, has been collecting more than 95,000 pieces of already been chewed Nicorette gum for the last six years and fashioning them into one giant gumball. He keeps this 175 pound nicotine blob in his sauna, where the gum stays moist and supple for molding. He acknowledges that his gumball has become a bit of an obsession. I almost want to encourage Barry to take up smoking again. I believe TLC’s “My Strange Addiction” might have missed a compelling cast member. [Oddity Central]

Evening Quickies: Behold, Michael Fassbender’s Naked Butt

"Shame" Trailer
Michael Fassbender photo
Watch the trailer for Michael Fassbender's new movie, "Shame." Watch »
Morning Quickies
Amy Winehouse tribute at John Paul Gaultier show
Amy Winehouse's family is upset at designer John Paul Gaultier. Read More »
Fassbender Penis
michael fassbender
Micheal Fassbender says his penis is no big deal. We beg to disagree. Read More »
Michael Fassbender commercial
  • Michael Fassbender’s been sharing his naked tush with the world since he was 25 and he filmed this commercial for the European airline SAS. You’re welcome! [Queerty]
  • Oprah is denying she is Blue Ivy Carter’s godmother. Whatever, that kid is going to get baller gifts from her anyway. [Mommyish]
  • Fran Drescher says she was visited by aliens who implanted a chip in her brain … and she doesn’t appear to be joking. [StarPulse]
  • The city of Houston may erect a monument to honor Beyoncé. Don’t get any ideas, Kanye. [Essence]
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8 Scientists We Want To Date And Why

Ever since I implored the fungus guy to be my boyfriend, I’ve been thinking about all the different types of scientists who would make excellent partners. I polled my biologist parents, my science-y friends, and the Frisky ladies to compile a list of the most desirable kinds of scientists, why we want to date them, and, alas, their potential downfalls. Check out the list, and let us know if you agree, or if we missed a particular lab coat dreamboat!

Mind Of Man: We Broke Up Because Of Her Weird Fetish

Dating Fetishes
The 12 most common things women go batty for. Read More »

The breakup was amicable, and mutual in the sense that we were both slightly relieved it was over. Before we parted ways at the bar, she confessed that it bothered her that I always wanted to watch TV after we had sex. I said nothing and just nodded.

Why wouldn’t I want to watch TV after? It was on before and during. Maybe if she had told me that annoyed her, we would have jumpstarted a conversation we had failed to have. Because conversations about where the itch is and how to scratch it are utterly and completely necessary if you’re going to have a happy hump life with someone. Maybe if she had told me that, I would have responded, “Well, then, why do you have to have the TV on when we do it?” Keep reading »

Be My Boyfriend: Beach Runner

Be My Boyfriend: 15 Things
This man gets by with only 15 belongings. Read More »
Be My Boyfriend: Cowbell
This guy got arrested for playing too much cowbell. Read More »
Be My Boyfriend: Pizza Guy
This guy ate 362 slices of pizza. We want to eat him. Read More »

So, I think I’ve discovered my new running/life partner. If he’ll have me, this may be “the one” who could make long jogs on the beach seem appealing to me. I want him to teach me everything he knows about jogging and life and love. That being said, I refuse to wear his/hers matching rainbow thongs. I hope he’s OK with that. Because that’s a dealbreaker for me. [Buzzfeed]

The Phrase Men Hate To Hear

It’s pretty obvious that men and women communicate differently—that simple fact has been the basis for many a tired sitcom or rom com plot. But the gender divide in communication is an interesting one to explore, especially in terms of relationships. Tokii investigated these differences and found some surprising results (see infographic below) that are worth paying attention to if you’d like to keep your relationship (and your sex life) intact. Yeah, we thought that might grab your attention.

“We need to talk.” We call that the “phrase that launched a thousand breakups.” It’s pretty easy to dread the conversation that follows once someone speaks those four words. Tokii’s results show that 89 percent of men assume the worst when their partner says “Let’s talk,” only 61 percent of women do the same. The takeaway? Find a new way to initiate difficult conversations. Read more …