I’m a guy who has been dating online for a year and a half with very limited success. Aside from one two-month relationship, the process has been a total failure. I’m an only child from a family that never talked about sex or dating, so it’s no surprise that romance is the only area of my life in which I’m painfully shy. In fact, most of what I’ve learned about “what women want” is from female friends who tell me about getting hit on by creepy guys. As a result, I’m overcautious about compliments and physical contact to avoid being one of those creeps. Second dates aren’t any better, and by then even I know that I’m coming off as cold. So, Wendy, how much complimenting should a guy do on a first date? How do you casually touch on a first date, or is that creepy? Do women expect a goodnight kiss after a first online date (assuming it went well), or is a friendly hug the standard until date number two? I know that I can’t read my dates’ minds, but nobody taught me the basic etiquette and I feel like I’ve been very withdrawn as a result. Heck, I’ve avoided asking girls out again because I’m so afraid of getting slapped for trying to kiss them at the end! — Walking on Eggshells
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Over at Asylum, token girl Emily explains why she’s a chubby chaser.
“We’ve seen enough ‘No Fat Chicks’ T-shirts and bumper stickers to know that men can be quite closed-minded when it comes to female body types. But are women any more forgiving of a few extra pounds? In a word: yes.”
Last week, John “Mind Of Man” DeVore warned us not to compliment a man when his is naked. Noted, buddy. But I have to say, as a woman, and a whole lot of one at that, even though you’ve already taken me home and gotten me naked, I still need to hear that you are ready for this jelly. Say something nice. Otherwise, I’ll think you’re not telling me how nice my booty is because you don’t like what you see. I swear, I’m not normally so insecure, but when I drop my dress, you need to start the sweet talkin’. Even if it’s a lie and you’re glad I turned the lights off, just tell me I’m pretty. You gotta do that, gentleman, and eight more things during sex besides get off … Keep reading »
The men’s site ModernMan.com recently compiled a funny list of “5 Romantic Gestures She’ll Hate.” Unlike a lot of articles on men’s websites that purport to understand women, I actually found this list to be totally accurate. Among the romantic gestures women will actually loathe? Homemade “coupons” good for “backrubs,” buying her items she needs (a new vacuum!) rather than wants, and jumbotron proposals. But Modern Man missed several other romantic gestures women actually despise. Here are 15 more. Keep reading »
For the dudes at Asylum, the big question involves their genitals:
Since the beginning of the Woman’s Perspective series, there is one question that Asylum’s token girl has been asked over and over again by men: Should I shave my testicles? At long last, we present the Woman’s Perspective on manscaping.
Scientists at Northumbria University report they have discovered the best moves a guy can break out on the dance floor if he wants to woo the ladies. Supposedly, when we watch a dude bust these gyrations, we ladies are drawing unconscious conclusions about his virility, health, and strength. All I see is a guy doing a half-water sprinkler. The scientists’ advice to male dancers: If you want to attract chicks, move your neck and trunk a lot. For some real amusement, watch the bad guy dancing video here. [Gawker] Keep reading »
Recently, an enterprising bro made a handy iPhone app that allows men to track their girlfriends’ and wives’ period cycles. Jon Rose, who created the whimsically titled “Code Red” app, says it tracks “all of her cycles — it works for ovulation … it works if you just want to know when she’s going to be PMS-ing, it works if you want to know if she’s extra horny.”
Nice job making tricky technology work for you, Jon, but a period-oriented iPhone app isn’t necessary! There a bunch of tell-tale signs that your woman is on the rag. After the jump, we give you some of the most obvious signs your lady is riding the crimson tide. Keep reading »
Over at Ask Men, one of their resident single gals is helping the guys “figure out” if they’re cheating since, duh, their girlfriends are probably assuming they are. She writes:
The first thought that comes to mind when someone mentions cheating is probably sex. But cheating can be much more complicated than that. When it comes to emotional cheating, or cybersex, insisting to your girlfriend or wife that you “didn’t even have sex” isn’t exactly going to polish your halo. The playing field has opened up, creating some serious gray areas. Is confiding in a woman other than your partner cheating? Or perhaps that lap dance you enjoyed last night?
Over at Ask Men, the fellas are pondering the shocking truth that sometimes women are the ones who fall out of love.
“I don’t love you anymore.” It’s one of the worst sentences a guy can hear, especially when it comes out of the blue in the midst of what you thought was a good relationship. You don’t have screaming or horrible fights. There’s no abuse of any kind. You thought things were moving along nicely and suddenly she hits you with the revelation that she’s not that into you anymore. Why would this happen? How is it possible that she falls out of love with you? Is there something you could have done to prevent it?
Yesterday, I told you all the things ladies worry about when it comes to their bodies. But I know women aren’t the only ones who struggle with their looks. ModernMan.com tried to break down what women actually think is nasty, and I’m not going to argue with busted toe nails and nose hair. But there are a few manly things that have gotten a bad rap. So, stop sweating it, dudes. We are here to set the record straight on what we women really think about the way you men look. Keep reading »