Since our wedding day four weeks ago, my husband and I have been busy writing thank you notes, breaking in our new fancy cookware, and eagerly awaiting pictures from the professional photographer we hired (we certainly had enough pictures from our guests to tide us over until then). On Wednesday evening, we found two disks in the mail from the photographer and we spent almost an hour going through the hundreds of shots she’d taken. When we were done picking out our favorites, re-living some of the best moments of the day, and both exclaiming at least several times “I don’t remember that!” (it really is true what they say about your wedding day being kind of a blur) something I didn’t expect suddenly happened. Keep reading »
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If you’re newly married, like I am, New York Magazine has a question for you. While they couldn’t care less about the “amazing D.J. who complied with your drunken friend’s repeated requests for Journey” or any other detail about your wedding day, they are interested in your wedding night. Specifically, they want to know if you got busy with your new spouse. Replies will be published (anonymously, of course) in their winter “Weddings” issue. For the record, after an intense week and a very emotionally-heightened day, I passed out fully clothed in a drunken stupor sometime between 2 and 3 a.m. on my wedding night. There were, however, several free hours between our lunch reception and the after-party at our apartment, and when someone asked how we were going to fill the time, I replied, “Consummate and decorate,” and that’s exactly what we did. [via NY Mag] Keep reading »
The two journalists who were freed from a North Korean prison and the horror of a possible 12 year sentence of hard labor (through the private diplomatic efforts of Bill Clinton), are women who have personal and private lives. Besides being known worldwide for their ordeal, both Euna Lee and Laura Ling are wives, daughters, sisters, and daughters-in-law. Euna is also a mother. While all the relationships mentioned help define us as individuals and offer their own sources of strength, today’s article addresses how a supportive marriage can be a source of strength to us in times of crisis. The husbands of both journalists certainly prove this fact true. Continue reading… Keep reading »
I’ve been married all of 11 days now and, as if on cue, the day my husband (still very much getting used to saying that!) and I tied the knot, he stopped putting the toilet seat down. I ignored it at first, but by our first weekend together as a married couple, I couldn’t stand it any longer and said something to him about it. I made a jokey comment about his sudden change in behavior — more embarrassed than pissed at being such a cliché so early in our marriage. After over three years together, surely he must realize if there’s one thing I wanted to avoid in marriage it was being a cliché, but I suppose the lesson here is that that’s a lost cause for any married couple, even those of us who think we’re so “modern.” One cliché I will be able to avoid, though, is the terrible mother-in-law/daughter-in-law relationship so many women have. My own mother-in-law passed away long before I got a chance to meet her, and while I’d love to think we would have had a wonderful relationship — if her sons are any indication, she was a terrific woman and I hope she would have approved of me — the odds, apparently, aren’t in our favor.
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By now you might have seen the video above, in which a guy simultaneously sets a Guinness World Record (for the longest whisper chain at 59 people) and proposes to his girlfriend. But when I saw it, I realized something — hey, I KNOW that guy! His name is Jake Bronstein and you may recognize him as a cast member from “Road Rules: Islands” (1997) if you are as old as I am and a devoted watcher of MTV’s crap. Since then, he’s pretty much avoided the reality TV ghetto, instead working at a variety of men’s magazines, launching his own blog, Zoomdoggle, and helping to bring our new web series, “MERRIMe.com,” to the masses. The last time I saw Jake, he told me about his girlfriend, Kristina, and said he was “gettin’ engaged soon.” Little did I realize that their engagement would become viral video fodder. Jake was nice enough to tear himself away from engagement bliss to answer a few questions about his aww-inducing proposal. Get the scoop, after the jump… Keep reading »
The Rorschach test is in the news. The entire 10 plates have been posted on Wikipedia and the controversy begins. The ten plates have been kept tightly under wraps for years. But now the copyright has expired. So it is quite natural to wonder: “Can a Rorschach test be used to determine marriage material? Can it tell us about intimacy? What about sex?” Continue reading… Keep reading »
My husband and I are married not because I said, “I do,” but because he said, “I’ll do it.”
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While many fear that America is falling out of the marriage habit, and that, these days, all is bad in love and more, new stats show otherwise. Supposedly, 86% of women marry by age forty. This says something, considering that a 20-year-old article in Newsweek declared that “a 40-year-old single woman had a better chance of being killed by a terrorist than getting married.” Ouch.
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Coming from a divorced family, I have spent my life questioning the idea of a life-long commitment. Most of the adults I know have been divorced at least once, and of the couples who are still married, most of them (along with their kids) appear miserable. And so, while I would love to find a companion whose company I will enjoy “’til death do us part,” I’ve learned from observation that this just might not be a realistic goal. And is it so horrible to think that maybe we weren’t supposed to spend our entire lives with one person? Is traditional marriage the best — or only — way?
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