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The Soapbox: I Kept My “Maiden Name,” Deal With It

The Soapbox: I Kept My "Maiden Name," Deal With It

It started innocently enough at the mailbox.

I reached in and pulled out the usual bills, Victoria’s Secret catalogs, and fliers for the local pizza joint. Because it was the holiday season, there was also an envelope befitting a Christmas card. “Oh! [Redacted family member] sent us a card!” I said to my husband as we made our way into the house.

Then I looked at who the card was addressed to: the Bogadnovs’.

Bogdanovs is my husband’s last name. My last name is Wakeman. We were addressed both by his last name. Keep reading »

10 “You Have To See Them To Believe Them” Wedding Cakes

Last week, Kaley Cuoco got married to her boyfriend of six months. Even though they seem like a great couple, the ceremony was lovely, and she wore a hot pink dress, talk quickly focused on one thing: their crazy-awesome upside-down chandelier wedding cake that Kaley posted on Instagram. It’s a marvel of baking and engineering, isn’t it? Inspired by Kaley’s awesome wedding cake, I thought I’d round up 10 more unique wedding cakes that, for reasons good or bad or crazy, made me go, “Oh, wow!” Click through to check ‘em out…

Girl Talk: An Engagement Ring? No, Thanks!

Girl Talk: An Engagement Ring? No, Thanks!

I am a woman who is engaged to be married. But unlike lots of your friends who are busy posting photographs of their diamond engagement rings on Facebook, you wouldn’t be able to tell by looking at my left hand.

This is because I told my fiancée many times before we got engaged that I wasn’t interested in getting an engagement ring at all, diamonds or no. There are a lot of reasons I feel this way, including my particular indifference to jewelry. “Honestly, I’d rather have an iPad,” I told him.

Diamond engagement rings are a translation of a much older sexist tradition of putting a down payment on one’s bride. This is, incidentally, still legally the case. In many states a bride-to-be can still sue her fiancée for breach of contract if he breaks off the engagement, as a Georgia woman did last year. After all, it is only women who are marked with an engagement ring as taken, suggesting that the balance of power doesn’t lie with the one who wears it. Keep reading »

Nothing Says Romance Like Forcing Your Girlfriend At Knifepoint To Marry You In Vegas

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An Oregon man was arrested for kidnapping after he allegedly forced his girlfriend at knifepoint to go with him to Las Vegas and get married. Thomas Martin Pfeiffer allegedly threatened his girlfriend and their 22-month-old baby to get in a car with him so they could all drive to Vegas together. But Virginia Valdez  hopped out of the car at a truck stop, lay down in the middle of the road, and started screaming. Now that’s a bride who does not want to get married. (However, I’m not sure I completely believe the story here. It seems to me like there are much more pernicious reasons to kidnap your girlfriend and child than getting married.) [Seattle Times] [Image of Las Vegas wedding chapel via Shutterstock]

Wedding Dress Porn: 20 Options For Winter Brides

As far as we’re concerned, there are no rules when it comes to wedding dresses, but seasons can play a key roll in the type of gown a bride considers. Spring and summer brides seek lighter fabrics, like chiffon, and avoid heavy layers. And the cooler weather this time of year allows fall/winter brides to wear more structured fabrics, heavier beading, and lovely layered skirts without sweating the night away. Here are 20 wedding dress options for winter brides…

6 Bits Of Relationship Wisdom My Married Self Would Like To Tell My Single Self

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I feel pretty good about my path toward a forever-partner. I dated a lot of guys, had numerous long- and longish-term relationships and a lot of premarital sex.  I don’t believe that marriage is “the end” of your emotional or sexual growth as a woman, but I’m also glad I did everything I wanted to do as a single gal. That plan might not be right for everyone, but it was right for me. I’m happier than I’ve ever been and I have no regrets!

I knew that my husband was the right partner for me when we decided to get married. A particular joy of being newlyweds, though, is that I discover new reasons all the time.  But there’s been another happy surprise, too. Settling into each other has also been hugely clarifying for me about men I’ve dated and even loved in the past. It’s almost like having a fresh pair of eyes to look at myself and mistakes I made. Truly, being with the right guy has taught me so many things in retrospect about the wrong ones.

Here are six bits of relationship wisdom that my married self would like to tell my single self (if she would able to read the Future Frisky and learn a few things):

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